I cannot stand fiancés family.
i’ve been with my fiance for almost 5 years. I should have known during the first year, things would never change.
his family is extremely odd. from the way they communicate to how they treat others genuinely is so frustrating.
the very first time I met his parents his dad didn’t say single word to me. and continued not to until I had his grandson. his mother did occasionally or if I sparked conversation. other then that just pure awkwardness.
it bothered me horribly at first, mainly because i’ve never met anyone who acts that way nor was I raised that way so it felt foreign to even encounter but whatever I moved on and just treated them how they did me.
well fast forward, i find out I was pregnant last year. a lot changed with his mother, his dad not really but I could care less at this point. she seemed supportive still not as much as i’d hoped but whatever.
then came time I had my son, everything changed. I didn’t realize how much it’d been bothering me until she started actually treating me like a member of the family. she invited me over, would come over to help or just keep me company. did me so many favors when I was too tired to do anything, etc.
my son is now 8 months old and all of that has stopped. I get 0 invite. no one comes to see me. no one texts, no facetime.
meanwhile her daughter who’s had 2 children back to back gets her undivided help, attention, and even parents her child damn near every single day while she sits on the couch on her phone.
I get it it’s her daughter, but this feels like a joke at this point.
im not going to lie im hurt. im extremely hurt actually. not necessarily for me, but for my son. it’s bullshit.
& to say anything involving any of this to either of of them is pointless. I don’t want a forced relationship nor do I want drama. I just want my son to have good grandparents who actually give a shit about him since mine live in far away. it breaks my heart.
but my fiance is a good dad & a good guy genuinely. I just have my regrets ab getting into this family and I don’t know what to do.