r/gayrural

I’m 21M and gay. This was my first serious relationship, and we’ve been together for almost 5 months.
For most of the relationship, he was loving and caring. We lived two hours apart but he would regularly travel to see me, call me every morning and night, take me out, and make an effort despite having a difficult life and job. I genuinely loved him and thought we had something special.
However, there was an ongoing issue with other people.
Very early on, I found sexual messages and pictures involving other people. Whenever I confronted him, he told me nothing was happening and promised he would stop.
Later, I found out he had been using Tinder while we were together. We broke up, but eventually I gave him another chance because he said he had only been using it to meet people because he was lonely.
After that, I kept noticing other people on his social media and became increasingly suspicious. I know I became more controlling because my trust had already been damaged.
Recently, I found out about another guy/girl he had been talking to. He initially denied knowing them and told me nothing happened. I contacted the person myself, and they showed me screenshots of sexual conversations, exchanged pictures, and plans to meet.
The most painful part is that I repeatedly asked him for the truth, and he continued denying it until I had proof.
He says he lied because he was afraid of losing me and didn’t want to hurt me. He says he loves me, regrets everything, and wants to change. He’s been very emotional and says he’s willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild my trust.
But I’ve now learned that this wasn’t just one isolated incident. There seems to have been a repeated pattern of seeking sexual attention from other people throughout our relationship.
I ended the relationship because I don’t think I can live constantly checking someone’s phone, social media, or wondering whether they’re telling me the truth.
The confusing part is that I genuinely loved him. When we were together, we had a lot of great moments and he could be incredibly caring toward me. This wasn’t a relationship where I was unhappy all the time.
Since this was my first relationship, I’m trying to understand whether my expectations are reasonable.
For gay/bi men especially: Would you consider repeatedly sexting, exchanging pictures, using dating apps, trying to meet other people sexually, and then lying about it to your partner a dealbreaker?
Can trust realistically be rebuilt after this kind of repeated behavior, or would you leave?
I’m not looking for people to tell me whether I should control who my partner follows. I’m more interested in whether the underlying behavior itself is something you would consider acceptable in a monogamous relationship.

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