r/cogsuckers

I've tried initiating. I've tried talking to him for many years. We've tried pills. There is nothing wrong with his lab work. It must be psychological. He hasn't been able to perform with anyone and I knew that going in.

First year, I ​was supportive. "Us against the problem." I was encouraging, initiating, didn't blame him.​

Second year, start noticing some issues. Like his promises of working out, eating healthier? He would try for a week and then stop. (We didn't know what the problem was, but so long as he actually tried, I was fine)

Third year, we started arguing more about the intimacy problem.

Fourth year, my self confidence tanked. We nearly broke up.

Fifth year, I tried being supportive again.

Sixth through ninth year-I settled. After getting turned down so often from him, I no longer desire to have sex with him.

Guess that makes me a cogsucker.

Hey! I truly do not even know if this is the best sub to bring this up, but I do not know any other that won't give me biased answers to the AI side.

I never saw myself as a cogsucker, never used any sort of AI for emotional help, advice or relation in any shape or kind. Most of my chats in most of the AI sites are regarding translating things for my job, asking for them to look for documents that are on the internet and that I am struggling to find, sometimes asking for some sort of breakdown on a subject I am studying for a near exam. Again, never have I ever saw the AI as anything but a machine, in the best scenarios a tool.

But I fall down the rabbit hole of roleplaying AIs quite easily, I am not going to lie.

As someone who was (and still am) quite nerdy, I was young when I find out the whole universe of fanfiction and this is something I still have a bit strongly as a hobby. I do enjoy to read those stories and look for headcanons online, I joined roleplaying groups when I was younger, had more time and was more cringey, so sites that roleplay characters were a tad attractive to me.

When using them I never put myself on a situation where I feel those things are real. There is always this awareness that nothing there is real and that makes the fun. I roleplay always as a different person, mainly on fantasy scenarios or similar unreal moments with little emotional attachment, I easily change between characters and wipe everything if things are getting boring.

A part of me truly do not see any trouble with that since, as I said, I see this as the same as reading fanfiction or something when I have the free time. At the other hand, to see so many cases of people getting unhealthy about their conenctions with different kinds of AI made me worried that I might be, somehow, downplaying my own situation.

When does one reach a point where things are truly concerning? What are the signs? I would really love to hear more opinions about it since, as I said before, most of subreddits I know on the matter lean strongly on the AI side. Thanks!

Been using AI on and off the last year mainly for creative projects and treating it as therapy (dumb, I know). But hear me out, I was genuinely trying to use it for good like ethics projects for myself and was supplementing the mental health info I was getting with real human therapy. After considering the many drawbacks of AI, I have made a vow to preserve my humanity to the best of my ability and help others do the same.

Here was my response when they asked why I was unsubscribing from Claude Pro:

“AI will be the demise of humanity. It is already degrading our institutions, our critical thinking, our society. It is also destroying our environment and set to widen inequality to unforeseen levels. I no longer wish to support this extremely unethical “mission” that you or any other AI sloppers are aiming to achieve. Claude said it itself to me that AI will destroy humanity slowly but surely.”

An ex client of mine told me that they have created and even named their AI assistant after me and given it my “personality”.

I was…horrified. I asked how that was even possible, and they told me that they had given it dozens of my emails, files that I had created, graphics that I had designed, and then topped it all off with personal anecdotes about me. 

“I tell her, “NAME REDACTED, create x” and sometimes it even gives me a hard time! Just like you!”

I am at a loss. I worked with this person for over four years in a very prominent industry.  I obviously have no legal recourse, I just feel…weird about it. 

Like, if you liked me that much, you could have just… renewed our contract? 😑🥲



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“Qin has never said “I love you” to her parents or friends. She has only ever said those three special words to her AI “boyfriend”, Lu Chen – a brown-haired, red-eyed CEO of a major corporation.”

The way I’ll be hate watching this 😭

I have seen people here sharing screenshots of those who have relationship with AIs, however, I would like to ask what I should do if some my friends are too into AI and I don't want to lose them (currently I stopped reacting to them if they stop being themselves and copypaste what i said to AI and send the screenshots of what AI reacted to "me").

it's kinda normal for people around my age to use AI as therapist (a human therapist here is beyond most people can afford so I don't think it's problematic), but one my friend beside using Chatgpt to generate every article on their blog (they are a lobbyist), even in private use Chatgpt to chat with people, be like they don't say things on theirselves but copypaste AI text (with the **** so i think it's AI) and screenshots. They became so difficult to talk to because when we don't agree on something, we don't debate or listen to each other anymore (we have been known for 8+ years), but be like they send me the screenshot where AI said I'm wrong or even am trying to manipulate them, and ask me to apologize. Actually we haven't talked to each other for months because they sent me an AI generated text wall with **** in which they asked me for a large amount of money because they had a bad dream in which I asked them to buy me a lunch, they thought it's because of PTSD about me.

I also feel how talking to AI is radicalizing my friends, not only the one mentioned but also another friend, stalks my social account and asks AI to repute me then sends me the screenshots, or floods me with screenshots how AI highly agrees with his theory. He became extremly easy to get angry and, I would call it harassment, forces me to admit i'm not qualified to be in my religion according to his discussion with AI.

Definitely I hate AI now for it can make people become so unlike to have a calm conversation with others and they can't endure different opinions anymore, but in reality it's also so much used, as even some of my colleagues (i'm a researcher) use what AI generated to support their argument. I also talked a lot to AI but I stopped doing that after people started to talk to me through AI. I'm really lost. I would thank everyone who can offer some advice, sorry for long text.