r/unrequitedlove

Hi everyone! I'm a girl. I need some advice — I'm confused.

For a long time now, I've really liked my friend. So much that I can say I fell in love with him at first sight. My friends say he's not particularly handsome, but to me he's beautiful, sweet, and kind.

The problem is, we see each other 2–3 times a week because we train together. I think I fell in love with him when I saw him dance. We've slept over at each other's places, but nothing romantic ever happened between us just friendly hugs.

But here's what confuses me: he used to take care of me he cooked for me, picked up my things. A couple of times I slept cuddled up with him, and we held hands. To me, that's a bit much for just friendship. Maybe he doesn't remember it. Most likely, he's just that kind and caring with everyone, and I'm reading too much into it.

When he had a girlfriend, I felt jealous. When he talked to other girls at parties same thing. Now there's some distance between us: I don't hang out with him as often, I don't sleep over anymore. But I still want to see him. I think about him throughout the day.

We have the same mentality, we share a native language (I'm currently an immigrant), we listen to the same music, and we dance. But I know he doesn't like me back. Because I'm very emotional, I don't have a supermodel body, and he's called me fat a couple of times. Basically, he treats me like a sister or a friend.

But at the same time, people often mistake us for a couple when we go somewhere together. I guess it's my lovestruck look that gives it away. Although our mutual friends said they couldn't tell I liked him.

And yes, by the way I confessed to him. But I told him not to give me an answer whether he likes me back or not. Because I already know the answer: he doesn't like me.

Another thing that bothers me: But I know nothing about him. His friends called me out on it that I'm in love with him but don't even know his favorite color or anything about his past relationships. And they're right. He knows way more about me than I know about him. Sometimes I think is he dumb? Or is he just pretending?

Important: I've had crushes before, I've fallen for other guys. But I've never kept in touch with any guy for this long. And now I've been in love with my friend for almost a year, and it's exhausting. He might have someone else now too.

I'm trying to follow my mom's advice. She said it's better to wait out these feelings and actually try to be friends, rather than ruin the friendship with my infatuation. I know she's right, but inside it's tearing me apart.

What should I do? I'm tired of feeling this way. Recently I met another nice guy who adores me. But I like someone else.

Okay what’s your worst response to when someone confessed their love to you?
It has been almost 10 years since a close friend of mine once said those words to me and I still feel so guilty for reacting the way I did.

Backstory:
We were friends for 4-5 years in college, and he had moved to another state for med school and would visit for family visits. He happened to be coming into town for a visit during my birthday weekend. I felt like we could maybe explore more than a friendship and were talking it up leading up to visit. Went to a bunch of bars for my birthday that weekend and he joined in with a bunch of other friends. There was no kiss or anything but he texted me he was in love with me at some point that night and I freaked out and downplayed it and eventually we stopped talking and I never spoke to him again. We are still friends on socials and every time I see his name, I feel guilty. I am happily in a relationship but I just feel guilty for ever acting like a child and not talking things out like adults.

So let’s hear those stories where we could have handled it better!