r/parentingtroubledteen

A full 7 days after my son went missing from a treatment facility in a large city, he convinced a stranger to let him use their phone and he called me for help this morning. I drove an hour to find him. I also told his PO that I had made contact. I found him, fed him, and drove him home. His PO knew the plan, and that I felt unsafe calling the police myself, so he called. The police arrived at my home, my son saw them, and ran out the back door, jumping fences to get away. Not long after his PO informed me he was found. He is now safe and in custody. We may have court tomorrow, but I fear with his running a second time he will likely stay in detention, which breaks my heart. This mama is really hurting, any support is welcome. 😞

I have no safe place to say this. Everyone just says "well you guys raised her" ",you're the parents" it's your job"

Our daughter 13f is so disrespectful,. entitled, rude and just a downright hateful person. She had a normal childhood. My husband and I are still together. She has one younger brother. It all started going downhill at age 10/11. If we say no to anything she has to know why and then keeps pushing pushing pushing. We just say no and try to ignore it but she keeps going. She says she wants to kill herself constantly whenever she doesn't get her way. She hates me Mom(40

yo) she told me this morning she wishes I would fall off a cliff. She threatens us with CPS. We spanked her twice at most when she was little.

She was in therapy but she just sat there and didn't try and the therapist said it wasn't working after weeks and weeks of this. She slams things around and is manipulative to us all. No one wants her around. We walk on egg shells with her and I'm the only one who gives boundries or tries too. I'm at a loss. We can't live like this anymore. I've had thoughts of actually running away but it would damage the kids. If I would have known this is how teens are I wouldn't have had kids at all. I regret it so much. I feel like I'm drowning. I have no relationship with my Daughter now. It's constant emotional abuse from her, but no one cares because she's the minor/child. I think the damage is done and there's no turning back from the things she has said and done. I wish we had a village of people we could send her away for the summer. There's no grandparents, aunts or uncles. I dread the summer. I am grieving the daughter we once had and wish we had. No idea what the next steps are. She clearly needs help. I'm in therapy myself and on medication for depression.

My 13yo daughter has been a rebel ever since she started walking! I just never imagined she would turn out this way!

After her dad walked out on us and made a divorce difficult I worked hard to get us where we are today, better than my circumstances as a kid. I remarried, had more kids. My husband has been there for since she was 4 but now we're splitting up! He can't deal with her anymore he's taking the kids she's a real bad influence on them!

Her room is a biohazard! Full plates of food in her dresser, concoctions she made that ends up stuck in the carpet, most of my dishes is in her room and garbage piles. She does this to any space she occupies! Doesnt want to clean up after herself!

She steals from everyone! Not money but your shoes, hoodies, headphones, hair care products, clothes, etc. She has no respect for things hers or yours. She'll leave clothes at the park, at school it will never be seen again! I stopped buying her the "good" clothes two years ago. I take her to the thrift store now! She recently stole an electronic device given to my special needs child. It helps him communicate with us and he can do little activities on it to keep him entertained. This was the final straw for my husband. I don't allow my daughter to have electronic devices cuz when I did she was sending nudes to boys!

Everyone needed to have the doot knobs changed so we can lock our doors even the pantry! You can't let your guard down around her if you do something of yours will go missing or she'll raid the pantry for sugar! I had to lock it bc I used to burn through sugar, brown sugar, powdered sugar, honey, vanilla extract bc her sweet tooth is that bad! She's 13 and needs two of her permanent teeth extracted! I also have to rapidly replace condiments and seasonings!

I got calls/emails from teachers and administrators every year but this year was the worse! She's been written up 19x in the last month and a half. She tried to get my husband to drop her off at a boy's house. She's lying about her age, dressing like its Euphoria High in the south of all places. She has a terrible reputation amongst her peers as difficult and loose!

She has been in therapy for 6mos, medication has been prescribed she's been compliant up until this week. I tried investing in her talents with dance she did the bare minimum but seemed to love going to the competitions. It required her to get dolled up which costed alot of money. Her behavior didn't improve I tried switching her to coding or a sport she was always too tired or just didn't feel like going. She can go outside but I'm hearing she's lying about her age to older boys. A neighbor told me she asked him to take her to a boy's house. She also went to another subdivision, one I told her not to go to bc of the drama that happens there often now she has been subpoenaed to testify as a witness in an assault against a child. She has a probation officer but it's not helpful!

However he recommended a group home situation that wouldn't require me to give up custody and that's also an option I'm strongly considering!

My house is in shambles! My husband and I are splitting up bc of her! My oldest son doesnt want to be here but he'll stay for me. I have no family that will help. My neighbors have done enough. I'm recovering from a work injury, I can't work rn and all this constant bad behavior has caused me to start antidepressants. I filled out the application for the group home hopefully she will be a good fit.

I honestly never want to see her again! She's doesn't care about anyone but herself she's getting worse! Thanks to the antidepressants she doesnt get a reaction out of me anymore. Thats what I believe fuels her, attention. I've been trying to make her just as uncomfortable as she's made us in hopes that she will like this group home and never want to come back. She has the option to live there until she's 18.

If she's accepted she's looking at an enrollment date of July. Wish us luck we're gonna need it!

He has been missing for almost 48 hours from a court-ordered (through probation) treatment facility in a nearby large city. He called me and told me he was going to run, and I thought I had talked him off the ledge so to speak and to stick it out. The facility is not a locked facility. He just walked out with another teen boy and disappeared. The police have been notified but NO ONE has spoken to me, other than telling me I need to come pick up his things. I don’t think the police are doing anything and I’m falling apart. I’ve missed two days of work and sleep all day. I’m not doing well and I’m so worried. He left with nothing but the clothes on his back, needs his medication, and talks often about suicide by cop.

Happy Mother’s Day!

It’s a constant up and down, but this last week had been again a struggle with my 17 year old son, so unfortunately my plans to do something nice with both my kids today won’t work out the way I thought and I already know, my 17 year old won’t even look at me. It was like that on my Birthday this year. I’m sad, but I know he struggles a lot with self esteem issues, with emotional regulation and compulsive behavior. Next week he has an appointment with a psychiatrist for assessment, I hope this will help.

I really just want to say Happy Mother’s Day to all of you! You doing your best and if your kids don’t appreciate you right now for any reasons, make this day to a self care and self love day for you! Let go of all the worries just for today! Go out and get a favorite hot/cold drink, meet a friend, take a bath, buy yourself some flowers, watch a movie or go for a walk! Sending love to all of you ❤️