Husband of Twelve Years Caught Sexting My Father
Help… please help. Friday night my husband, myself, and our four year old went to eat dinner at my dad’s house.
We do not see him very often because there has always been tension there and he is very narcissistic. I really wanted to try and have a relationship with my dad and so I have been texting him more and trying to see him a little here and there. Dinner went great, and my husband even opened up to him about his sexuality. About two weeks ago my husband told me he is bisexual and always has been but has been closeted all this time. He opened up to my dad about this and was received with a hug and that he was accepted. He asked my husband if he wanted to go ride side by sides Saturday morning and that he would be here to support him. He goes on and has a great time and everything is fine so I think.
Saturday my in-laws had a cookout for the holiday and me and my little family of course went. We all walked inside together but then my husband went outside and a few minutes later I realized I had forgotten the drinks in the car. When I was walking back to the car I saw my husband
Walking the same way texting and smiling and thought it was very strange. I walked behind him not even hiding my steps and he went behind the car still just enamored. As soon as he saw me step towards him his whole face froze and he tried to take his phone and not let me see it… which has never happened.
I knew in my gut immediately who they were from but had been praying I was wrong. I wasn’t. The text thread was all messages from my dad to him…. I don’t know if he was just texting back at the time I caught him or if messages were erased. They were beyond highly inappropriate…… actually they were traumatizing and I truly feel heartbroken in a way I didn’t know could exist. The messages were explicit. They also mentioned me. My own father and my own husband mentioned ME in their sexual fantasies or what the f ever.
I don’t know what to do. I’m so broken. I love my husband and our family and our life together but i cant live like this and ultimately our daughter looks up to me and i have to show her right from wrong.
If this was you what would you do?? I have been with this man since I was 17 I know nothing else. I’m
Broken.