r/londonlgbt

Hey! I’m 26F and living in London. I’d love to meet some more people in the LGBTQ+ community and hopefully make some genuine platonic friendships.
I’m pretty easy-going and would be up for grabbing coffee, going for walks, drinks/nights out, playing basketball (very casually lol), exploring London, trying new places or just hanging out.
I feel like making new friends in your 20s can be weirdly difficult, so thought I’d give Reddit a try 😭
Ideally looking for people around my age who are also in/around London. If you’re looking to expand your circle too, feel free to message me! 🫶

Hey everyone, and welcome!

This is a friendly space for LGBT+ Fantasy Premier League managers (and allies) to chat about all things FPL — transfers, captain picks, differential shouts, deadline-day panic, and everything in between.

We’ve also got our own mini-league running if you’d like to join in:

League code: 396kxb

Feel free to introduce yourself, share your team name, drop your early-season thoughts, or just lurk and enjoy the banter. All are welcome as long as we keep things respectful and positive.

Looking forward to a fun season with you all. Let’s go! 💜

Probably a long shot but has anyone got any advice or leads on finding jobs at companies which have good queer communities? I'm a 25 yo IT professional with a BSc in computer science desperate to get out of my office job where all my coworkers are straight/cis/neurotypical.

Any advice appreciated & DMs open if anyone relates and wants to talk 🫂

I want to know if I’m really gay or just bi does anyone have any recommendations please dm if you do

Hiya!!

I’m looking to join a book club in east London (or potentially start one if there is enough interest!)

I’d love something relaxed & chill, honestly an excuse to read and be social! I’ve recently moved to London, so I’d love to meet new people. I’m a lesbian, so I’d definitely love to include some queer books/authors into the mix, but I’m not specifically looking for a queer book club (or maybe) id actually love a mixture of genres and perspectives! Like thrillers, romance, weird little books, ect 😅

I’d love to joining an existing group, but if anyone else is in the same boat and wants to start something, I’d be happy to organize it!

Let me know 💕

I'm a 24 year old trans man in London, recently looking into trying out a couple of gay saunas. I'm pretty small but toned, post top surgery and a decent amount of face scruff, plus more chest/body hair than a lot of cis dudes, and pretty much pass as a raver twink type dude.

I'm a little nervous about how I'll be recieved in general, I'm not the most experienced guy as I've recently moved from a small rural town. I'm thinking of checking out Steamworks and Pleasuredrome, and am aware they are labelled as trans inclusive spaces.

I am absolutely not looking to make anyone uncomfortable and just want to have consensual fun with dudes who might be into me, what would you recommend for a first timer?

(I know how to take polite rejection and move on, as well as when someone isn't interested, so this shouldn't be an issue)

Thanks!

Looking for a night out as a very new guy (late to the party at 43) looking for a good spot to meet new people I’m attracted to trans and would love to find somewhere inclusive and friendly to settle me in! Where would you recommend? I based in Surrey but can travel if needed within reason. I know Monday nights aren’t the busiest but want to get out there and see what I’ve been missing!

I met a guy on Grindr and we started dating for a bit. It was going really well. The sex was great, we had a really good time together and just clicked.

But after a while we both realised we probably wouldn’t be the healthiest couple. I’m much more into peace and quiet, chilled evenings, etc. He’s more into gay parties, the big gay clubs with darkrooms, thirst traps on IG and all of that. We’re just pretty different when it comes to that side of life.
So we stopped dating, but somehow ended up becoming really close friends. Honestly, I’d probably call him my best friend now.

We both live in London but we’re originally from different countries, and I think that also made us connect a lot. We spend loads of time together and have got really close.
And now I’ve started catching feelings again.

I have no idea what to do with it. If I tell him, there’s a chance I mess up one of the best friendships I have. But keeping it to myself also feels a bit shit when we’re spending so much time together.

And obviously, all the reasons we decided not to date are still there.

I’m not really looking for the usual “just communicate” advice. I’d rather hear from people who’ve actually been in a similar situation.

Did you say something? Did it ruin the friendship? Did you end up together? Or were you glad you kept quiet?
What would you do?

I’m straight but a good friend of mine is visiting from Switzerland next weekend and really wants to go to a lesbian bar or club. I was wondering where might be a good vibe for a Friday night? For context I live in West London (Queens Park/ Kensal Rise area) but would be down to travel to central or East for a good vibe. I’ve also heard concern from some people about straights taking up space in LGBTQ+ spaces so would appreciate advice on where we could all be welcome and have a great night! 💃

Hi everybody, where to go on my own for drinks tonight? I’m 35M. Any recommendations? x

What the title says. Is it still an ongoing issue, or do we have herd immunity thanks to vaccines by now?

Hellooo,

I am a 22M with a type for bears. I'm not one myself, but I just feel like they are the best !

BUT I NEVER MEET ANY??? you guys aren't on any apps and ive never really gone to like bars on my own.

Where can I find you guys? Not necessarily only looking for just hookups so not sure about the apps -- but venues, events etc. Or if there are dating apps then yeah give me some recommendations.

Tired of living a bear-less life !

Anyone going to opening night for IKON in Tooting tonight?

This weekend sees the World Premiere of this new 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️work at The Cockpit Theatre NW8.

The Quietening is a story about chosen family, queer community, and what happens when someone refuses to give up on you.

When Jacob's estranged Mum dies, he has to confront a past he’s spent years trying to outrun. Grumpy, withdrawn and carrying the lasting effects of conversion therapy, he's built a life around keeping people at a distance - until he meets Ethan.

Ethan seems determined to break through every wall Jacob has built - and as their relationship deepens, Jacob begins to face memories that have been buried for decades, and discovers that healing might actually be possible.

If you have access needs please contact the venue to book tickets: 020 7258 2925, boxoffice@thecockpit.org.uk.

Event Details

Genre: LGBTQ+

Duration: 60 mins

Price: £15

Social Media

Instagram halflightcreative

Information

CWs: Depictions of conversion therapy, homophobia and bereavement. Contains strobing/flashing lights and vomiting.

Suitable for ages: 18+

World premiere

See venue page for accessibility information.

15 August 2026 7.00pm

The Cockpit

Full: £15

Conc: £12

https://tickets.thecockpit.org.uk/sales/shows/camden-fringe-2026/the-quietening

Hi guys. Want to see if this is for me.
Any tips for a good time to go? I’m in shape and a nice guy but quite shy about exploring.
Anyone want to hold my hand?

Want to help more people find queer spaces?

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I'm fairly new to exploring London's LGBTQ+ scene and I'm looking for recommendations for the best gay bars.

I'm ideally looking for places that have:

- A fun, vibrant atmosphere

- Friendly, social people (easy to chat and meet others)

- A good mix of ages

- A pool table would be a big bonus!

I recently went to a gay bar on my own for the first time, and although I didn't end up talking to anyone apart from the bartender, I'm trying to build my confidence and would love to find places with a welcoming vibe for solo visitors.

What would you recommend, and are there any nights that are particularly good?