r/STOPTHETRUMPFASH

Hi folks I was on about a month ago if you remember at all, I was on break talking about being abused at work by my line manager, the abuse has been horrific, sustained and gone on for nearly two and a half years at this point. Basically I now have GAD, panic attacks, anxiety, pre diabetes, sleep apnea and depression thanks to the person concerned, I also took six months off work, and went through a brief moment (Half a day probably) where I no longer wished to be a burden to my family. Cut to October came back, promises were made that have been broken and exposed as utter and complete lies, the abuser is now trying to sack me for want of a better phrase. I wrote all this in a post, and thanks to a lot of you for replying, got some good advice and support. I have launched a counter grievance (One allegedly needs to call it a Resolution meeting now, I’m sure that will improve my panic attacks greatly!), spoken to my overall manager, tried to avoid the bully unless it’s work related, meetings set with HR etc. Which sadly has achieved naff all! The collusion between management and the HR department concerned is quite appalling, a well oiled machine that has quite obviously been plotting my removal for several months now, the volume of work I have been given despite the conditions I have spoken of is double what I had BEFORE the breakdown, as a result I have now been accused of missing deadlines for targets that five people between them would be struggling to meet. As a further result many of the working targets are not being met, as a further result this is leading to front line equipment used by clinicians, ward staff, paramedics and GP surgeries not have equipment that can actually be covered for repairs….essentially because the department seems more interested in trying to break me than assisting the city they actually serve. Again I appreciate all the advice from the last post, but I will tolerate this nonsense no more and will be leaving the trust within the next two months. I will not have my health or life threatened by rich abusers, nor will I have my wife become a single parent because the father has had a heart attack. I will upon leaving be making a formal complaint to multiple bodies about this wretched and outrageous behaviour, and at some point in the next years I will be seeking legal advice. I will also be writing about my experiences in other formats and platforms, and frankly could not care less if I were to be breaching any laws preventing this. I would rather be sued and help someone to survive what I have, than see someone go through this like me. Most of all I am concerned for my city, in that the health of it, no matter how small that contribution, is predicated on the work we are supposed to be doing. I hope HR and the management team sleep well knowing my abuser has been wrapped in cotton wool whilst equipment needed for urgent care lies idol! Again thank you to the people in the NHS who work hard to make it some semblance of what it should be, it is shame that managers and their friends at Palantir do not practice that same work ethic.

I have worked in the NHS for just shy of twenty years, and for the most part have been proud to do so. However I am giving very serious consideration to leaving the service due to a quite appalling two year period of abuse from a line manager. I will spare you the details, nor do I do this to gain sympathy, frankly if my trust found this out, with the greatest respect I no longer care-I am mainly saying this so that no one has to suffer in the manner that I have. But basically I have never felt so betrayed, so humiliated in front of my peers, so poorly spoken to, so frightened and alone than under this person, it would not be an exaggeration to say the individual has ruined my life. I am due to return to work this week after a fortnight break (A break that I was forced into taking just to get away for my own sanity), and I am dreading this. But like a lot of you I have family who I am responsible, so I have very little choice but to carry on taking abuse. The treatment has led me to having a period of six months off work with mental health issues, diagnosed GAD, anxiety, panic attacks all of which I now take prescription medicine to try and control. I now have sleep apnea and pre diabetes, conditions made worse by the bullying culture within my department. So, to the men especially, guys if you are suffering DO NOT do what I did, mental health issues exist, I know that now. Reach out to speak to someone, anyone, husband, wife, brother, sister, a colleague, a friend, a wellbeing service anyone you can access, suffering in silence does not work. I shall miss working for the NHS but with the greatest of respect, I value my life abd my son still having a father that is still alive over my employment. Anyone else suffering harassment you aren’t alone, don’t allow anyone to intentionally destroy your life. Thank you, and thank you to the wonderful people in the NHS keeping us safe.

Hello there soon to be ex NHS colleagues! Last time I was on I got a rather nasty telling off from one or two Cambridge alumni that I didn’t attach anything of previous comments, so ta da, said previous article attached for all to see above! Anyway my adventures at a certain large trust in the north of England (Allegedly enjoy Marching, especially when they are together) are officially coming to an end as of next week, with one shiny resignation letter to be sent to Death Star HQ a week on Friday, please excuse the sarcasm but I really am at non caring stage at this juncture! So in a re cap of the attached basically I was told I was being told to go on, essentially gardening leave, after a couple years worth of abuse, one GAD diagnosis, anxiety, panic attacks, a work influenced sleep apnea disorder and several physical injuries, two of which led to feinting spells in which I very nearly smacked my head against medical equipment whilst working on my own. Anyway a six month absence, and a supporting performance later, as well as grievance against the parties concerned resulted in me being the one up for an informal, then a formal hearing which basically is more than likely to result in termination….presumably because I hadn’t incurred enough injuries and mental afflictions? 🤷‍♀️ The long and short of it folks is I will be resigning, and as mentioned before starting my own online sellers platform, something which fortunately I have been working on/preparing for for over a decade as I knew that this day was likely to come sadly. There are others out there who are not as fortunate to go into something immediately as I am however, and that is rather the point really. I no longer wish to work for the NHS, due to the fact that I have been hounded out of a role by careerists and loathsome individuals who couldn’t care less about the needs of the people in the city I live in, as opposed to their own frankly undeserved bank balances and social statuses. At this point not only would I not return to that kind of toxic environment, I have little choice but to avoid it due to wanting to retain my sanity, health and my physical wellbeing. Yes I have consulted HR, management, unions, speak up etc and I have basically been offered nothing by way of support, nor was my grievance (Apologies resolution 🙄) taken seriously in any way shape or form. It is a big decision that I have taken, but now that I am ninety five per cent out, my overriding emotion is neither fear, hatred or sadness, it is purely one of utter relief. And the fact that I am relieved to be departing an institution that, allegedly, has a set of values (Or “Ways” apparently!) that concentrate on fairness and support of staff and parents really is quite damming! Again as previously, thanks to all who offered support and advice, thanks to my team, and thanks to everyone who actually try to better the NHS in the face of toxic management up and down the country; I wish you well, but it is no longer something I wish to put myself through nor my twelve year old son, someone I want to have a dad for the next several decades, not reading a eulogy for. If anyone is going through anything similar, please PLEASE do not do what I did and try and run through brick walls, with the physical and mental health difficulties I have now been furnished with, a prescription to sertraline and propanol to control my panic attacks and my mental health, I can truly say it really is not worth your life. Good luck everyone in the NHS, and thank you for keeping us all safe. YNWA