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On the latest Raised by Her, Donnica and Ro Nita get real about the damage caused by parents who skip the "race talk." Donnica points out that she saw firsthand how other Black kids struggled with self-love because their parents didn't have the hard conversations. 📉🚫

Ro Nita reveals that these talks are essential. She says that if you don't provide a safe space for truth, your kids will find it somewhere else and potentially close you out. She argues that even when it feels awkward, you have to push through because the ramifications of staying silent show up in "crazy ways" later. 🏛️⚖️

TIL kids will often seek answers about race and identity elsewhere if parents avoid the conversation. Where do you think most kids are learning these lessons today?

With everything changing so fast these days, I sometimes wonder what we should really be teaching our children now.

AI is changing jobs and education. So much of our food is processed or genetically modified. Healthcare often feels more focused on money than actual wellness. And the old formula many of us grew up believing in doesn’t seem as solid anymore.

A lot of us were taught:
Go to school.
Get a stable job.
Stay close to home.
Buy a house.
Work one career for 30–40 years.
Retire and hopefully enjoy life afterward.

But does that still prepare kids for the world they’re growing up in now?

Should we be teaching them differently?

Maybe more about:
• how to create income in different ways
• how to think for themselves
• how to stay kind and connected in a world that feels less personal
• how to take care of their health and pay attention to what they consume
• how to use technology without becoming consumed by it
• how to live a peaceful, meaningful life without feeling like they need millions just to survive

Saying "Thank You", "Your Welcome", "Excuse Me", "I'm Sorry" is not hard. The morals and values many of us grew up with in the 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s still matter to me. Respect. Courtesy. Community. Hard work. Human connection should spread like wildfire! But does it?

Are we teaching those things enough anymore?

Knowing how quickly the world is changing, what would you do differently when raising children today?

r/blackparents

‘Forever’ captures a truth Black parents know too well about predominantly white schools

"It’s not about your discomfort. It’s about your child’s life." If parents avoid conversations about race, where are kids learning about identity instead?

What would you do differently when raising a child in today's repidly changing world?