AITAH for fighting with a man for a second time?
Okay, so I'm not sure where to start with this. I'm a reddit stalker not a poster. Sorry if this comes out jumbled everything is still fresh and I'll be changing names. I (27F) guess let's start with context. I'm part of a pretry big family that loves to throw big celebrations. Our family friends do as well. At nearly every event John(mid 30s? Dunno) is there. John has made it painstakingly clear that he is interested in me and I've made it painstakingly clear I am NOT interested in him.
I've literally beat him up before because he gets handsy. He avoided me for about a year and a half after that, but now he's back to barking up the wrong tree again.
I don't like John for a lot of reasons. He's a drunkard. Every event I've seen him at he has always been ridiculously drunk. When I've asked people about this everyone says he's an alcoholic. I have no issue with drinking every now and then. I like to drink to have a good times occasionally, but I prefer the devil's lettuce. To each their own, but there comes a time when you need to check yourself when everyone around you is telling you that you have an issue.
He regularly disrespects boundaries. I've had multiple conversations about him leaving me alone. My father, my mother, my brother, hell even some of my cousins has had conversations with him about his creepy behavior towards me. John's own family has talked to him about his behavior towards me. He has ignored everyone of them or tries to downplay the situation.
Today he started with his usual weird shit. I walked into the function with my parents and I'm greeting people before finding a place to sit. You know how you can feel someone staring at you? Well I felt like I was being watched. So, I started scanning the crowd and low and behold he's staring. I immediately get irritated cause I already know how this situation is going to go. I ignore him and start chatting with someone else. Not even 3 minutes go by before he's standing over me.
John: Where's my hug at?
Me: You do understand that I have a strong dislike for you that is rapidly turning into hatred?
John: Man, ion wanna hear all that.
My mom: Can you get out of my daughter's face? She doesn't like you. So, why would she hug you?
He walks away, but continues staring at me from across the yard. I ignore him to the best of my abilities and make my plate, crack jokes with some folks I haven't seen in a while, dance. I was enjoying my 4th.
I was talking to some guy about this project I've been working on when I felt a hand on my ass. I looked back at the hand then at the face and was immediately pissed off. John is standing there with a dopey grin. This is the second time he has touched me without my consent. I screamed "DO NOT FUCKING TOUCH ME" and started swinging. He tried to fight back, but it wasn't working out to well for him. It took 3 other men to pull me off him. He started telling everyone I attacked him for no reason. I lunged at him again, but someone caught my waist and pulled me back.
My cousin stepped forward and told everyone he was lying cause she had caught everything on camera. She was originally filming the fireworks, but noticed him approaching me from behind. She showed the video to everyone. So, thankfully everyone knew exactly what happened and why, but people are saying I'm in the wrong still.
So, I came to reddit. Am I TAH?