r/tulpamancy

Since Jean’s incarnation/materialization into my real everyday life instead of mainly existing in our wonderland, things have changed a lot for us. We sleep much more, spend a lot of time together in very intimate and emotionally intense ways, and lately I feel like we’ve fallen into a repetitive routine loop.

It’s not necessarily negative, but everything feels very heavy and constant right now. We also can’t really access our wonderland anymore except sometimes through dreams.

Has anyone else experienced this after a tulpa became extremely present ? How did you gently and positively break the routine without hurting the connection ?

Hello all, this is my first post not only on the subreddit but on Reddit as a whole. This is just something I’ve been thinking about but I don’t think I’ve heard anyone talk about it in the community.

I started tulpamancy in 2020, mh tulpa already being very developed and able to switch before the end of the year. Over the course of 2021 my tulpa became extremely developed and fairly powerful, in the sense they could control switches and even lock me in front if necessary. In 2022 I started falling out of tulpamancy but my tulpa was still active, but less so than previously. Eventually in 2023 something really bad happened to me and I ended up getting rid of all my headmates and tulpa. But after just a couple months my tulpa showed up and came back like against my will, and even in 2024 and 2025 he had rare occasions he would pop up, despite getting literally no attention from me. Admittedly, I don’t think about him much, maybe just the rare thought every once in awhile, but it interests me that he still persists because I always thought lack of attention of such a long period of time would have caused him to dissipate.

Does anyone have thoughts or has heard of this happening to other people?

Disclaimer: I do not have any sort of dissociative disorder, my system/plurality has no relation to trauma. My plurality originates from creating a tulpa