I’m feeling a little anxious that instead of my concerns being heard, I’ll be judged for being in my early 20s and for having had intimate partners in the past.

I booked an appointment with a gynaecologist and I’m seeing her today. My concerns are mostly around a general reproductive health checkup, some private concerns, and possibly getting a few tests done.

I’m visiting from abroad (a western country) and have lived there my whole life, so I’m used to doctors being very confidential and non-judgmental about personal medical history. I know our culture here can be more conservative in some aspects.

I was wondering if there are any boundary setting questions or things I can say/do to make sure I’m treated with dignity and that the experience stays comfortable and confidential. I’m guessing some women here know the routine better than I do, so I’d really appreciate some guidance.

I genuinely wish women’s sexual and reproductive health wasn’t so stigmatized.

The sub has been growing, so we need a bit more help with moderation.

It is not super busy, you would just need to check in a couple times a day when you have a minute. With more people, it will not all fall on the same few mods.

We already have a few users in mind and will be reaching out to them, but we also want to give others a chance.

If you are interested, comment below or message us through modmail and we will get back to you soon.

We will go through everyone who is interested and pick whoever seems like a good fit for not letting this sub fall apart.

Thanks
- ur super sexy mods xx

Hello everyone,

After reviewing the votes from the community discussion, Option B received the most support.

We will now be introducing a new Dating & Relationship flair within the subreddit. This flair is being added to help organize content while still allowing members to share experiences, ask for advice, and have discussions related to relationships in a dedicated space. We will apply this flair over existing posts soon.

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Rule modification: Dating & Relationship Posts
Posts about dating, relationships, romantic experiences, or advice must use the Dating & Relationship flair.

This flair is for:
- Relationship advice
- Dating experiences
- Romantic discussions
- Personal relationship situations
- Questions about navigating modern dating or relationships as a member of the Punjabi diaspora

What This Flair Is NOT For
- Matchmaking, finding prospects or any kind of “Looking for a partner” posts, hookup requests
- Complaining about body counts or shaming people’s dating history
- Low-effort gender wars or rage bait

This flair is simply a space to talk about your own romantic life and relationship experiences.

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Monthly Matchmaking Thread
We will instead be adding a matchmaking thread for people who are genuinely interested in meeting others from the community.

THE LINK: https://www.reddit.com/r/PunjabiConfessionzs/s/rRsf6rxd7s

This a single pinned thread where users could voluntarily introduce themselves in a structured format rather than making individual matchmaking posts across the subreddit.

More detailed information about how the matchmaking thread works, posting format, expectations, and rules will be included directly in the thread itself.

This would simply provide a contained space for people who are interested in connecting without flooding the subreddit with matchmaking posts.

That said, this is Reddit, so please keep expectations realistic. Your personal safety matters more than anything.

The goal here is to keep the sub organized while still allowing these conversations to exist in a respectful way.

Thank you to everyone who voted and gave feedback. We appreciate the community helping shape the direction of this sub.

Mod Team
r/PunjabiConfessionzs

Welcome to the community matchmaking thread for r/PunjabiConfessionzs.

This is our first time trying this, so consider this a testing phase.

If it goes well, we will use community feedback to improve and continue it. If it does not go well, we may choose not to continue unless there is strong demand from members to keep it active.

Please read everything below before participating.

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IMPORTANT SAFETY NEED-TO-KNOW

YOUR PERSONAL SAFETY MATTERS MORE THAN ANYTHING.

If you are harassed, threatened, pressured, or made to feel unsafe:

• Screenshot everything
• Block the user
• Report them to Reddit
• Report them to the Mod Team

Do not give out identifying details immediately.

Please remember online safety when speaking to strangers.

We highly recommend using Arctic-Shift to search hidden or deleted posts and comments before engaging with someone.

If you are a woman, there is a high chance you may receive inappropriate or unsavory messages. Do not engage. Screenshot, block, and report.

You are never obligated to continue speaking to anyone.

If you feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or pressured, you are free to leave the conversation at any time.

