r/PrisonTalk

My sons parole officer violated him an the grounds for the violation were not checking in within 7 days of initial release but my son had the call records and text messages to prove otherwise but was never given the opportunity to speak or show his proof as he was arested and taken back to prison and received his sentence in the prison mail system and after asking around to the other inmates this seemed standard procedure. Is this legal?

My partner of 15 years had what appears to have been a severe mental health breakdown earlier this year and ended up on remand in prison. For weeks I genuinely thought something terrible had happened to him because all contact stopped completely. I’ve only recently found out where he is as he has been in segregation and have now spoken to him on the phone.

He sounded very emotional and has asked me to visit him this Saturday. It will be my first ever prison visit and honestly I feel incredibly nervous and overwhelmed. Part of me is relieved he’s alive and sounding more like himself, but another part of me is anxious about what it’s actually going to feel like seeing him there.

A few practical questions for anyone who has done this before:

- Is there a dress code?
- Are you allowed to hug them?
- What is the process like when you arrive?
- How early do you need to get there?
- What can/can’t you bring?
- Is it awkward or emotional seeing them for the first time?

For context, he’s in forest bank in Manchester.
Would really appreciate any advice because this is all very new to me.

Hey everyone. I’m 18 years old, and there’s a possibility that because of mistakes from my past, I could end up going to prison for 2-3 years in the future. I’m currently in a 1-year relationship with my boyfriend, who is 20.
Lately I’ve been feeling completely lost about what would be best for both of us. I’m terrified of hurting him emotionally, and honestly I’m also scared that if we’re apart for years, he might end up finding someone else or cheating. I know that sounds insecure, but I’m trying to be honest about how I feel instead of pretending I’m emotionally bulletproof like half the internet does at 2 a.m.
I keep wondering:
Is it realistic to maintain a relationship at this age through something this serious?
What would you do in our situation?
How do couples survive long periods apart when they’re still young?
How do you deal with the guilt of feeling like you’re “holding someone back”?
Another thing I worry about is intimacy. My boyfriend is young, and obviously physical closeness and sex are normal needs in a relationship. If I end up in prison, that changes everything and I don’t know how people realistically handle that.
I feel kind of helpless right now and would really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who’ve been through incarceration, long-distance relationships, or something similar. Humanity invented taxes, prisons, and read receipts, then acts surprised when people become anxious wrecks. Incredible species design.

Thanks for reading.