I watched the first episode weeks ago and I don't remember the scene at 1:15 where Reuben asked Niall if he loved him. Did this happened in ep.01 or not?
Video from youtube: https://youtu.be/c22FM18Akto?si=jwF2GSTleSFnEkYL
T-minus 14 hours until more Half Man. What’s everyone doing to pass the time? Work will eat up ten of those hours and then I’m going to dinner with a friend wherein I plan to convince them to start watching this show.
I know my opinion might change with the next episode but so far at episode 4 I still don't like this character. There's a weird pretentious vibe I get from him and I'm not sure why he was written that way. You would think they would want him to be a very sympathetic character.
Could Iain De Caestecker have been a good fit for older Ruben?
I'm not a Richard Gadd hater at all, and he brings a distinct intensity to the role.
I'm just musing on actors who could have portrayed older Ruben and aligned more with Stuart Campbell's appearance.
In the VERY early stages but I think the show is fantastic and it’s inspired me to start a Ruben and Niall portrait. I’m merging their faces slightly and will be using some red tones where they join to symbolise the violence that runs through their relationship.
Absolutely hooked with the show so far. The characters, writing and acting are superb. Hopefully there will be more Half Man inspired creations in this sub soon!
The Reddit commentary (not all, but common) insisting that Niall and Ruben are going to hook up misses the heart of Half Man. While Niall is a closeted gay man who finds a genuine romantic partner in Alby, his thirty-year bond with Ruben is entirely platonic—and that’s what makes it so great. Folks reflexively read their obsessive closeness as a repressed romance because our culture struggles to categorize intense male intimacy without sexualizing it. By forcing an erotic lens onto this brotherhood, viewers overlook what the show is actually doing: highlighting a profound, non-romantic male devotion that exists entirely outside of sexuality.
Instead of a hidden romance, the show is giving us a raw look at how these two men fight to maintain their bond. They share an undeniable love, but because they lack a traditional framework to express it, their intimacy often gets mediated through a language of toughness and violence. Look at the episode 4 hospital scene: the deep love between them is palpable long before they ever embrace, but they have to wade through twenty minutes of verbal brutality just to clear a safe path to that tenderness. The "they're secretly in love" theories aren't just a misreading of the plot; they miss the beauty of a show that is actively honoring the weight, intensity, and legitimacy of brotherhood.
Anyone else see it like this?
EDIT: Appreciate the pushback in the comments about this being a "twisted everything" dynamic that shouldn't be flattened into binary categories. I completely agree their bond is messy, codependent, and entirely defies easy labels. But my point is that labeling a relationship as "multifaceted with romantic/sexual dimensions" has become the default internet defense mechanism whenever male characters display intense emotional vulnerability.
Characterizing their bond as an ultimate, non-erotic brotherhood isn't "flattening" them—it's actually acknowledging a dynamic that is far rarer and more complex in modern media. In a world where men are taught to keep each other at arm's length, a 30-year, obsessive, fiercely protective platonic devotion is the most intense, twisted, and radical thing about their story. Nuance doesn't have to mean "there's a hidden sexual undercurrent"; sometimes the deepest complexity lies in how two men can love each other to the point of destruction without it ever being about romance.
I have a theory that the body reveal at the end of Episode 4 isn't reality it’s just Niall writing his own 'perfect ending.' We see Niall working on his computer framing his own narrative. I think he is twisting the story to end with him killing Ruben, Niall is effectively rewriting his own trauma and Killing Ruben in his manuscript gives him the ultimate sense of power and independence that he lacked in real life. Ruben might still be alive, and what we're witnessing is just Niall’s fabricated, self-serving climax ( idk im yapping)
We learn different things about Niall and Ruben as the show progresses. Sometimes it is difficult to fit all these pieces together. Which pieces do you find hard to integrate?
For instance, that line about Niall playing Hamlet was jarring. Here was Niall, bullied in high school and timid, feeling lost as a freshman and calling his big brother and then getting bullied by him, has the confidence to play Hamlet and then later on we hear he was the director of the drama club (of whatever title the Oxford don used, can’t remember exactly). It’s hard work to fit all these pieces together and then made harder by switching actors.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the younger Niall identify to some extent. But sexually timid and has his first sexual encounter overseen by Ruben and then becomes a sex addict and exhibitionist in the car. Big switch!
Then Ruben who hardly goes to school later spouting a line like “I am your muse”! lol, he does say he has been reading but I still find that hard to believe. I guess people have time to read in prison.
Perhaps these hard switchbacks in character development are what I am being asked to integrate.
I can’t wait for the rest of the series, but this was a big fail. Yes, we all know how with all that intense screaming and fighting, one human being would’ve easily walked in within those 20 minutes. And it had an odd, dreamlike feel, but it’s deeper than that. It was lazy writing.
To have the protagonist of the story be involved in a very serious head on collision is a huge deal, but then to use that as a vehicle for him just to have a big giant fight with his nemesis/hero is absurd .
If you’re going to have your protagonist be involved into a serious accident it should really serve a much higher purpose. For example, I thought maybe he would become so injured that he would become even weaker when Ruben is around. That collision honestly needed to serve a better purpose.
Which brings us to the obvious point that their big giant argument could have simply taken place anywhere else under normal circumstances.
Unless we learn later on,,for example, that the injuries Niall sustained from that car accident become part of his character arc or the storyline, it was just pointless and lazy.
I really 'like' how she told Niall to stop keeping in touch with Ruben before entering college...when she's the one that forced Niall to live together with Ruben in a same room even after Niall told her every fuck up shit that Ruben had done prior before. Now, when they became comfortable with each other company in the most fucked up way possible, she tried to be this so called voice of reason. If and only if, she listened to Niall's 100% legit concern at the first place 🙄 Arghhhhh...lol I'm so mad 😭 I literally forget that she worked as a social worker. WTF
This is not mine but I think we need more works like that let me know what you think
This is one of the most emotionally traumatic shows I've ever seen and I can't stop watching.
It's fucked up like seriously but I also feel bad for bi the characters
>!With what we saw in episode 4 and the court case I am so incredibly confused how Niall and Albi will 1. Get back together after what Ruben did to him, decades later but Jesus why would you touch that with a ten foot pole-but 2. Have a relationship deep enough for them to get married with Albi still having the knowledge that Ruben is out there and not behind bars. My theories are as follows, and I’m curious if anyone else had ideas: (also if you somehow know spoilers from leaks or trailer information please don’t share I do really want to avoid as much of that as possible)!<
>!I wouldn’t be surprised if elements of the final one end up being true. Ruben has been the “soundtrack to all of Niall’s greatest moments”, he literally nods his approval for him to say “I do”, and somehow this is all going to culminate in Ruben dead. Ruben cannot stomach the idea of not having his fingers in any aspect of Niall’s life and has a compulsive need to exercise control over him. The biggest mind fuck that could happen in his final moments is he somehow plays a part in organizing and orchestrating this wedding (also wouldn’t shock me if Niall’s mom is involved she KNEW he was coming), and then dying knowing that he made this important day and ultimately Niall’s life all in service to him. !<
>!Either way I am dying to know what happens let me know if you all agree/disagree or generally have thoughts!!<
…for my thirst is unending.
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I remember the gasp that escaped my mouth like it was yesterday 😂
I keep thinking back to the rape and how it just felt like this misplaced, gratuitous thing… not to mention how quickly Niall embraces Ruben after he’s literally just been sexually assaulted? Idk how it serves the plot in any way for being so violent. Do we think this will come up again? You would think this man would be absolutely traumatized by such a thing…
Richard: ❤️❤️❤️🫶🫶🫶
Ruben: 😈😡🤬