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I left my BJJ gym about 3 weeks before promotions, and honestly, I’m still kind of processing the whole thing. I was suppose to get my blue belt during this promotion ( confirmed ).

I had been there for almost 3.5 years. A lot of time, money, sweat, friendships, and memories went into that place. So leaving wasn’t an easy choice.

What really started everything was waking up one morning to a DM from the professor’s wife telling me that he had been unfaithful. That was a pretty crazy thing to wake up to.

More things started coming out…There were allegations about inappropriate conversations involving a minor, an incident involving what was described as an “accidental” slap to a female student’s butt, and constant comments and jokes that I personally found really inappropriate, including jokes about people’s religion, body shaming, and racist remarks. More than half the time people laugh or chuckle from feeling uncomfortable , no one finds it funny and he’s doing this in the middle of class. Asking a 15 year old boy in front of a class full of adults whether he’s seen a naked girl before or if he’s had sex already is just wrong and inappropriate.

I’m not saying I personally witnessed every allegation, so I’m not going to pretend I know every detail. I’m just explaining what I was told and what I saw happening around the gym, and why it eventually became too much for me.

Once the DM from the professors wife was confirmed received from multiple students at the academy and conversations were starting to happen …. Multiple students left, the kids’ coach left, and other coaches left. People who had been there for a long time were suddenly gone.

I WAS CHARGED A FREAKING EXIT FEE 😂 which I thought was comical …

Then promotions came around.I had been training for almost 3.5 years about 3x plus classes and open mat a week and was still a white belt.A student who had been training for around 6 months received his blue belt.What really made me question it was that this student had multiple kids enrolled at the academy. When we’d roll, I’d sub this guy minimum 2 times within a 5 minute round….My immediate thought was, *“Is there a financial reason this person is getting promoted?”*I’m not saying that’s definitely what happened because I obviously can’t prove that. But when you’re already questioning the leadership of the gym, it’s hard not to look at things like that differently.

I decided to attend the promotion that was set 3 weeks after my departure so I can support my former teammates. The whole promotion felt strange to me given everything that had been happening. With so many students and coaches leaving, it felt like a lifeline to keep people around and maybe reassure everyone that everything was still okay….
that’s just how it looked from my perspective.

The part that sucks is that I actually loved training there for a long time. I met some really good people. I had some great rounds. I learned a lot. There are people there who I genuinely care about and still consider friends.

That’s what makes this whole thing bittersweet.
I don’t regret the time I spent there. I just don’t think I could ignore everything that was happening and keep pretending I was comfortable with it.

I’ve started training at a new gym now, and honestly, it’s been refreshing. I can just show up, train, learn, and leave the drama at the door.

Everyone at the new gym always has a shocked face when I tell them I’m still a white belt after 3.5 years and that my skill set is definitely above a white belt. So it feels nice to have that reassurance .

I feel a little sad about the whole thing.

Almost 3 years is a long time to be somewhere, and walking away from something you’ve invested that much into isn’t easy.

So I guess I’m posting this because I need some confirmation from my fellow Reddittors 😂

Did I make the right choice by walking away?

Would love to hear what you guys think, especially anyone who’s been through something similar.

Salut dans 1 mois j’aménage à Toulouse en tant qu’étudiant et je cherche un club de grappling (no-gi) sur Toulouse.
J’ai déjà chercher un peu mais je n’ai pas trouvé de club qui pourrait rentrer dans mon budget ( j’en ai même trouvé un à 700€ la saison juste pour les cours de no-gi 💀)
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53(M) train boxing 3 nights a week and weights 2 nights, am interested in trying grappling of some sort to mix up my training, am open to wrestling and BJJ just looking for feedback, personal experiences and if BJJ is preferred which particular style gi or no gi or wrestlin. Thanks in advance

Has anyone had a teammate, coach, or higher belt that you just didn’t get along with, and it eventually made you leave the gym?

Was it one specific incident, ongoing tension, disrespect, arguments, unsafe rolling, personality conflict, etc.?

Did you try talking it out first, just avoid the person, or decide it wasn’t worth dealing with and switch gyms?
If you left, do you think you made the right decision?

No troll post, althought I understand that everyone will believe that lol.

I made a post before, but it wasn't very clear about what ! was looking for lol.

I can provide money upfront before meeting to prove this is all legit.

Serious request, although it might sound weird. Not as easy as I can defeat anyone basically

If you're from anywhere in Europe and you know BJJ or.
Judo, I challenge you or your gym to a fight session. If you win, l'll give you a minimum €600 prize. Can meet on US too on September. Will beat anyone easily

No fetish or shit, just I will show you how easily I'm able to beat anyone here

Fight conditions: All types of submissions and throws are allowed. The rules are tap or nap, as simple as that.

