Disagreeing about having children
My partner and I have been together for five years and I'm ready to have kids. He is refusing. Normally that would be a tie breaker in a relationship but he sometimes gets lost in conversation and talks about what our kids would be like etc. When he realises what we are talking about he will suddenly say something like, it doesnt matter because we won't have them anyway. I'm used to him saying no initially to any changes then needing time to think about it before agreeing (he is autistic and really struggles with change) but how do i know if this is something he is really saying no to or he has doubt and wont communicate them. I still, after all these years, struggle to understand the way he thinks. I've asked why he doesn't want kids and all he says is because he doesnt. But he loves his goddaughter, shopping for her or spending time with my younger siblings. He is also just a loving, fun, caring guy.
Im just looking for anyone that may understand his way of thinking or perspective better than i can because im at a loss.