r/ageregressors

hewwo!
one particular friend of many acts like a caregiver whenever I go nonverbal and he genuinely takes care of me in a big friend group, literally babying me when no one else cares.
I feel conflicted, because I feel special but at the same time I know that im deluding myself because he would consider my little space weird 100% plus he’s making naughty jokes which makes my little ick despite the attention
are there any subtle ways to hint at my little space without saying? should I even test the waters?
as fellow littles you probably know how lonely it can get without a caregiver but im so afraid to ruin our relationship and make a fool of myself, i really don’t know what to do ><

If they tell you any of these things they are a fake Caregiver who's only out for their own pleasure and benefit. Stay away. 🚩🚩🚩

1. They tell you to immediately call them Daddy/Mommy, Master/Mistress, Sir/ma'am, King/Queen, Dom/Domme, etc. (When you first meet/before you establish a formal relationship with them.)

2. They want to call you pet names (kitten/puppy, baby girl/boy, prince/ss, cutie pie, etc.) when they don't even know you or have a formal relationship with you.

3. They try to convince you of how attracted you are to them (more than you actually are, so they can manipulate you into being with them.)

4. They promise you the world if only you surrender to their will and do exactly as they say (They take away your ability to say "no", and object to things.)

5. They ask for nude/inappropriate pics/videos of you without knowing you, saying they want "inspect you" (They want to see if you're worth preying on, and want pics for themselves/others.)

6. They punish you severely for simple mistakes and accidents (They get off to abuse of power, control, and authority over you.)

7. They immediately conform to whatever your sexual/interests are (So they can get close to you, have their fun, but that's not what they really like, nor is that their real personality.)

8. They refuse to apologize or acknowledge their wrongdoings (Even flipping things back on you and getting you to apologize for correcting them and their bad behavior towards you.)

9. They do not allow you to have comfort items/interests as punishment (stuffed animal, blanket, hot shower, etc. as a means to make you feel vulnerable, alone, and in distress.)

10. They do not allow you to use a safe word (dangerous/deadly; Removes ability to withdraw/ consent.)

11. They do not provide aftercare after a session (Which shows they dont care about you and how you feel, only their own pleasure is important to them.)

12. They give you a list of rules you're required to follow even if you dont like them (They give you no room for objection or compromise, and even make it an ultimatum between them and their rules or you being single.)

13. They say "If you loved/cared about me you would do..." (Emotional manipulation that encourages you to act outside of your interests, safety, and health, so they can get what they want.)

14. They quickly want you to come visit them, live with them, or marry them, even if they live far and you barely know them (These people want their kindness for an open home to be paid in sex, and its easier for them to hurt you because you're away from friends and family who could help you, this is also how people get sex trafficked.)

15. They immediately bring up sex, and how you have to "please Caregiver to be a good Little" (This just shows they are in the community to prey on vulnerable Littles for their own sexual benefit.)

16. They immediately refer to themselves as your Daddy/Mommy/Caregiver without even knowing you or having a formal relationship with you (This is a power move made to already claim you as theirs.)

17. They say that sexual time is "No Limits" (having no limits is unsafe and removes healthy boundaries that keep one protected and safe, No Limits is often brought up for more extreme actions that they otherwise couldn't do.)

Personally I would throw in anyone asking for a TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship; Because it removes all your rights and ability to withdraw consent and makes you dependent on them for everything, and subjected to their will (which isn't always safe or healthy).

Slight Trigger warning; drinking

Ive been in a relationship for over a month with my boyfriend. Hes noticed quite a few times how different i can get as well the fact i have a load of toys and some teethers so he decided to do his own research and somehow came to discover age regression. I really didn't think he'd find it since no one irl has ever found out but he somehow did. I was scared of him finding out since he usually dates older guys since he prefers maturity, im the first younger guy hes dated. He knows ive definitely got a slightly childish side and was fine with it. And somehow even after learning about Agere, he seems fine with it but its eating my stomach alive.

We had a few drinks a week ago, in which we had a small discussion bc i had mentioned him hating me as i was drunk. Which i never actually said i was a little nor did he, but he asked if it was two words, began with an A and R. I dont think he quite understands what it is but im not sure how to explain it myself since i never have done before. He had mentioned wanting to be caring towards me but im absolutely terrified and im not even sure why. We've been doing slight exposure to agere. For example, when im on reddit, i usually hide this subreddit whenever we scroll together, but this time i let him have a scroll when he asked. He learnt about CGs and stuff, then asked if he'd be that for me and i had said never out of embarrassment since im a really masculine man and keeping that image of myself is really important with him to me but it did crumble lol.

Ive only been fully regressed with him once for a few hours around two days ago. We just watched stuff on his phone and drank hot chocolate since it was nearly bedtime. I did go big before we slept for some reason which never happens to me, but is probably since it was the first time around him.

We had a small convo before we slept about how it was since it was a slight suprise but he knew it was gonna happen after we went on a walk. He sort of understood how id be, but said i felt tamer than usual which i explained since ive not been around people like that, plus it was night time. He wants to come over to mine and be with me for when it next happens. Im also terrified of but i can only hope its fine.

However he did mention wanting to tell his mother, who is a really nice woman and treats me like im her own child. But i really dont want anyone else to know as its slightly embarrassing since im a man. Im not sure how to explain it to him, he said he wouldn't tell her without my permission but he does think she should know in case it ever happens when over at their house since hes finished uni moving back to our city. Hes also worried im gonna go broke buying toys i want as majority of what i have is toys.

I have no idea what to say to him or how to explain anything. Im pretty sure ive rambled but id appreciate any help or advice