I just finished Call Me By Your Name. I dont hate the movie, love the camera work and shots, the actors and actresses and even how they all switch in-between different languages.

Its just that i dont like the fact Oliver was 20 something and was all over Elio who was 17. I think he knew that he was in the wrong for even making a relationship with an minor. I know in the movie, the age of consent was 14, but i believe that since he's an American he can still get charged with those crimes if someone knew and found out about the relationship, and that was in the back of his mind almost all the time. He even asked Elio after their first night together if he was going to tell anyone.

And i believed he manipulated Elio into that relationship, idc what anyone says, when he first touched Elio, he said it himself, he acted as if he had molested him. Elio didn't like him at first, he didnt even want to be bothered to be near him. He just so happened to go an attraction to him mostly due to his parents (his dad) to go and bond with Oliver, and the fact that the parents knew and enshrouded that toxic relationship at the and of the movie?? Ovlier knew he had an family back at home but he wanted to play with Elio feelings for the hell of it. Thats not love, thats manipulation.

I dont like Oliver, never did honestly. He knew Elio was naive, smart but naive to be around someone that his father wanted him to impress. If you dont agree with me, think of it like this: you moved next door to an family, they have an kid around you same age. They want you to make friends with said kid. You dont want to at first but after your parents make you, you start to like the kid but soon found out that they're older then you. The n they start making these werid moves and advances onto you, one thing led to another, you both acted as if you were in a relatiohship. All seemed happy and dandy until you find out that he/she had an whole boyfriend/girlfriend on the side. They never told you about, never was going to or even trying to. It was just their motive to have fun with someone they saw as an naive and easy person for an target.

idk, i maybe speaking from my past relationships experiences. I watch an Youtube vid of man talking on the moive and i agree with him 100%: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E70ygFjGW00&t=247s

EDIT: >!This is my opinion on the movie. Nothing more, nothing less. Its all about how I feel. if you dont agree to my post or anything i said in the post, you dont have to reply or read.<!

This post gotten deleted by an Mod in the r/callmebyyourname.

I watched this movie last night. Great erotic film that pays homage to Tom Of Finland in many ways it depicts men. There is a scene at a theme park and I haven't been able to find the song playing during the scene. It almost sounds like "I'm on fire" by Chromatics, but different lyrics and changed in melody. Anyone have any idea?

I've always wanted to read more about the LGBT community but never really knew where to look, good longform pieces, personal essays, investigative articles, all of it. So I made an Instagram account where I share the ones I come across that genuinely stuck with me.

If you have an article, doesn't matter how old or niche, that you think deserves more eyes, I'd love for you to share it. Drop it in the comments or slide into my DMs on Instagram and let's build something worth reading together.

Always looking to expand the list.

LINK: https://www.instagram.com/thequeerpoetrycollective/

P.S. You may know Steven Silver from 13 reasons why and this was his last known project. Not sure why he stopped acting.

🎥: Heated Rivalry

Hands down, this is my fav Scott-Kip kiss 🥺

First of all it was rather charming... Grimm and a reflection of most unconventional queer relationships among men in our community. Hell probably 3 in 10 men have experienced this shot show.

I myself just ended a situation just lk they had, except the stalking and restraining order parts. But it was that tag of war where, one person wants the intimacy, security, warmth, companionship and joy that comes with the relationship but non of the responsibility.

And like in the film the moment u wake up and want out, boom they return to the field all shinny and available keeping u long enough to patch their souls (an escape) and then they vanish.

Is Benji also to blame for their shitty situation absolutely, this bitch was out her doing Hella much, lk this man almost choked u half to death at his place of residency and u still call him at 2 am crying ur eyes out!! Babe that's too much, let him go and enroll in therapy, start a sour dough starter or something!! Love the actor but Benji no so much although he's most of us. That dick was good but not that good

Is a rant or a review. Idk but all in all these two bitches need a ton of therapy since their dynamic was tilted from the beginning and Jake held all the power.

