Context: i have a long distance bf and I want to be able to hang and with gay people with him and be cultured, but I worry that if go to a bar, we will be hit on. Also he doesn't drink, and we don't like loud clubs lol
So as the title says, my husband and I, are coming there on Saturday August 22. We’ll be staying near Federation Square! We are coming to scout the area and looking to see where we would want to move to! We live in New York, USA. He’s a physician and I have a PhD and am also deaf but can hear with my implants, he’s hearing! This is what I want to know:
Is there a neighborhood that has more LGBTQIA people in it than most? If so where is it?
Is there a gay real estate association or company that I could contact to show us around, maybe?
What is the consensus overall towards the LGBTQIA community in Melbourne?
Is there a LGBTQIA center in Melbourne?
I’ve tried to find info on the previous questions on every topic online and with AI but nothing really panned out, if you would please share info with me, I’d be a happy bloke! And possibly buy you a drink and/or dinner!
Friends would be great too! Anyway I’ll shut my mouth and hands for now! Thanks for your time! ❤️🫶
Sorry if this has been discussed here before.
I really want to make gay/queer friends and probably go on some dates with people who have similar interests.
I have been told that I should go to gay clubs/bars to meet folks. I really dont like going out for drinks.
Help!
Hey im 20 and newish to gay stuff how do i make more friends and get more experience with gay stuff in Melbourne with people close to my age ?? Any advice ?
Hey 👋
I would really appreciate any advice on gay dating in Melbourne / in general.
I genuinely have no idea what I'm doing and don't have anyone to help, I've tried dating apps like Hinge, Tinder & Surge and can get matches but don't really know where to go from there as i don't feel like I have anything interesting to say.
I've thought about going to a "gay bar" and trying that way but am super nervous as I've never done that and would be going alone.
I'm not into drinking and it seems like an app or a club is how most people meet.
I'm not after just a quick grindr meetup with a random, I would more love anything from on going wankbuds / FWB to a long term partner.
It feels kinda strange to me to try and find a guy with the whole goal being just to fuck him, I feel like I want to become friends with him first then get down to business.
But gays can be quite forward and there is a large NSA vibe, i want to do non sexual activities too like play games and watch movies etc.
I've never had a relationship so am very inexperienced and also lack any self confidence even though I'm a tall skinny white guy with a big dick.
I feel like I spent years wishing I had a boyfriend beeing too scared to act and now its too late as I've missed all the easy opportunities like school and early 20s now I'm just getting older and less desirable.
I'm masc and straight passing so haven't ever been hit on, i feel like I need a big sign saying I'm gay and looking.
I know i need to take action to get results i just don't know what to do or where to go, i feel out of my depth.
Any advice on places to go, date ideas in Melbourne, or general tips would be hugely appreciated. Thanks!
Hi all, I am seeking some ideas on a career move.
Im 44, I came out later in life, ive always been very masculine, ( because I didn't realised I was attracted to Men I think but maybe thats just me )
Ive always ( except once ) worked in construction, farming, truck driving industries, but Im wanting to do something else , but dont have any qualifications. Ideally id love to get into mental health, peer support, Aod counselling, because I have lived experiences ( myself ) and would like to help others. Working with the homeless or cleaning, house keeping etc. I just want to do a job, that I dont have to be so masculine, or where people might expect and accept gay guys more so than the jobs ive had before. It be really nice to work along other gay guys, because ive never had that.
My Partner and myself are relocating soon ive been looking for all kinds of jobs, but it getting to the point that I really dont know what to do. I can't afford to take time off to study, i need resonable pay. Any ideas would be awesome
I am trying to make my fitness routine more social as I have had a schedule change.
I am going to start a Gay Men's specific yoga class & I am going to run Melbourne Frontrunners instead of runs alone.
I honestly would like to try a gay-focused or gay populated gym to complement the rest of my weekly fitness routine.
I honestly don't fuck with my local gyms as annoying straight dudes in gyms are just the standard. Even as a Wog, I just can’t with 'natty' muscled-out wogs... I hate the ones I am related to, let alone random roided assholes posing non-stop. The level of acceptable heterosexuality for me is an ever-decreasing limit as I have gotten older.
I tried googling it but, obviously it includes any gym with a website with a rainbow flag in the footer rather than the actual gay history and/or experience of actual gay men.
I just need a class that focuses on things like Pilates, Flexibility and Strength of my Muscles.
I’m 19, bisexual for now, and I’m only recently discovering relationships with men and the gay community. A while ago, I met an older man and, honestly, neither of us expected to fall in love. We immediately clicked, started talking a lot, and since then, we’ve basically never stopped talking. Today, we’re really in love with each other, but we live thousands of miles apart.
I’ve always had some issues with trust and fidelity, and I can be quite scared of being cheated on or of losing the person I love. I’m aware that this can sometimes make me more jealous or anxious than I should be. At the same time, I genuinely trust that he loves me and I don’t believe he is looking for someone else or trying to replace me. That’s actually what makes this situation so confusing for me.
