SOME ADVICE FOR A MOM
I am a mother looking for some light. My 22-year-old son recently told me that he wants to be a girl. This took me by surprise, because he has never shown any interest in anything feminine. He was born and grew up perfectly fine in his male body. Unfortunately, when his father and I divorced, his father gradually stopped looking for him, and by the time he was 12 he never contacted him again. He isolated himself in online games, where he taught himself how to make games, and today he creates and releases games on gaming platforms. He has at least six close friends whom he says he met when he was 16 and who are still his friends today. He says he prefers online friends because he can always take them with him.
He is currently in Brazil (we are from there, but we live here in California) spending some time with his grandparents and is doing exploratory therapy and tests to see if he has any neurodivergence. High IQ has already been detected. I am reluctant to allow hormones because I don’t think he has even a minimal real social life. He doesn’t work, has no real-life friends, and dropped out of college. Do you think my way of thinking makes sense? How can someone who still lives with his mother, has no friends outside his room, has no idea of human malice, has never had a girlfriend (he says he is not gay and that he hates men because they are all bad character) or any affective relationship, make such a serious decision as this?! PLEASE HELP ME WITH SUGGESTIONS ON HOW I SHOULD DEAL WITH MY SON NOW, ON HOW TO BE THE MOTHER HE NEEDS.