Wanting children at different times TL;DR :
TL;DR : I’m a 39-year-old woman who is unexpectedly falling in love after spending a very long time feeling like I could never truly love someone again.Six years ago, I went through a painful breakup after my ex and I spent 3 years trying to conceive naturally without success. After that relationship ended, something in me shut down a little. I dated, put myself out there, had small relationships, but never really fell for anyone again.
Over time, I started trying to make peace with the idea of having a child alone. I froze my eggs and tried to find acceptance within myself after years of unknown fertility issues and heartbreak.Then I met him.He’s 33, recently out of a long-term relationship, and somehow everything about us just fits. We align in so many ways — our values, the way we want to live, our connection, our chemistry. It honestly feels cosmic at times. I even had this vivid dream where I met my future daughter, and when I asked her to find her dad, this man just sort of appeared.The problem is timing.I want children now. He says he definitely wants children in the future, but he’s unsure about when. Part of the reason his last relationship ended was because they wanted different things and were on different timelines around kids and lifestyle.And I can’t stop asking myself:
If he couldn’t do it for her, why would he do it for me?At the same time, he says beautiful things — that he’s falling for me, that he can genuinely see us together long term, and that he understands my situation and that my body's timeline comes into play.I feel torn between protecting my heart and allowing myself to experience something that feels rare and real. Part of me wonders if I should walk away now before it hurts more. But another part of me is terrified that if I let this go, I may never feel this kind of connection again.Has anyone else experienced love and timing colliding like this?