r/antisocial

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I'm 22, and I feel like I've always been alone. Whenever I'm around people, everyone seems to have someone texting them, someone to talk to, someone who thinks about them. Meanwhile, my phone stays silent.

I don't really have friends, nobody texts me just to ask how I'm doing, and sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me. But I know I'm not a bad person, and I don't want to change who I am just to be accepted by others.

At this point, I've started accepting that maybe this is just my life. It's always been me, myself, and I.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I had to go to a place where I had to wait in a waiting room. I am just sitting there... Minding my own business... There were times I would look at my phone, or times where I would just be sitting there. In silence. All of the sudden, this person just started talking to me. At first I ignored it, because I so rarely leave my house, I am not used to people just talking to me. Once I realized they were talking to me, I guess I looked at this person with such a confused 'Why the hell are you talking to me' look. Not wanting to be rude and tell them to leave me alone, I got up and walked away and sat somewhere else. I did not say a word to this person. I was not rude or anything. I found a seat that was near nobody, and if looks could kill, I would not be here to make this post. How do others handle this situation? I personally don't care what they thought of me when I moved, so I am in no way looking for advice. I am just curious what others do...

**EDITING FOR CLARITY**
Guy starts talking to me
Initially ignored him because I am not used to people randomly talking to me
I look at him with a confused look
I then get up and move to another seat
HE gave ME the 'if looks could kill' look, as I said above ,"I would not be here to make this post". He stared me down after I got up and walked away.

I'm an insufferable person, and I'm looking for communities where people like me can go to make friends. People others want nothing to do with, dislike, even weirdos find weird and avoid or ignore (you get the gist) - etc, if you can point me in the right direction, thanks a lot. Completely serious, not being ironic.

I 28F have no friends irl, and only one long distance friend who resides in Germany while I am US based. Growing up I endured 10 years of increasingly severe bullying which resulted in isolation, social anxiety, and depression. It’s been a year since I have felt this, but tonight I was overcome with the most intense, soul-crushing wave of loneliness. I simply cannot stop crying.

It started when I was out to dinner tonight with my parents, and I noticed the restaurant was packed full of friend groups and married couples. Suddenly and violently, I felt my loneliness amplify until it was unbearable.

I just want a friend to hangout with. I want a friend who wants to hangout with me.

And I miss my LD best friend. Since starting a new job we have struggled to find time to truly connect in a way where we can have eachothers undivided attention, even for an hour. And I just miss him.

Hi everyone, I know the title sounds silly, but when you're trying hard, it means a lot. I am going to make it brief, and please excuse my broken English. The thing is, I (F) am in my late 30s, single, no kids. I have struggled with social interaction and anxiety since I was a kid. I always feel awkward when interacting with people and I feel they see that there's something weird in me. I really struggle to hide my anxiety and control my fear of over-sharing, that it leads to overthinking, etc.

For context, before the pandemic, I suffered a SA and shortly after I had to quit my job due to an abusive boss. Two unrelated events that led to depression, anxiety , tics. Everything got worse. I felt terrible. I was given a lot of meds to cope with all of it, so I put up a lot of weight, which worsened my self steam a lot.

It's been 4 years since all of that, and I am doing very well professionally speaking, but I struggle a lot with dating (I haven't since then), with making new friends, etc.

So, this year, I decided to join a group to work out outdoors. I loved it at the beginning. They even welcomed me into a group within the group to go out on weekends. I also liked that a lot, though they do it EVERY Saturday no matter what, and my introverted-self felt that it was a little bit too much. I started showing up anyways and I had fun! But sooner than later I noticed the conversations revolved always around dating, sex, and very personal questions that I didn't feel like answering. They are not to blame, they are divorced most of them, and these conversations might be normal in these kinds of groups, I thought. I am the one that's not okay, like always, I thought. I felt the most awkward person for not being able to keep up with these gatherings that I even stop showing up for work out sessions outdoors altogether. I felt like I failed. My tics came back as well.

Today, they removed me from the WhatsApp group. I wish I could tell them that their very personal questions triggered so much stuff in me. But I don't feel like telling them anything. They would ask, for example, how many times a week would I be intimate with my partner. I lied to them I had one, cause two of them started texting me and showing interest outside the group and I felt like it was the only way out. Then, one of the girls would joke with how many times we women have to fake when being intimate and "wait until they are done". Acting it, making faces etc. And maybe it is funny for them. But to me it was the biggest trigger I have ever felt since the SA.

So, to wrap it up, the facts are that they deleted from the group someone that stopped showing up all of a sudden. And it is okay! That's what you do I guess. I didn't even read the group anymore. But to me it's a big fail in my efforts for showing up and being a functional human being in society. I should have been able to deal with these situations differently. I am so ashamed.

Hello, I’m new to this but I am needing to make friends to have meaningful conversations with.

I am 36F, I have 3 children and have spent my last 14 years focusing on my children and now ex partner.

I have recently gone through a devastating relationship breakdown and am struggling with being alone.

I never realised how isolated I have become over time. I really struggle in social situations and don’t know how to ‘make friends’

I would love to make friends and have meaningful conversations