So this is a clip from Role/Play, an otherwise forgettable film, but it really captures the essence of why I decided to do this. I hope these past 30 days have helped expose everyone to more gay musicians, writers, and directors. I didn't focus on directors quite as much as I did on the plots of the movies themselves, but I still wanted to highlight the people behind these stories whenever I could.

 

Anyway, this was a great experience for me. I actually discovered a few new pieces of media while trying to fit different themes, so I got to discover new artists, books, and films right alongside the rest of you! I really hope these past 30 days encourage some of you to seek out works by gay creators because there is so much incredible material out there. As a parting gift, here are several lists containing everything I shared this month, along with a few extras at the end.

 

Movie Watchlist

This list could have gone on forever, so I decided to stick to the 30 daily recommendations, the bonus selections, and a handful of additional films I really wanted to include but couldn't fit before the end of the month. The bonus and extra films are listed after the original 30 recommendations.

 

Booklist

Like the movie list, I included a few additional authors at the end that I wanted to cover but didn't have the opportunity to feature. I also considered adding some women and straight male authors whose works I think are worth reading, and I may still do that after posting this to highlight some of the excellent stories they've contributed as well.

 

Youtube Song Playlist

A few artists I didn't get the chance to properly introduce include Grant Knoche, Rod Gator, Matt Terry, and Hercules & Love Affair. I limited myself to one song per artist, but I encourage you to explore more of their music if you enjoy what you hear.

 

Songs by Allies Playlist

I focused primarily on songs with queer themes or elements, though I also included a few well-known anthems. I may continue expanding this playlist in the future. One song I really wanted to note was Boys in the Street by Greg Holden because I found it too late too feature it as a bonus this month. This is the kind of music I think of when I think ally.

 

Gay Short Films

I have a much larger private playlist containing all of the gay films, songs, and skits I've come across over the years, but I decided to put together this smaller playlist specifically highlighting the gay short films available on YouTube. I briefly considered filtering out the ones I enjoyed less, but ultimately decided against it. Something that didn't resonate with me might be exactly what someone else is looking for. There is a wide variety of films here spanning different genres, age groups, and topics. I still update this playlist regularly, so don't be surprised if more films are added in the future.

 

I also thought about including TV series and notable LGBTQ+ storylines in existing shows as part of this wrap-up, but I figured that might be a little too much for one post. Maybe next year.

Link to Day 30

Director: Gregg Araki        Film: The Living End      Genre: Crime Drama

I’ve been tormenting myself over what movie to pick as my final choice for a while now, particularly because I already used my favorite films and there are still so many influential and popular ones left to choose from. Ultimately, I decided to go with The Living End because it offers something a little different from another romance, and because I wanted to touch on HIV before the month was over. This film is deeply nihilistic and reflects the feelings of hopelessness and dread experienced by many during the height of the AIDS crisis. Thankfully, HIV has become far more manageable (if you have access to affordable healthcare anyway) and its transmission much easier to prevent than it once was, but these characters are living in the middle of the epidemic and have none of those advantages. As a result, they lash out: robbing, killing, and fucking until it all comes crashing down around them.

Available on: Amazon (with Strand Releasing)

Author: David Levithan     Book: Two Boys Kissing     Genre: YA Fiction

For the final book of the month, I decided to go with David Levithan’s Two Boys Kissing because of the constant bans and challenges it has faced over the years. You would think, given the level of controversy surrounding this book in school libraries, that it would be something akin to Lolita or depict graphic, inappropriate content. Well, according to its critics, a picture of two boys kissing on the cover falls into that latter category. It’s sad, but it highlights the struggles we still face simply to be treated with the same level of respect and normalcy afforded to our straight counterparts. This book has even been labeled pornographic despite its actual content being anything but. Its narrative touches on many familiar topics—coming out, gender identity, and relationships—while following two boys attempting to set the world record for the longest kiss. An additional note is that the novel is narrated by a Greek chorus of gay men from across generations who died from AIDS-related complications.

Here is the Goodreads link.

