r/Kenyans
Life sucks
People in my family still contact me and ask for things, but whenever my father visits, they hide their phones and pretend they have no communication with me. They have given him false information and created a divide between us, making him believe I abandoned everyone. Even when he asks about me, they claim to know nothing despite speaking to me moments earlier. Now they are teaching my younger sister to do the same. The situation has become painful and messy. I feel like involving extended family in our home contributed to the breakdown of our nuclear family, and sometimes I wish we had lived separately from relatives because our family has fallen apart.
u/Audaisy — 12 days ago
Sharpboy or the Itumbi?
Found this app inapiga rounds uko TikTok and the release time can’t be more convenient! Got me wondering, ni one of us ama ni Pararira za Itumbi? App inaitwa Tamwar playstore.
u/TezoDigital-01 — 11 days ago
The "Majuu" Obsession in Rift Valley: Genuine Opportunity or Toxic Peer Pressure?
Hey guys,
I need us to have an honest conversation about this exploding trend of sending kids abroad, especially what’s happening right now in the Rift Valley/Kalenjin land.
Lately, it feels like every single week there is a harambee in my village. We are talking fundraisers of 2 million to 4 million shillings. Families are selling prime ancestral land, taking massive loans, and draining community pockets just so their son or daughter can shift to Majuu for studies or work. It has literally become a competition—family after family, nobody wants their child to be left behind.
But I’m looking at this and starting to feel like it’s becoming a toxic cycle of societal pressure.
Don't get me wrong, I know the Kenyan job market is in the trenches right now and parents just want a better future for their kids. But it makes me wonder:
- Is our higher education system that fucked up? Are there no universities left in Kenya that can offer a proper degree or Master's, or is a local degree now viewed as an automatic ticket to poverty?
- What happens to the families left behind? If you can’t afford the 3 million for a visa and tuition, is your family just doomed? The pressure on parents who can't afford this must be driving them crazy.
- Is the return on investment (ROI) even guaranteed anymore? We’ve all heard the horror stories of people landing abroad only to end up stranded, doing undocumented odd jobs, or failing to match the lifestyle they promised back home.
Is this massive sacrifice truly the right thing to do considering how Kenya is right now, or have we let peer pressure convince us that leaving the country is the only way to survive?
I want to hear your honest opinions. If you’ve been through this, or if your family is planning one of these fundraisers, what’s the reality on the ground? Are we building futures or just funding an illusion?
u/Intelligent-Cell — 14 days ago