Hows the online dating scene in bhubaneswar, imma college student here not native to odisha , wa just thinking about the online match making scene like bumble and tinder , which is the best app, have y'all had any luck ?
Red flag or just normal?
Reply with something you’ve seen while dating / talking to someone and let others judge.
Who are they looking for? Another Di Caprio?
What will you do if you get a chance with a girl or guy for a date but short on money 🤔
First - The day I found out he had a girlfriend of 3 years and that they were in a serious relationship. Their families were going to meet in a few months for marriage. He lied about where he worked, saying he had moved to Bangalore, but he was actually still in bbsr and meeting other girls.
Second - When I texted the girl I had doubts about, she turned out to be his girlfriend.
Third - Chat with his girlfriend
Fourth - This is one of the many girls he lied to and got involved with. When he told me he was in Bangalore, he was actually meeting this girl in Bhubaneswar.
Seventh - A few weeks ago, I posted about him with a blurred picture, and his sister's in-laws saw the post. His sister then texted me and called me, asking me to delete it.
When I posted about him here, I also received some DMs and comments. One girl told me he had matched with her twice, and both times he quickly asked to get physical. From a few other girls, I got to know that he has been consistently active on Hinge and Bumble since last 2 years.
Eighth - him guilt tripping me and twisting things to make me feel like I was the problem.
Few hours ago I posted, but that my posts automatically got removed because some reported it. This time I am posting with proofs
21m here looking for a casual date at any cafe or we can go for a movie 🍿
Share your online dating story where a date went wrong, so we will try to find a solution to avoid that in this sub.
Short form : 26M ( looking for people to hangout with ) total 4 matches, talked to 3, one no response, one decent convo, other 2 were dry. Tried talking about WB and HarryPotter, the replies were sad. I open with hey/hi because better be boring than being disgusting. So what to talk about and other respectful openers instead of Hey/Hi?
Long Form : Hey fellas, 26M here. Some context. I have mentioned on my profile that I am looking for people to hangout with. I have a job which makes me work on Saturdays so I am open to food/movie/bike trips on Sundays.
I did match with 2 people on Hinge and 2 on Bumble. Only 1 was a decent conversation, but it did not work out.
The remaining 2 were exceptionally dry. The last one was a match but timer expired due to no reply. The first message that I send upon matching is always a Hi/Hey because I play it safe outta respect and if there is not anything in their profile which I can ask a question on. I also ask them about the location and story about that photo.
My interests are centred around gaming/geopolitics/anime (which have very limited audience). I am open to know/ask about any topic of their choice.
In one of the conversations, I tried to initiate a topic by saying, “The WB election victory was such a rollercoaster.” The response I received was, “So?”.
I tried coming up with Harry Potter yet same dry response. I asked, “Who would you become if you had a polyjuice potion?”The response was, “Hein?” She was a potterhead as per her Bumble profile.
So to the ladies of bbsrdating, as the title suggests, what else can I open up my texts with instead of Hi/Hey, and what topics I can discuss about which won’t make the chat go dry? Open to criticisms/discussions.
Be respectful guys , I opened this for people who wants to date /meet . Feel free to explore
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Disclaimer- This is a rant/vent/awareness post of sorts
Dating has been exhausting for people like me, who are looking for something serious. I have been in the dating bandwagon for a couple of years (tried looking for something serious organically and on dating apps too) and the type of people I have come across has made me skeptical of the whole dating/serious relationship situation.
The egotistical folks- as the name suggests, they exist just to disagree with your opinion. "The sun is yellow", you claim, and they condescendingly point out,"No, the color changes accordingly, that's common knowledge! You don't even know this?" These people constantly berate you and dates with these people feel suffocating. You just wait for the date to end. You just wait for the conversation to end. These people have a permanent place in your blocklist.
The ghosters- there is a low-effort vibe and some chemistry with these people, and maybe some of these people even go on dates until they ghost you painfully either for a better option or simply because they weren't feeling it. Honestly, even a slightly awkward, poorly worded “not interested” would be better than being left to overanalyze silence like it’s some kind of personality test you failed.
The "one" until they aren't- The type with whom you actually click and see something serious with. Time flies by with them. Maybe you spend a considerable amount of time with them, think about them when a romantic song pops up your social media feed or want to know their birth details hoping your kundali matches with them, because you really want things to work out. Until, caste, abba-nahi-manenge, religion and whatever jackshit is there to make sure if you even manage to find someone according to your liking in this hellhole of uncertainty, you shouldn't be able to get them 🥰 Also, different career aspirations. This trope hurts like hell. And pushes you into a state of despair.
The confused folks- this specie is particularly very common on dating apps, of any kind. They mention something on their profile and demand another thing in your dms. Confused folks want the comfort of a relationship with the situationship/friends tag. They deserve to be banned on dating apps.
The entitled dater - these set of people expect the world and yet contribute the bare minimum like it's a generous donation. What does a normal person want? Maybe someone driven and ambitious? Maybe someone from the same career to ensure compatibility and decent looks? The entitled dater, however, wants someone with the looks of a celebrity, the academic pedigree of an Ivy League/IIT/NIT topper, and the wealth of a billionaire mogul - basically Ambani-level fortune, Bollywood-level charm, and wall street-level success all in one package.
I know, the first post on a dating subreddit shouldn't be about the fish in the sea, it's for you to test it out. But still, I felt this post is necessary to make people aware of "what's out there" and to assuage my incapability of finding someone and maybe possibly resorting to the arrange marriage bandwagon, which is another circus in itself.
Best of luck to you guys!
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I think what works in bbsr is ofc dating apps do work idk about tinder or bumble never used them I've used hinge and got success went on multiple dates so it was good although ofcourse if ur looking for something real through dating apps its not for you
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