r/KinshipCare

Sorry, this is going to be long. As a follow up to my previous post, we passed our home inspection and my nephew is with us.
My sister is allowed to contact me to talk to him via phone call. I told her that I am keeping everything in a neutral tone. And I even showed my response to the caseworker. My sister texted me last night saying she doesn’t want my mom to see him, only my other nephew (big bro). My mom currently takes care of her older son.
I’m not sure if she can detect that or what the rules are for her. I texted the caseworker so I am waiting for her answer.
My sister blames my mom for the current situation but I don’t know all the details.
Regarding the dad, none of his side of the family would pass a back ground check. I don’t know them personally to gave an opinion their current state of sobriety or lifestyle.

My nephew was recently placed in a foster home due to an incident with my sister. We have a strained relationship due to addiction and mental health (bipolar). I have tried to help her in the past to no avail. I had to back away to protect my own health as well as be present for my son and husband. I always feel guilt that I haven’t done enough.
My husband and I agreed to be a resource for her younger son mentioned above. I have a caseworker coming next week to do a home visit and go over paperwork.
My sister was told my name by her public defender and has been calling and texting me. I am afraid to even look at the texts and or answer her calls due to jeopardizing the case with her younger son who will likely be placed in our care.
Has anyone dealt with how to handle contact with bio parents before? She can get volatile and frantic and I don’t want any of my words twisted. Which has happened in the past.

So my boyfriend and this woman has been neighbors/friends for four years they call each other sister/brother and her daughters his nieces. Recently there has been abuse in their home so they came running to us, reports made, cps involved. They are now in cps custody (mother isn’t currently in jail yet) but my boyfriend wants to take them in and we only have a 3 bedroom, his daughter and mine plus new baby on the way. We are in the process now of signing and getting fingerprints done. The mother lives right next door but is supposedly being evicted. The mother has brought family over and threatened me. I’m just not sure if this is a good idea to take them in. He seems so keen on helping them but I just see issues down the line and we both already have a lot going on. My boyfriend’s mother already helps him watch his daughter and get her to school so im just not sure what he thinks he can do to help them. I have a lot going on as well with my health and new baby. I know he wants to help and I do too it’s just not logical.