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Have you ever encountered a similar situation?

To provide some context, I am of mixed heritage, with predominantly East Asian features.

I am enrolled in an international class with students from all over the world. On several occasions, my white classmates called me by a name that was not mine, but by the name of another classmate who has oriental looks.

At first, after our first meeting, I thought these things were just honest mistakes. But after a year of seeing each other every day in class, and still getting it wrong, I'm starting to think there might not be enough effort put into remembering names of people who are East-asian-looking, and to be honest I feel disrespected.

This doesn't happen to classmates who are of other heritage by the way...

Some other context: everyone with east asian heritage in my class has english names.

I was with my young toddler and pregnant wife in the park, my baby is in one of the bouncy cars. Suddenly I hear from one of the playground slides a young(7-10 year old) girl speaking loudly to her brother.

“They’re Chinese. Chinese eat dogs! I don’t like them and i hate Chinese food, etc…

My wife approached and I said loudly to her , “that little girl is being racist, she says we eat dogs.” Then as I’m taking my son out of the chair I say to the little girl “that’s not very nice is it?” In a firm but gentle voice she definitely heard all of what I said was a bit scared of me.

In hindsight I wish I said more but how do you think you’d tackle it? She’s clearly used to her parents making comments like that and needs educating. Made me so angry

In April 2026 the Census Bureau released first-name-by-race tabulations for the first time. It's not granular-- all Asian-Americans, immigrant and US-born, fall into the same bucket. That's how you can have over 2K names that are 90+% Asian, yet the most common name among Asian-Americans is John.

On the female side, Jenny and Grace are the two white-majority names with the most Asian-American bearers, while Hong is the most common Asian-majority female name. Lots and lots of stats here if that's your thing.

full disclosure: I made the linked site; it has no ads or trackers. I am not entirely comfortable with the racial demographics of every American first name having been made public by the current administration, but the data is really interesting.

It's sad to see but as an adult, I've experienced so much racism from other asian american women than anyone else. A lot of them perpetuate and push racist stereotypes onto me and I just want to understand how this is even possible.

For example, a lot of racist people will say asian people all look the same, have small eyes, or are all nerdy, and I've heard these exact stereotypes repeated to me by asian women. They'll say things like all asian guys look the same so they remind them of their brother, I've had an asian girl who got eyelid surgery trying to make fun of me about how my eyes look small and filipino's eyes look more white (she was filipino), or how they don't like asian guys because they're all nerdy (which is whatever ig).

Also, I'm korean american but I never really lived in areas with other korean americans, so when I do meet a korean american girl I do put an extra effort to get to know her. However, the ones I've met were some of the most racists people I have ever met. Stereotyping me for every little thing, or if one korean man did something in their past they would make it seem like it's ALL korean men.

Some of the ridiculous things I would hear is when I told a girl about a game I played called TFT and as soon as I said that she just blurts out "OH YOU THINK YOU'RE SPECIAL OR SOMETHING, ALL YOU ASIAN GUYS PLAY THAT SHIT" and I was like wtf it's just a video game lmao (ngl I looked it up and it's kinda true). Or when this korean girl who btw never been to korea and is born and raised in new jersey tell me about how horrible all korean men are and about the 4b movement and how they're all misogynistic. Also she would say korean men are fat phobic and have small dicks because one guy when she was younger called her friend fat?? Then, after she talks shit about korean guys she would tell me "but you, you seem different from the other korean guys" and im like okay thanks also wtf??? Btw this girl's first bf was a white guy who called her a dog eating alien (by her words) but she still would say that they "loved each other in their own ways" ???

Why do I get judged and stereotyped because some other asian man does or said something? Why do they hold so many weird values against me as an asian man? I guess it would be one thing if they treated everyone this way, but I've met so many asian women who only stereotype asian men. Even if they experienced a lot of racism/sexualization from non-asian men they never stereotype them.

These were past experiences, but these days anytime I'd see asian women on tiktok I'd see "oxford study" in the comments and when I look it up it's exactly my experience with asian women. So everyone (not just us asians) seems to know it's happening but wtf is going on? Why do we have so many asian women being racist towards asian guys, and sometimes going further and supporting white supremacy/worshipping?

I just want to know why and what we could do about it, I'm tired of seeing asian on asian discrimination.

Hello, I want to point out this happened in Portugal where I was born,so I have a Chinese best friend, we have meet in 4th grade. At frist her parents didn't like me to much,because I'm mixed black mom and white dad, and my mom was always the one to take me to her store. But then my mom became friends with her mom, and they talk each time they encounter each other. She got married recently with a Chinese men, and me and our other best friend where inveted to the weeding. It already has been years since we talked, because we went our seperated ways as we grew. But it was funny, I was the only non white person in the weeding. So yeah there were some stares, but everyone was nice. There was a guy that keep on staring at me and I kind of found him cute. But then I ended up letting it go, because I was always told, that chinese people tend to marry other chinese people, because of the culture. And I know in some cases when you are not white it makes things more complicated.

What are your thoughts on this? Any experience?

Thank you

I’ve decided to go into the medical fields. But I haven’t narrowed it down yet. And I need wisdom from many people. Anyways, im having a hard time deciding.

I dream to have an easygoing lifestyle, alone with a loving pet. Seriously. So I was thinking of studying TMC. I thought that it would give me more freedom and maybe even a better salary. But after I asked about TCM in my local sub— I had a very different answer than I expected. And seems likely people think it’s a scam. And after that, I heard my mother talking about her classmate. Her classmate studied TCM in mainland china, and came back to her home country to enter the work force. But because of the system then or something, she couldn’t find any jobs. So she currently lives in Thailand. Or so I heard. And after all of these, I was back to being unsure. Actually, every TCM hospitals are privately owned and very expensive. Just throwing that in.

So the reason I came here is because I wanted other peoples opinions from wider ranges. Maybe even how TCM is viewed as.

So, do you believe in it?

Are the majority of people who visit TCM practitioners old? What about the newer gen’s?

Do you think that this skill will be valuable or sustainable for the future?

Can ai somehow replace them?

Please share some thoughts!