r/gettingoverbreakups

My partner of 22 years left me and our 2 kids 8 weeks ago i was constantly ringing txting etc he would answer but it always went sour. To me the only time he reached out was when he had a drink and wanted phone sex! ( heavy drinking drugs and gambling ) he has been soo angry anytime we have spoken and has told me we are never getting bk together he hates me etc etc even went on a date just 4 weeks after leaving us for weeks this went on he blocked me on things and the only way i could contact was email . Im on day 3 of no contact and i just keep hoping that something in him will click and he will realise what a huge mistake hes made. Am i crazy or naive to hope he misses me and the kids . He says he thinks about the kids every day but i dont even cross his mind which obviously hurts urgh im soo lost right now

I’m so upset, my dad literally passed away less than 2 months ago, and the only glimpse of happiness I’ve been clinging onto was my relationship, one where he had also experienced losing his dad too, and had expressed to me that his partner at the time broke up with him because she couldn’t deal with his grief. So I’m even more hurt that he has done this to me, as he knows how much it hurts. I knew it was a chat gpt message because 1, he can’t use big words or sometimes even string a sentence together really, really messages from him hurts my brain a lot of the time. And 2, most parts of it just weren’t written by him at all, using the — that ChatGPT is known for.

It was so impersonal and I don’t know how to react. He’s now blocked me on everything despite ChatGPT saying “I will always be around if you need”. Anyone who can’t tell you in person how they feel, especially given my current circumstances don’t deserve me in their life.
Just wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar or has any kinds words for me. I’m at a total loss now and now navigating 2 types of grief.

So I (31 yr old man), was tricked into being a rebound by my ex.

He lovebombed me into a relationship and made it so fast paced, told me he and his ex were ancient history but I later after the breakup learned they’d only ended their 5 year relationship about a month before my ex first messaged me on instagram.

My ex would randomly kick off at me and have so much anger out of nowhere, every time we drank together and then gaslight me into thinking I was causing it. But I no know it was his anger from the baggage of his relationship with his ex and nothing to do with me.

Him and his ex started talking again behind my back and likely seeing eachother - I know they definitely got back together whilst he was still with me but he just distanced him self where he wasn’t speaking to me for like 17 hours at a time and then kicking off over message so I got fed up and ended it.

Him and his ex got publicly back together two days after I broke up with him. My ex blocked me on everything but tik tok, he would’ve seen I had unfollowed him but then randomly unfollowed me and followed me back as the notification showed up on my phone.

I did end up having a facetime with him about a week after the break up (mind you I knew they were back together, his ex went to school with people I know so even blocked I was being told), my ex denied getting back with his ex, lying to my face and telling me he just wanted to stay single because it’s less drama.

So about a week after this and some friendly back and forth over tik tok I decided I wanted a clean break and blocked him on it so I could move on with an out of sight out of mind focus. I blocked his phone number and deleted it, deleted every message chain on every app I could and deleted all of our photos and videos from my phone.

It helped a lot.

But now he’s unblocked me on Instagram but not followed me or reached out but I’ve already been told he’s moved back in with the ex (mind you his ex lives in my city so I’m likely going to run into them)

Can anyone tell me what his weird reasonings are for keeping me on tik tok, unblocking me on insta (I didn’t go looking for him, he showed up in my suggested follows 🙄) - and why lie to me about them getting back together when his socials is all publically in a relationship together. I’m not even mad at this point, I went through every emotion at the beginning, it’s just very weird behaviour to me. I liked that he was no longer visible in my life, and it was almost a jump scare when I saw his profile in my suggestions.

I’ve decided to take the approach of I’m not going to react, I’m not going to block I’m just going to pretend I’ve not seen it and continue to move on but for anyone who’s been in a similar situation, what do you think about why he’s being odd for?

Thank you in advance

My best friends of 3 years then my fiancée was super attracted to me, thought i was sexy in pijamas and thin/tight clothes, no skims no push ups i never wore anything that showed my body differently
We descided to preserve ourselves till marriage then things went out of plan several times
He left me and told that the reaction his body gave to me wasn’t minor and that he wasn’t even able to kiss me
He said clothes hid a lot and that he really tried to accept it but couldn’t, in short he thought i was a turn off
Is that even something that happens?? Is that even possible?? Im crashed totally