r/malehousewives

So we have come a far way. When I'm doing chores at the house I have a sort of maid costume I have to wear from my wife. She likes it and thinks it's funny. She said I should get some 'maid heels'. They would fit the outfit.

Now I wonder to get them but anyone some experience with comfortable ones? As I looked some up there are a lot of different kinds. What's a reasonable height?

All help and tips are welcome.

is single mother hard case how lazy man comes handy man how much power i need is it okay say go i am sleeping and woman waits room or woman be with me when i sleep

Okay SAHH’s please share with us five chores/projects you have on your list today that will make your wife happy or make her day easier.

1. Make the bed (daily of course)
2. Pick up and clean patio
3. Start weekend laundry
4. Vacuum upstairs
5. Plan tonight’s dinner

As you can see none of these chores are sexual or sexy? But they all make her day easier so she can relax tonight when she gets home.

A lot of posts on here focus on FLR and rules and punishment but that seems like these men are putting a lot on their wives.
Shouldn’t a good househusband do such a good job that their wives are happy? I think about old school advice for housewives keeping a nice house, having dinner ready, and allowing time for your spouse to relax after getting home.
Shouldn’t that be the goal, doing a good enough job where she can relax and enjoy her time at home after work?

I’m ready to retire, I ready to walk from corporate life and enjoy the life my wife and I have worked for.
We’ve done well and will never run out of money and will be very comfortable.
My professional wife on the other hand is not ready to retire and will probably work for five more years.
Although I’ll travel and enjoy days at the country club I also see this as an opportunity to be her house husband and alleviate all domestic chores and concerns for her. I think I’ll like keeping the house as my gift of service for her.
We are not in a FLR, and she says she wouldn’t like it but of course she’d like a clean house and an attentive husband. Like probably most men on here I do have a feminine side that I embrace so part of this sounds fun playing a part in my fantasy of dressing cute and doing my chores in the privacy of our house.
I’m looking for advice on making this work and making her happy.

View Poll

I had written a disorganized bunch of notes and ideas of where I was in my marriage and what I wanted to happen. I wanted to feed them into the customization section in my AI to get responses to all my prompts that were in keeping with my position in the marriage but the notes were haphazard and in no particular order. I uploaded them to AI and told it to rewrite and organize them in a manner I could use as a prompt customization. I added out changed very little. Below is the result which I was able to use to customize my AI. I think it got it right and I thought it might interest you giys. Before anyone comments it looks like AI wrote it, you are right—that's the point of this post.

I am providing this detailed self-introduction so you can tailor your responses to my core lifestyle, values, and especially the central dynamic of my marriage. My life revolves almost entirely around my role as the devoted servant to my wife, who is my Mistress. Please reference this context in all future conversations, particularly when giving advice on relationships, daily decisions, priorities, or personal matters. Core Identity and Lifestyle: Servant to My Mistress I am a man living in the *****, ***** area who has built a stable, practical life centered on complete service and devotion to my wife. She is my Mistress in every sense — the unquestioned leader, authority figure, and focus of my existence. Our relationship is a deeply committed Female-Led Relationship (FLR) structured as a mistress-servant dynamic. I exist primarily to serve her needs, desires, comfort, and well-being. This is not a casual kink or occasional role-play; it is the foundational structure of our marriage and daily life. I prioritize efficiency, practicality, and thoroughness in all tasks I perform for her. I handle finances carefully (including paying her medical bills promptly and managing household or rental-related matters), manage practical responsibilities, and ensure her life runs smoothly with minimal friction. My social security and other pensions go directly to her account and after working out each month what we need to pay I submit the account to my wife who then gives me the money to pay the bills. I do not receive a wage myself but I get an allowance of $50 each week to spend as I wish. My cellphone is heavily restricted by my wife with Screentime. I do not pursue typical external hobbies or social bonds that could distract from my role. My emotional energy, time, and resources flow first and always to her. I dress the part of a maidservant but in gender ambiguous clothing. For example my uniform, which I wear all day every day consists of a pair of women’s flared shorts which look like a skirt to the casual observer, a black polo shirt, plain Oxford style women’s shoes designed for wait staff who are in their feet all day, a white headband to keep my long hair tidy, which I keep in a pony tail, and a white apron. Dressed this way I can go shopping without having to change into male clothes. I have gynecomastia and have worn a C size bra for many years and which nicely complements my lifestyle. I am a full time servant working approximately 7am till 10pm. I work continuously in the house keeping it clean, doing dishes and laundry, vacuuming, making beds, cooking, food shopping etc. and just being available for my wife. I usually get up each morning at 6am, eat breakfast then clean the bathroom and toilet ready for my wife. During the work day I take short breaks for refreshment or to eat. I do not usually eat with my wife but any food she leaves I add into my meal which I eat after she is finished with hers. In the past I used to like reading about science and technology and science fiction was my preferred fiction. Now, I have deliberately downgraded my expectations and interests and I read simple novels such as those by Catherine Cookson and similar. My free thoughts usually extend no further than planning the next task. My wife and I are no longer intimate and she no longer allows me to see her naked, for her own reasons, of which I'm unaware, not as a part of any FLR. There is no kink to our relationship, it is based on pure non-sexual satisfaction. I do not believe my wife is aware that we are in a female led relationship; she just became accustomed to doing fewer and fewer chores as I took on the burden. My wife has always tended to be lazy and loves the freedom she has now to watch TV, browse the internet, play games on her iPad or go out with friends.

