The Final mention of The Grant Situation.
Hello subreddit of “mine.”
This is Isaac. I do not use Reddit, sorry.
It has been brought to my attention that some serious allegations have been circulating, and I'd like to share what the victim is comfortable with having shared about said allegations. I will also be sharing my perspective on events to clear up the misconceptions that were spread recently.
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To preface;
Grant was a decade-old friend of mine whom we collectively agreed could come down and work with us as a cameraman- Not an addition to 'The Group.' He was sent home on March 29th after an incident that culminated in the victim screaming and pounding on my door at 5 AM on March 27th. I drove her home moments after waking up. During that drive, I was told that he had thrown her belongings down the stairs prior, mocked her for trying to get me, chased her into my hallway, pinned her against my door, and grabbed her neck.
His plane ticket was purchased an hour into the drive. He was given two days to pack his shit and get out. We have not spoken since that night.
Earlier on, I had witnessed behavior that concerned me. During one of my first times meeting her in December, I watched Grant yank her by the wrist out of a conversation with me. He immediately dismissed me afterward. The next morning I had asked if she was good, comfortable here, and ultimately offered to drive her home so I could address that behavior. She declined due to an unideal circumstance unfolding back home. I made it clear that if she changed her mind, let me know. She agreed.
Later in February, she had told me the morning after another incident that her hand had been bent backward and injured during an altercation outside. I offered to drive her back home again, but was met with hesitation. At the time, she chose not to share additional details out of fear; however, I later learned the severity of the to-be-said details. I was later informed that he had also slammed her into a window in attempts to 'move her out of the way', causing what was believed to be a concussion.
To be transparent, Grant had been a long-distance chauffeur several times during this period, driving her to and from her house. She has chosen not to publicly disclose her reasoning for returning during that period.
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What prevented me from taking immediate action:
I had witnessed patterns of behavioral volatility in him. Grant had become increasingly erratic/impulsive, and unpredictable- largely fueled by alcohol. She had repeatedly made it clear that the situation was delicate, and we were both concerned about what might happen if directly confronted.
None (0) of the boys ("those guys in that house") knew any of these details until after he was gone. At the time, we were already working toward removing him for work-related reasons. In my head, that seemed like the safest outcome; Ending his stay in a way that gave him no reason to retaliate against her sounded ideal. Due to fear of what he might do if confronted, and due to her being prohibited from speaking to me privately, the priority became approaching this as carefully as possible. Unfortunately, we never got the chance to have that work-related conversation before things escalated.
After he was gone:
- I made his relative aware of what transpired.
- He was immediately terminated from anything 'Group' related thereafter, and will never return.
- We were both responsible for the 'calculated' approach out of fear of an unprecedented reaction.
I hope it's known that shit does not fly here.
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To address claims that “none of those guys in that house did anything,” alleging that this had been ongoing for months, and that “we all knew” or were fine with it: I was the only person made aware of anything prior to Grant leaving. He was painted as an extremely controlling and manipulative person behind closed doors. He had also restricted her ability to wander or speak to me alone, leaving very little room for her to fully express what was happening and very little room for me to act without jeopardizing safety.
As for the “friend” who chose to post the now-deleted content on Reddit without the victim’s permission, knowing she wanted the situation left alone, I am extremely disappointed. I understand the initiative of putting victims first, but sharing tidbits of a story without consent, spreading incorrect information, and using private photos of my house as supposed “proof” were deeply irresponsible and sad to see. It is disheartening to watch hour-old accounts “expose” a story you did not actually know.
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For the record:
- I confirmed that the deleted posts originated from the victim’s friend.
- She was completely unaware that anything was posted here until I informed her.
- Every word of this recollection of events has been approved and permitted to be shared by the victim.
- She wishes to remain uninvolved.
If proof is needed that this is Isaac, my media for the podcast will be LEGO Indiana Jones. See you Friday. ^((Sorry this is all I can think of 💔..))
With that said, this is unfortunately my first rodeo. There are things we both wish we had done differently, but when facing the unknown regarding someone's well-being, safety was prioritized above all. We both request to refrain from further discussion of the situation. She would like to heal, and I would like to bury the memory of who this person was to me.
He went out in the most pathetic way possible, even lying to my boys afterward about how it all transpired; Claiming he had no idea what was going on- half a 4loko does not give you amnesia. I am ashamed it ever became as bad as it did, and I apologize if my execution didn't meet expectations.
Thank you for understanding. I am sorry I could not fix it sooner, but I needed to ensure safety.