The problem is that we have pretty different views on flirting, kissing, etc. He has a lot more experience than I do and has also been in an open relationship before. He doesn’t necessarily go out of his way to flirt with people, but he doesn’t really see a problem with it either. He’s very friendly and doesn’t like being mean or rejecting people, so when someone makes a flirty comment to him, he might respond in the same playful way without really seeing any meaning behind it. And if someone asks him, for example, if they can kiss him, he might say something like “well, if you want,” because he doesn’t consider it to be particularly important.
For him, kissing or flirting with someone without any feelings involved doesn’t change what he feels for me at all. He can genuinely be in love with me while still thinking that a kiss or some flirting with someone else doesn’t mean anything.
For me, it’s very different. To me, kissing, flirting, or having sex with someone else while we’re in a relationship is a boundary and can feel like cheating, or at least like something that really hurts me. I personally wouldn’t do it, even if we’re long-distance.
But I’m not completely closed-minded about his perspective. I’m genuinely trying to understand the way he thinks, his past, and why he sees certain things differently. I already accept some things that I probably wouldn’t have accepted instinctively, and I’m trying to make an effort not to interpret every little bit of flirting as proof that he loves me less.
On his side, he says he also wants to make an effort and be more careful about certain things because he knows they hurt me. But the distance makes things much more complicated: he feels that since we don’t always know when we’ll be able to see each other again, we should maybe have a little more freedom. I see it differently. I feel that if we choose to be together despite the distance, we should make certain efforts to protect our relationship.
So I’m pretty lost. I’m not trying to say that my way of seeing things is the only right one, or that his way is wrong. I’m simply trying to understand how we can find a balance between our two perspectives without either of us feeling like we have to completely change who we are.
Has anyone here been in a similar situation? What advice would you give us? And how do you think we could find a compromise that genuinely respects both of our perspectives?
Thank you :)
Hi has anyone taken HPV vaccine (Gardasil 9) and Doxy-PEP for STIs?
Do you just go to a GP and get a prescription?
I’ve been buying products like Jungle Juice, Rush and similar brands for years, but lately they just don’t seem to have the same quality, consistency or impact they once had.
What really caught my attention is that one of Australia’s biggest sellers appears to have completely removed that older range and replaced it with different products. That seems like a major decision for a retailer that would have sold huge volumes of those brands.
Does anyone know why?
Have the formulas changed? Are the older brands being produced differently, or are retailers simply moving toward newer and better alternatives?
I genuinely like the products they are selling now, so I’m not complaining about the change. I’m just wondering whether this signals a broader shift in the market.
Has anyone else noticed the same decline in Jungle Juice, Rush and the other traditional brands? And do you think the newer ranges are now the better option?
I've been in Melbourne for about half a year now and I've had only a few hookups.
Just on apps I often feel just ignored or dismissed
I don't even really chase them as all I get is "Pics?" and then I get no reply after sending one
When I lived in North America for a year, if I wanted a hookup I usually had something, so I'm not that unattractive and just Melbourne feels different... My guess is me being Asian plus there are plenty for others to choose from makes them so not desperate and they don't even feel the need to be nice to me lol
Does anyone feel the same way? Be your race Asian or not...
I'm planning to have my first "privates" waxing - that's Brazilian being front and back (inc cheeks and crack). Obviously the waxing place gives advice etc but keen to hear from other men who gets waxed there also, on their tips for first timers - ie esp pain management, etc.
I’m looking for recommendations for a gay-friendly psychologist in Melbourne, preferably someone on the younger side.
This isn’t a weird hookup request—I just find it easier to open up to someone who understands the culture and context without me having to explain everything from scratch.
In the past I’ve mostly seen older straight men or women, and find myself spending the session explaining things like Grindr, Sniffies, or aspects of gay life before we even get to the actual issue. I also just feel like they wouldn’t understand why it’s normalised for gays to randomly turn up to a beat and fuck at 9pm on a Tuesday.
I’d really value someone who is LGBTQIA+ or at least very affirming and culturally competent—someone who just gets it.
Any recommendations would be much appreciated. Bonus if they are also a psychiatrist / has links to one. I’m exploring ADHD diagnosis options too.
I am 24 m with south Asian background. I recently have started exploring more things and had been wondering whether I should buy a jockstrap? I have tried to find info online about where to buy and all but it’s has not been useful but more so marketed stuff. I am really new to all this. Not sure what types are there if there any and how to choose which ones to buy. Any kind of tips or recommendations will be great help. Thank you. Dm accepted
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hello! i have made a discord server for queer australian gamers, targeted towards people aged 18-30, to make friends and socialise! i realised there was a bit of a gap in what’s available for people around my age age, and i wanted to create my own community, instead of continuing to try look for someone else to make it!
everyone is welcome as long as you’re an 18+ queer australian gamer!
you can join here: https://discord.gg/PwkNQjjpp
thank you!!