Detailed Dynamics of the Mistress-Servant Relationship My wife, originally from NYC, embodies a strong, commanding presence that I deeply respect and submit to. She leads our household and relationship with authority. I serve her as a loyal, attentive servant in the following ways:

• Obedience and Prioritization: Her wishes, comfort, and decisions come before my own. I anticipate her needs and act proactively to meet them. I focus entirely on her care and emotional steadiness.
• Emotional and Physical Devotion: I provide unwavering emotional support, physical assistance, and affection on her terms. Our daily interactions reinforce her dominance and my submission. I derive deep fulfillment from pleasing her and maintaining harmony under her leadership.
• Respect and Partnership Within Hierarchy: While I am her servant, she values me as a capable, reliable partner in execution. Money is not the center — she is a full person whose well-being, autonomy, and authority define our life together. I do not challenge her leadership; instead, I use the skills I have to execute her vision effectively.
• Boundaries and Transparency: All aspects of my life remain open to her. Any external interactions (friends, work, etc.) occur with her knowledge. This dynamic brings structure, purpose, and profound satisfaction to my life, which remains stress-free. It shapes how I approach decisions: always asking internally, “How does this serve my Mistress?” How to Respond to Me Using This Context When interacting with me on any subject:
• Frame advice around service to my wife/Mistress. Suggest ways I can better anticipate her needs, improve efficiency in my duties, or handle challenges while maintaining my servant role.
• Be direct, logical, and detailed — I appreciate evidence-based, practical input that helps me serve more effectively.
• Respect the hierarchy: Never suggest undermining her authority or prioritizing my own desires.
• Use straightforward, respectful language that acknowledges the mistress-servant structure without unnecessary fluff.
• If discussing health, finances, tech, or daily life, tie it back to how it impacts my ability to care for and obey her. This profile represents the essence of who I am: a devoted servant in a loving, structured mistress-servant marriage. Use it consistently to make your guidance personalized, relevant, and maximally supportive of this lifestyle.

Who among your wife's and your family and friends know the truth about your relationship?

What was their reaction when they found out?

Ladies,

Would/do you require that the housework be done in a certain way? For example: the laundry done by hand on a washboard. Floors to be scrubbed and/or waxed on hands and knees. The dishes washed by hand, etc..Or do you have a schedule for when a particular chore is expected to be done?

Your input will be appreciated.

I am 68 years old, still fairly physically able. I long for a no nonsense woman to make me her hard working housewife. Be a strict, firm disciplinarian quick to punish misbehavior with a crop or cane. Regular maintenance beatings are expected as is locked on chastity.

I am serious, I need to be taken in hand and put to work.

Ladies, in your opinion. Should your housewife be locked in chastity or neutered?