Any advice to start expressing my gender identity in a discreet/subtle way?
So I'm 31 NB, AMAB. I recently came out as non-binary. It's a long story, but I'm really struggling right now to feel valid in it. I present pretty typically masculine. Not overly so, but my actual outward appearance I'm kind of comfortable in - beard, etc.
I also do not dress up all that much. I'm pretty into athleisure on my day-to-day. That's kind of what I mix and match, and I have a lot of ballcaps and stuff. But I wear a lot of black, stretchy athletic shorts, etc.
I don't really know what I'm going for at the moment, but I'm not really trying to overly swing the pendulum in the feminine direction. I don't have a lot of interest in even, like, painting my nails or doing makeup. I'd be interested in some general help like skincare and I want to look more cute, but I'm struggling I guess finding a middle ground as an AMAB person.
I've begun to explore a very, very small amount but am still a little insecure in it. For example, I got a hat with a floral print on it. I bought a pair of sandals that are unisex, but lean slightly feminine (Gizeh Birks if it helps). And that kind of stuff has made feel so elated....sort of like a flash of color, a little more subtle, but still kind of within the lines of masculine, but teetering somewhere in the middle with openness to trying more feminine items. Like I guess one example is I really love those baggy yoga pants women wear (harem pants I think?), but I don't know if I could pull it off.
I'm just wondering, like, would there be any advise to small, subtle things I can change in my appearance that can help? I guess it's hard when I wear mostly black and mostly athletic clothing. But if I could even slightly tweak that and maybe a couple accessories, I'd feel a little better? I don't know. Again, any advice is helpful. I'm pretty insecure as a person and am just sort of taking this slowly but sadly feeling invalid along the way lol. Or even like mannerisms and behaviors to pick up or consider are also helpful. Just, idk lol.