r/Nonbinaryfashion

Hello all! As the title states, I am very new to this and need some tips, direction, and help on how to proceed.

About me: I am AMAB, recently came out as a demiboy; I'm getting back into my alt/goth/punk style as a reclamation of my past expression, but this is where I run into the big problem: I'm the wrong size/shape for a lot of stuff. I have a bit of the "dad bod" thing going, but my bone structure is the trapezoidal body shape, meaning my shoulders and chest are slightly wider than my hips. Looking at a lot of tops, I max out the "bust" size by a fair margin on a lot of them, let alone shoulders. Same thing with bottoms, my hips fit into a lot of the measurements but my waist doesn't; and a lot of clothing in general these days doesn't do well with defined thighs and calves (skinny jeans are a bane).

As far as bottoms go, I can get away with Tripp baggy pants or similar and be fine; but finding skirts and things is where my troubles are. I've found some "unisex" sizing on some things, but not a lot on the femme side of things.

If anyone has any tips on where to find clothing that would fit my situation it would be greatly appreciated.

Measurements if it helps:

• chest - 50"
• waist - 38"/30" inseam (47.5" at navel)
• neck - 18"
• shoulders - 15" (18" overland)
• hips - 42"
• thighs - 20"
• sleeve - 23"
• height - 5'7"

P.S. I've tried thrifting, but living in whitebread christian rural america makes finding anything goth a near impossibility.

Lately I've been really stuck on this idea of finding the right womens pants and jeans. I got a few good pairs of bootcut jeans that fit me well enough to wear to work, and just want to try more.

I need ideas for diffent styles and good outfits to match. I love tasteful gender bending, just being a bit more outwardly feminine, but finding ways to mix this with mens clothing. There seems to be a lot of websites talking philosophically about if it's ok for men to wear womens clothes, but not many that show actual examples of what styles to wear with what.

Just examples I've thought about:

• Best things to match with flared jeans
• most flattering legging styles
• how to best wear hip hugging pants or look better with curves
• wearing unique patterns or colors
• Shoes styles and tops that compliment everything

Thus far it seems I mostly have only discovered outfits through trial and error, I'm just surprised it's so hard to find more sources of people showing off experiments or sharing best clothing brands.

Am I looking in the wrong place?