r/gaymelbourne

hi guys 18 M here, I was just curious as to whether or not there were more activities (that arent just clubbing) catered towards the younger gay community in melbourne. as i much as i do enjoy hitting up yahs and other clubs, im sometimes more keen for events that are more directed towards socialising and meeting gay people around my age in a more chill, fun setting. for example, many of the house parties I’ve been to are all mostly catered to the straight community, where the guys i hang with are always talking about which girls they want to shag and the girls only treat you as a token ‘gay friend’. i wanna meet new people organically and make new friends that dont require me to redownload hinge and hate my life. thank you!

Hey, I'm 43, ok looking but not into apps. I feel like I'm too old or tired for clubs. Where can I find nice guys? Where can I find experience? Sorry if this is the wrong sub.

50 y o hairy and fit dad type here, interested in checking out Wed nights at WoW. What's the crowd like? Is it mostly younger blokes looking for a daddy (which I'm cool with btw) or are there lots of similar aged men to me? And what's the best time to be there?

I’m 23, international student from South India, been here in Melbourne for over an year now. I’m down low. Not by choice, really. I tried coming out to one friend someone I’d known for years, thought would get me. They completely flipped. Haven’t talked since. That kinda sealed it for me. So yeah, I’m careful now.

Somehow I still convinced myself to put my face on Grindr, Hinge, whatever. Took months to work up the courage to even do that. Thought maybe if I’m upfront, people will be too.

They are. Just not in the way I hoped.

First it’s the bios: “only Asians” and when I text thinking that India is a part of Asia or so was the geography that was taught to me and they reply “Dude I’m only into Asian”, “no Indians,”“locals preferred.” Like I’m reading the rules to a game I’m not allowed to play. I leave my face up anyway because hiding feels worse. But I still don’t tell anyone irl. So I’m stuck in this weird middle visible online, invisible everywhere else.

And when it’s not racism bingo, it’s just “host?” at midnight from faceless profiles. I know these apps are mostly/meant for hookups. I’m not clueless. But I didn’t think “connection” would mean sending nudes before someone asks my name.

I’m shy. I overthink every message. I delete the apps, then redownload them a week later because the silence in my dorm is louder. Part of me wants to meet someone. Part of me is terrified I’m not cut out for how fast, cold, and brutal this is especially when I can’t even be fully open about who I am.

I’m not asking for a fairytale. I just didn’t think I’d feel more alone after trying to put myself out there.

To other down low guys, shy POC, international students how do you even do this? Does it get less soul-crushing? Do you just grow thicker skin, lower your standards, or is there actually a way to date without feeling like shit about yourself?

Not looking for pity. Just… tell me I’m not the only one stuck between being visible and invisible at the same time.
Did anyone actually figure this out without losing their mind?

I run a leather dog gear brand out of a workshop in Doncaster East, Melbourne. Every June I see the same parade of rainbow logos go up on shelves and then disappear on 1 July, so I wanted to make something for Pride month that was the opposite of that.

These are natural veg-tan leather, hand water-marbled at my bench. The marbling process means every collar and lead comes out with a different pattern. Solid brass hardware, hand-stitched, made to last decades not a season.

Limited run for June only. Once it's done it's done.

Hello!

Could I have some recommendations for poppers pls? I have tried JJ Black, Grey .. and Fist from Eagle Leather.

Is there any other place in the southeast to get good quality amyl? Any brand recommendations?

Bi tradie, thinking of going to check out Spartacus lounge tonight but can’t decide if I should wait for a Friday/Saturday where I can head in earlier? Does the rain tend to keep people at home?

I find it hard to believe these places are busy full of hot blokes at 3am on a random Sunday or Wednesday but I must be wrong as they’re still in business 😂

Hi
I’m visiting Melbourne at the beginning of June and I’ve just seen this event. I was wondering if it’s worth going there or perhaps if anyone here is planning to go.
For background I’m 41m average/stocky side; would like to have a good time but I wouldn’t want to feel awkward. For instance if this is mainly for the younger gaybros I don’t wanna be the only sassy daddy or if it’s more like the super fit gym rats. Hope you see what I mean…
Interested in your thoughts.

So I have been reading about Gay Campgrounds in America- I was wondering:

1. Has anyone had tried to get one up and running In Australia?
2. if you have heard of them, what would you like to see at a Gay campground?
3. Is there one already in Australia?
4. Would you consider heading to a gay campground for a weekend away?
   Effectively they are Co-ops that are membership based designed to connect with community but open to the public.
   They are usually located in rural settings, with a mix of permanent lodging, glamping tents, caravan spaces and camping (tents) areas.
   They all have a communal space with a bar, pool, indoor recreation area.
   The business model creates space for gay men to permanently lodge at the campground as well revenue from temporary accommodation. Often they hold events and parties.

So it was my 18th birthday last friday. So i decided to go out Saturday night to a bar (i don’t remember what one) so anyways i kinda just went alone because i was on the lookout for a guy. (U can tell im gay im feminine presenting) ANYWAYS a couple hours in and yknow drinking and whatever. And this dude comes up to me. Yknow asked how i am. Asked if i was into dudes. And he let me know hes not gay but its curious. So im thinking to myself “oh ur full of shit you just don’t wanna say ur gay”. So anyways i go back to his house at about 1am (this guy is early 30s id say) and so yknow we get to business and i ended up sucking him off for about 20 minutes and im like “is this supposed to take this long” in my head and today my throat hurts. Bro he said he couldnt cum because he “wasnt into it” and yknow what maybe he was just curious but actually straight. And i felt so bad he ended up pushing me off him and watching porn to finish so i just left really sad. And i honestly just want a boyfriend who i can have nice love with idk. (Still havnt tried anal though im scared) but i might try again this weekend. I heard revolvers is good i might check it out. Maybe some guy will find me cute idk. But yea honestly i hope my next time is better i kinda felt used and discarded tbh… okay leave uh opinions/advice below i guess.