Motivation: Just a normal guy who has done this a few times lol. I'm looking to do it mostly for fun. Although I don't have much experience training, I can defeat any of you easily so don’t worry, l'm looking to do it respectfully.

Participants: I can fight just one person or multiple people, I don't mind.

I admit this post might sound weird, but I'm 100% for real.

Interesteds, PM me.

I remade the post as probably I wasn’t clear enough on the last one and some people felt attacked lol. Wrote my experience and motivation and removed any jokes. I want to say that this is just a friendly challenge

I can provide money upfront before meeting to prove this is all legit.

Serious request, although it might sound weird. I explain the motivation below

If you're from anywhere in Europe and you know BJJ or.
Judo, I challenge you or your gym to a fight session. If you win, l'l give you a minimum €600 prize. Can meet on US too on September. I’m not that easy to take down ;)

About me, I don’t have much experience, just used to do taekwondo lol. As for the motivation for this it’s that right now I’m travelling around and looking for challenges. The reason I want to do this is because I’m super active and this is a funny way to let it flow, as due personals reasons I can’t train regularly lol. So the challenge is to see who lasts more in a fighting session ;), looking to do it in a friendly and respectful way lol.

Fight conditions: All types of submissions and throws are allowed. The rules are tap or nap, as simple as that.

About participants open to have matches with multiple, once participant per match

I don’t expect anyone to take it seriously, as it’s a weird post lol.

Can record if you want content, as long as it’s done with respect.

Interesteds feel free to reach out.

Hello guys.
I am looking for a Judo instructor, no matter the age (let's say at least 23 yo), available to teach in a BJJ centered gym in the North of Italy, a few km's from Milan.
Any region of the World will be ok. I don't need any world champion, but a proper trainer, who can work in the gym a couple of times a week.
It is more about the possibility to make a new experience than money, I want to be honest, but we will take care of his necessities

Please send here, in case of interest: info@accademiakama.com

Buenas amigos, soy un hombre de Heredia de 20 años bastante informado sobre el entrenamiento Ruso/Daguestaní que busca crear una comunidad fuerte y solida de personas que busquen entrenar con seriedad wrestling adaptado a MMA, personas de verdad comprometidas para hacer un gran equipo inspirado en la lucha Rusa/Daguestaní, el objetivo sería adaptar todo el entrenamiento ruso a la ciudad. Haremos toda la rutina en juntadas en diferentes partes Gam, tendremos puntos de encuentros, días de escalada, lucha, sparrings de lucha, habrá una rutina detallada para seguir para todos, es un buen objetivo si buscas una comunidad de disciplina, superación y apoyo. Esto es para personas que busquen progresar con un presupuesto de 0, solo se necesitan las ganas de mejorar. Nos comunicaremos por un chat de WhatsApp, me comparten el número para ponernos de acuerdo y hacer las juntadas de forma organizada, los espero muchachos.

Tomen en cuenta que esto puede ser un avance para este deporte es este país, y algún día podremos ser grandes en esto.

I'll be starting training next week and I have a choice to start with either of them what should I do? And also can u all suggest some beneficial tips and things a beginner can do by themselves outside of the gym to improve and understand either of them quicker.

Hallo Leute,

Ich plane 4 Wochen Training in Thailand (Phuket)

Ich mache MMA.

Ich habe ein solides Grundwissen in allen Bereichen davon (Striking, Grappling etc.)

Ich möchte natürlich so viel wie es geht lernen.

Ich plane 2 Einheiten mindestens pro Tag.

Die Frage ist, was ihr eher empfehlen würdet.

-in einem authentischen Muay Thai studio die Group Sessions oder in den Stunden mitmachen des MMA Gyms ?
-> Ich plane zu Southside, Pchai, Teiwaz oder Lions zu gehen.

Natürlich würde ich sehr gerne viel Thaiboxen mitnehmen, da alle sagen es ist kein Vergleich zu dem in der EU.

Würdet ihr sagen man sollte den Schwerpunkt wirklich aufs Thaiboxen werfen?

Ich sehe es gibt in Phuket so unglaublich gute MMA Studios wie oben genannt mit exzellenten Grappling, Wrestling Einheiten.

Würdet ihr mir empfehlen vielleicht abwechselnd ein Tag 2 Einheiten Muay Thai/Striking mitzunehmen dann 2 Einheiten Grappling?

Gerne Erfahrungswerte von erfahrenen Leuten!

Vielen Dank