Musician: Leonard Bernstein     Song: Somewhere (There's a Place for Us)        Genre: Classical

So I have not touched on classical music yet, of which there quite a few gay composers to choose from: Berstein, Tchaikovsky, Britten… Ultimately, though, I decided to go with Bernstein. Leonard Bernstein compiled an extraordinary body of work throughout the twentieth century, but he also spoke out on social issues, including criticizing the Reagan administration’s response to the AIDS crisis. Though he was married to Felicia Montealegre, he had relationships with men throughout his life, and Montealegre herself referred to him as a homosexual in private correspondence. Exactly how Bernstein would have identified today is something only he could have answered, but after his wife's death he continued to have relationships with men until his own passing. As for the music selection today, I have decided to go with Somewhere from the West Side Story musical. I specifically picked the instrumental version so we can appreciate Bernstein's composition on its own, though the lyrical version carries a message of hope and belonging that I believe resonates with us all.

Available on: Youtube

Link to Conclusion

Link to Day 29

Director: John Butler      Film: Handsome Devil    Genre: Coming-of-Age

Handsome Devil is another coming-of-age film, this time centered around a boarding school and its rugby team. In a movie like this, you would generally expect the main character and the secondary character to become the main couple, but in actuality, Ned (the main character) is straight. Instead, we look at the journey of Conor, a closeted rugby player, from the outside. I like that the film challenges expectations by making the nerdier, more meek kid straight while the more stereotypically "bro" character is gay, reminding us why we shouldn't make assumptions like that. Throughout the film, Conor is offered different advice and perspectives on how to navigate being gay in his world, and we get to see the differing viewpoints of multiple generations and how homophobia is taught and perpetuated.

Available on: Youtube

Author:  Bill Konigsberg     Book: Out of the Pocket    Genre: YA Fiction/Romance

If you were hoping for a steamy MM romance for today's sports book, sorry to disappoint, but I've gone with something a little more heartfelt. Bill Konigsberg was a sports journalist before he started writing fiction, so he actually puts genuine emphasis on the football in this novel rather than treating it as an afterthought like so many other "sports" romances do. At any rate, the book follows a young quarterback named Bobby who shows tremendous potential to make it to the pros but is unfortunately outed by someone he thought was a friend. The novel goes on to explore the ramifications of being an outed athlete, as well as football culture and the heavy expectations placed upon young players with genuine promise.

Here is the Goodreads link.

Musician: Jake Giles     Song: Quarterback          Genre: Pop

Very much a lesser-known artist, I stumbled across Jake Giles through his song Cold Body, which I really enjoyed, and then found out he was gay. I chose Quarterback today for obvious reasons, but definitely check out Cold Body as well if you're looking for a different vibe. There are a couple of other artists in my library with a much larger audience, but I decided to highlight another smaller name today. That and I unfortunately already used a couple of artist that have written songs about sports and I don’t want to do repeats since the main focus here is exposure. However, you could also check out Football Song by Matt Fishel if you want a song by a slightly more known artist haha.

Available on: Youtube

Link to Day 30

Link to Day 28

Just finished the extended cut for Free Fall Who You Are and I'm looking forward to watching supporting and finishing their planned trilogy.

And rewatching God's Own Country, gotta say Josh really said its one of his meaningful work he's ever done and I agree, so beautiful

I suddenly recall finding a beautiful edit of theirs to Ed Sheeran’s ‘Give Me Love’ on YouTube YEARS ago and getting all obsessed with them. I ended up watching the series ENTIRELY because of these two lol 😭

YOUTUBE PUT THIS ON MY HOMEPAGE EXPECTING IT TO BE A CUTE LITTLE VIDEO AND NOW IM DEVASTATED!!! I HAVE NEVER FELT MORE BETRAYED EVERRRR!! Nevertheless the video was breathtaking BUT IT HURT ME SO BAD 💔

Can we give this show some love?

"Proud" follows Filip, a reckless young gay man who finds that an unexpected family tragedy shatters his reality.

Available in multiple languages.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt41050785