r/MumbaiDates

Honestly, I’m a little disturbed and confused by this.

What part of my posts wasn't understandable to these people? 😭

I've received quite a few random DMs like this before and usually just ignore them. But these two felt a little too much especially the one inviting me to join them for a foursome. Seeing something like that in my inbox was genuinely uncomfortable.

I've always been very clear about what I'm looking for here. My posts have been about finding a serious relationship, getting to know someone genuinely, and eventually seeing where things go. I've intentionally kept the intimacy/sexual aspect aside because that's simply not what I'm looking for with random people online.

I've never posted saying I'm interested in hookups, sexual encounters, threesomes, or anything of that sort. So receiving these messages honestly made me wonder what exactly did I say that made someone think this was an appropriate thing to approach me with?

And I know people have different preferences. I have absolutely nothing against people who are into casual encounters if that's mutually wanted and consensual. But there is a huge difference between someone expressing their preference in the right space and randomly approaching someone who has never shown interest in it.

Maybe what bothers me most is how easily some people seem to assume that because you're a woman posting about relationships on Reddit, you're automatically open to sexual attention from strangers.

I'm here because I'd like to meet someone, build an emotional connection, feel safe and respected, and hopefully find something meaningful. Not because I'm looking for random sexual experiences.

It can genuinely make you feel uncomfortable even opening your DMs when you don't know what kind of message is waiting there.

I've ignored plenty of these messages, but these felt like they crossed a line for me.

Do other women here experience this too? How do you deal with unsolicited messages like these?

Thanks for reading :)

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Kids,Today I'm going to tell you an INCREDIBLE STORY >!as we have 30 minutes until your mother's flight lands from Vienna.!<
The Story of HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER!
So 25 years ago before I was Dad I had this whole other life.
It was way back in 2026.
I was 27 and still at the very beginning of building a brand and an empire.
I was living in Mumbai and My life was GREAT.
I was going out on dates,had a handful of great friends I could count on,had recently started my spiritual journey,had grown a beard inspired by Dhurandhar,wasn't carrying a lot of responsibilities, was making decent money to sustain myself and was hitting bars and clubs having WILD WILD nights with UncleA,C,S and AuntT,P,A,M and having the best time of my life.
Until your Aunt S got engaged.
I was the happiest for her but it made me have think about what I was doing as Aunt S was taking the biggest step of her life and me I didn't even have the slightest idea who your mother was.
So ever since then I started taking finding a partner for me seriously.
And before I knew it the butterfly effect began.
Nowadays,you guys use pAIr or Bond to meet new people but back in the day the only means were Bumble,Hinge,Tinder or meeting someone at a bar.
The only problem was the women I came accidentally weren’t actually interested in building something which lasts over 50+ Years.
And due to my newly proclaimed vision of Finding THE ONE!!!!! AKA Your Mother.
I started losing interest in those apps and meeting women at bars.
So one fine day,I was on the internet looking for a PS5 to buy and I came across this website called Reddit.
For days I was just using Reddit to see where there was availability for a PS5.
Until I found a post on a subreddit where there were men and women finding their soulmates.
And i was amazed to know about it and I said to myself even I was also looking for something similar.
As You guys know how easily I get addicted to something and how much I like to talk
Reddit was the perfect combination of both.
So I easily got hooked on to it and as I had lost hopes in the other ways of finding someone It was more of a doobtey ko tinke ka sahara.
And I started to post and many people actually did love reading it.
A few cheered me and supported me and of course there were a few haters as well but they don't matter anymore.
And AS CRAZYYYY AS IT SOUNDS I MET YOUR MOTHER ON REDDIT.
It was late August,Your mother read one of my Love Paglu posts and said to herself
WAIT A MINUTE,WHO IS THIS GUY
He isn't a creep,He is funny,tall,confident,a hopeless romantic,has ambitions,has a great personality,is charming,knows what he wants,goes to the gym, has legit no requirements other than me being a nice human being,who doesn't cheat on him and is looking to build something and wants to date someone with the intention of getting married.
He doesn't care about my past or how much money I make and wants to marry someone because they are in love and doesn't treat marriage as a business transaction.
And she couldn’t resist anymore so she messages me

Heyyyy,your posts are kinda cute.
I am from Mumbai and I usually don't respond to such posts but something made me text you.
Maybe it's the efforts,maybe because I'm a delulu person too or maybe even I'm looking for someone like you.
But I'm sure I want to get to know more about you!

And that was the beginning of our love story and it was LEGEN Wait for it DARY
we started texting each other daily.
Soon we exchanged numbers and started talking for hours every day.
And one day I got the courage to ask her out.
And she said the biggest Yesssssss!
Then came THE NIGHT WE MET.
I still remember being a bit nervous on my way to pick her up.
But the second I saw her all my nervousness went away.
She was wearing a beautiful dress and she smiled at me and was looking really really reallyyyyyy pretty.
I gave her her favourite flowers and opened the door for her and we drove to her favourite restaurant.
We had amazing food,The conversation was very easy and Nothing felt pretentious.
We were both laughing,getting to know each other while genuinely enjoying each other's company.
We then went to grab desserts at Dessert Therapy and then went for a drive to Marine Drive.
We then decided to sit at marine drives for a while and sat there staring at the sea having our Iktara moment while actually playing Iktara in the background.
Then I dropped her back home and hugged her goodnight.
That night,we both felt this was something different and It wasn't like our previous dates which we went out with other people.
Then we kept going out and seeing each other then the rest is history.
We then madly fell in love,We travelled the world,I built a business,She became successful in her own career.
We Brought our First house together,had you guys and grew old together figuring things out.
And YES it was at times a long and difficult road.
But I'm glad it was long and difficult because if I had not gone through hell to get there
The lesson might not have been as CLEAR.
You see kids,right from the moment I met your mother I knew I had to love this woman as much as I can for as long as I can and I could never stop loving her!
Not even for a SECOND!
And I carried that lesson through every stupid fight we had,Every 2 AM dessert drive,Every time one of us got sick,Through all the countries we travelled together,Every time one of us was feeling low,
Every lazy Sunday afternoon,Through all the boredom and uncertainty that came our way.
And All I could do was THANK GOD!
Thank every God there is or ever was or ever will be
And THE WHOLE UNIVERSE And anyone else I could possibly thank for the night a beautiful girl saw my post and had the guts to initiate the conversation.
And that's it.
That's the story of How I Met Your Mother.
Sorry the story was a bit longer than expected but look at the bright side your mother is her
Heyyy Honey!!!💕

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