And i mean actual gay ones not ones that are DL or like anything secret.
Because honestly they are just so like hot idk?
I feel like its not just the looks its also like the “manly” job they do and how they just get stuff done?
Idk 😊
Okay bye
(Wanted to make a post because I’m bored and interested)

Hello all, I’ve been been geezing this subreddit and it seems like the general consensus of WoW is pretty positive. Now, I’m super super interested in going I’m 21 and live in a relatively outter city area so there’s not a whole lot of action on Grindr or even sniffies for that matter. I know WoW has themed nights like exclusive to specific audiences, however what is the general audience the venue attracts? I’m looking generally a similar age range to myself (20-25), given this what venue would you all recommend?

Maybe we can go together. It will be my first time.

Piggybacking an earlier post about his first time at Subway… reposting this too hehe!

For context I am a 27 Asian male of Singaporean Chinese descent, with boyish looks and a kinda on the way to lean from a bulk gym body, with decently perky ass and sizeable chest. I am an international uni student in Australia from Singapore.

I consider myself bicurious and most of my life I dated and had sex with girls but just once before this I sucked off a man. When I came to Australia I continued seeing girls and dated one and after that ended, I decided to explore my bi side, like what do I gave to lose eh? So took myself on a “me-day” one Sunday, went to the city, walked around, ate some almond croissants from Lune and was contemplating should I visit one of the saunas and was like fuck it, lets go. So hopped on one of the trams to get to Collingwood, and headed towards Wet.

Took out money from the ATM and in I went. I was really nervous and apprehensive but I also felt like hey, I feel sexy and powerful here, from the vibes and some of the glances I was getting. Changed, got naked, wrapped a towel around me and feeling more and more confident, I went upstairs, walking with my ass side to side and just soaking in the attention. At one of thekinda dark corners an older white man cane up to me and just started kissing me. I was like “damn! It’s happening !” And i just went with it, like I actually got so horny from the kiss and attention of groping of my perky asian ass and tits. He then held me hand and asked if we wanted to go somewhere more private and I was like sure. I’m usually quite like alpha male confident IRL but over here, with men, I got so meeky and submissive and like shy, so feminine and .

Got into one of those booths, and he asked me if I am okay with him fucking me and I was like fuck it, why bother. Started by more making out, and I got his dick in my mouth, and I wasnt so sure if how I was doing but when he said “fuck you suck so good” I was like damn, I sure have a knack for this!” And made me so feminine and submissive and sucked him off even more. Then came the time where he asked me to lie down and put my legs in the air. He slowly put his fingers in and it felt so tight and so good but then when it was his dick, damn when I said it hurt, IT HURT. I was close to crying but he was so gentle and reassuring and asked if he should stop but i said please keep going.

It was one of those moments in life where I cannot believe it was happening, like me, over here in Melbourne getting fucked by a man like a gurl that Ive always fantasized. I started moaning like a gurl at that very thought and omgg i felt so submissive. But alas, he stopped after awhile asI was really tight and he had cummed earlier in the day so it will take him a long tike before he cums again. Bummer. But hey all good, cos I felt like it was an achievement, a life changing moment. We then got dressed and he gave me his contact.

I’ve not done any more exploring ever since due ti some circumstances but its a fond and hot memory to look back on.

Sorry for the long story but hope its a nice little reading for a weekend hehe

Are they operating today? Is it just the wet area that is closed?

Hi! I’ve been in Melbourne for almost two weeks now. I already have a girlfriend, but I’d really love to meet more local lesbians and make some new friends here :)

I’m mainly looking for people to hang out with, explore the city, chat, and also practise my English with. I’m still quite new to Melbourne, so I’d love recommendations for queer-friendly spaces, events, or communities too! 💗

Hey so I don’t know if the peninsula is really considered Melbourne but I’m a lonely loser so I figured I’d try sending something here, I’m 17 and I lowk just need queer friends who aren’t evil or insane or rapists. Which I didn’t think was a tall order until I looked around me. I honestly just love meeting new people and learning about them and their lives and I figured being gay would be a great bridge into into some level of friendship. So if you’re lonely bored and gay please feel free to respond to this I fear I will do literally anything just to get out of my damn house.

Also extra note most of my friends are like 19 so I don’t mind hanging out with people who are a bit older. (Also another extra note idk if minors are supposed to be here since that isn’t mentioned in the rules but if you guys want me out of here let me know.)

(EDIT) GUYS IM SORRY I DID NOT MEAN TO INSINUATE ANYTHING NEGATIVE ABOUT GAY PEOPLE I WAS JUST TRYING TO MAKE A JOKE ABOUT MY EXPERIENCES. I do not think you guys are evil insane or rapists but I just happened to have met a few people who are, but I know most people aren’t like that so I wanted to just try and meet some of you guys.

Can anyone help me please find a good Reddit page to finding men for Melbourne hookups