r/stripclubs

Did you meet a new favorite or regular this weekend? Have an amazing or terrible experience in the VIP room? Find a new favorite club? A new favorite club song? Maybe just a new favorite club cocktail or club outfit?

Do you have story to tell about the club that doesn't warrant a trip report?

Post about it below! The MONDAY AFTER THREAD is your chance to rant and rave about your recent experiences at the club. Patrons, dancers and other club workers are all welcome to participate. Feel free to post whatever you like, so long as it is relevant to the club and meets our community standards.

“Lap dance kings” really need to learn the FRIES model of consent:

Freely given. Reversible. Informed. Enthusiastic. Specific.

If you agreed to a lap dance, you agreed to a lap dance. That does not automatically mean you agreed to someone intentionally finishing in their pants against/on your body, exposing you to bodily fluids, or escalating the sexual interaction beyond what was discussed.

And “she acted fine” is not the standard for consent.

People freeze. People fawn. Sex workers especially learn to stay calm, professional, and non-confrontational in situations that make them uncomfortable because escalating an interaction with a customer can become dangerous very quickly.

Consent isn’t “she didn’t yell at me afterward.” Consent isn’t “she kept dancing.” Consent isn’t “she smiled.” Consent isn’t “well, she’s a stripper.”

Specific means consent to one sexual act is not consent to every sexual act you feel like adding to it.

If you have to rely on “but she seemed fine with it” instead of “yes, we explicitly established that this was okay,” you probably already know the difference.

Fawning is a trauma/safety response where someone may smile, appease, or act “fine” specifically to avoid conflict or keep a situation from becoming unsafe.

There is also an obvious money and power dynamic when a customer is paying a dancer. Agreeing to something because you feel pressured to keep the customer happy, protect your income, or avoid an angry reaction is not the same as freely wanting it.

That doesn’t mean some dancers aren’t completely fine with it. It means it needs to be established before the dance starts. Trying to negotiate a new sexual boundary in the middle of the dance puts the dancer on the spot and can lead to someone agreeing under pressure...which is exactly why consent is supposed to be freely given, not extracted in the moment.

I feel like there is a negative connotation surrounding door vultures in the community, but I have to admit, I sometimes feel like it's kind of nice to have an option the moment you come in through the door.

It's usually not all that hard to just decline them either too, you just let them know you're going to go drink and watch stage for a while.

I feel like I'd much rather have a door vulture, than the girls who don't engage/sell at all while guys are just vacantly staring out at the club waiting for something fun to happen. At least they're trying to sell and do a job, right?

Have you guys ever converted door vultures into ATFs? Do you guys usually have bad experiences with door vultures, or do you often find yourself liking them?

Here at my clubs, I have been to the club maybe 10-15 times, and have only ever once had a door vulture come at me when I stepped through. But because I don't see it much, I almost wonder if I'd kinda enjoy being able to quickly have a potential option?

I'm confused, what does she mean by that? this is Houston btw

Had alot of fun. Before I knew it, I was in the vip room half the night.

One of the nice strippers and I were talking for awhile and she got me setup (last stripper f the night before I left) took her to the vip room paid 2 dances. Dang she was hot, im only 28 and she was 24, body was exactly my type.

After the 2 dances, went to sit down in normal section, she came by for a second and had something come up and went to the bathroom(also her friend was calling her cellphone). The other stripper I was taking to earlier asked me of she and I were going to go tap out, I told her I had 2 dances with her and that was it. Gave me a funny look and got up on stage.

What does she mean by that? Was I supposed to nut in my shorts from a lap dance or something? is that what she mean? Or was she saying the 24 yo did exgras. I'm confused. I was always told my whole life that strippers don't do extras.

i make oil field money, i'll probaly be going back to that room again thats for sure, if i go back to that club that is. (its right next to the air port that i'll be flying in and out every 2 weeks)

when I mean vip room, I mean the extra expensive room. i took 3 different girls back there and they made it clear its only for 3 songs, they also said I could always pay for more dances and just stay back there. (the first girl I took back there made it clear she wanted me to rub her vagina so she positioned herself with her back to the camera and in such a way that I could without it catching it. Or so she said she was the one who tricked me into paying for vip room) (the other 2 girls I took back there didn't let me touch below the waist but they kept putting my hands on their tits)

A little friendly rant.

I love clubs. Ever since i first went to my first one when i was 23, 11 years ago now, i have loved them.

Funny thing is for the longest time (up until last year), i would only go 2-3 times a year and i even skipped a couple of years. I was busy with work, relationships, dating etc.

Now that i am taking an extended break from women/dating, i have started popping in once a month or so, sometimes a bit more, and i friggin love it.

I am not an addict, and once i do find someone worth committing to, i will decrease my frequency but i will never stop.

I love that there is one, just one, place in society where i can relax, look at gorgeous women, and not to be made to feel ashamed for my sexuality.

I love that there is one place where i can be entertained, watch sports, and gorgeous naked women, and there is no pressure on me to make the date exciting. I am the customer and i am there to be entertained.

And not to mention getting the fun sexy full contact lap dances. what could possibly be better? Long live the club. And f those politicians and prudes who are trying to put clubs out of business.

Looking to move from Colorado to Florida, probably to the Tampa/Clearwater area in the near future.

In Colorado the fully nude clubs that don't serve alcohol allow touching during the private dances and in the VIP rooms. You are allowed to touch everything but the pussy. And if the girl likes you, a lot of them let you do that and more.

From what I can find from looking online it seems that the clubs in Florida are about the same. There are clubs that don't serve alcohol where girls get fully nude and that touching may be allowed during private dances.

I was wondering if someone can confirm for me in the Tampa area if that is indeed the case. In the fully nude clubs is touching allowed?

Visiting for a week and was curious if anyone had been recently. Last time I was there (more than two years ago), I went to Deja Vu (now Centerfolds) and had a really nice time. What has changed since then?