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RULES

• ABSOLUTELY NO MINORS. THIS THREAD IS STRICTLY 18+
• No hookups
• No asking users for pictures
• No NSFW or explicit messages
• No catfishing, fake profiles, or misleading information
• You cannot misrepresent yourself under any circumstances
• No harassment or repeated messaging after rejection
• Respect boundaries at all times

If someone messages you asking for pictures, hookups, or inappropriate conversations, screenshot, block, and report.

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EXPECTATION SETTING

If you message someone and they do not respond, move on. If you get ghosted, move on. Nobody owes anyone replies, attention, explanations, or continued conversation.

Participation in this thread is voluntary. Please keep expectations realistic. You are not compelled to stay in conversations that no longer feel right for you.

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This is an ongoing matchmaking thread and will remain active.

If you are still open to receiving messages, mark your comment as [OPEN].

If you are no longer interested in receiving messages, edit your comment and mark it as [CLOSED].

You may delete your comment and repost at any time.

HOW TO POST

People who do not follow the suggested format may be asked to repost correctly. Please keep posts structured and readable.

Suggested information to include:

• Age
• Gender
• General location (province/state or country only)
• Background or diaspora information
• Career or education
• Relationship goals
• Lifestyle, hobbies, and values
• What you are looking for in a partner
• Dealbreakers or preferences stated respectfully
• Whether you are open to relocating

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MESSAGING EXPECTATIONS

Do not send simple messages like “hey,” “hi,” or low-effort introductions. If you are interested in someone, you should introduce yourself properly.

Include the same type of information requested above so the other person understands who you are and why you are reaching out. Respect people’s time and effort. Low-effort messages may be ignored.

Example below is fictional and only provided to help with formatting.

[OPEN]
"25 year old Sikh female, born and raised in BC, currently living in Nova Scotia. I am open to relocating, but also seeking a partner who is open to relocating because my career is very dynamic.

I am seeking a partner between 25 to 30 years old.

I have a masters degree and currently work in a hospital as a nurse practitioner.

I am looking for a relationship that can grow into something long term. I would ideally like marriage within the next 3 to 4 years if things go well.

I enjoy hiking, photography, and camping. I spend a lot of time outdoors with friends and would love a partner who enjoys similar activities.

I travel often for work, so I would love someone who enjoys exploring and adapting to new environments.

I prefer someone with a similar education level. I am very extroverted and social, so I feel I would balance well with someone more calm or reserved.

Dealbreakers for me include cigarette smoking or use of substances that are not legal in Canada.

Feel free to message me or reply if you would like to know more."

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FINAL REMINDER

The Mod Team cannot verify identities or guarantee anyone’s intentions.

Use common sense.

Protect your privacy.

Take your time.

Trust your instincts.

This thread exists to give members a contained and organized place to connect without flooding the subreddit with matchmaking posts.

Thank you for participating.

Mod Team
r/PunjabiConfessionzs

Hello everyone,

The mod team would like to ask everybody for their input on an important change we are considering for the future of the sub. We’ve noticed a significant increase in posts related to dating, relationships, and advice, and we feel it’s time to organize this content in a way that improves the overall experience for everyone in the community.

We need the community’s help in deciding how to move forward, so please take a moment to share your opinion.

Would you prefer:

A) A separate subreddit dedicated specifically to Punjabi dating, relationship advice, and possibly helping people connect with prospects. Since this is Reddit, we would need to work out the logistics and moderation of something like this. (IF YOU WANT THIS, EXPLAIN WHAT YOU WANT)

B) A dedicated dating and relationship flair within this subreddit for experiences, discussions, and advice, but not for finding prospects or matchmaking.

The mod team is asking everybody to please provide input. We need to make a decision on this, and community feedback is important before any changes happen.

The proposed dating sub/flair is intended to serve people from the diaspora.

We also want to hear directly from you about what you need from us as moderators.

Tell us:
- what changes you would like to see
- what kind of content you want more of
- what you feel is missing
- what would make this subreddit a better experience for you

Your feedback matters, and we want to build this community in a way that reflects what the members actually want.

Thank you for being part of r/PunjabiConfessionzs.

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Hello everyone, we wanted to provide an update to the sub and share some important information for both current and new users.

Aside from following Rules 1-9, we ask that you do not make more than 3 posts within a 24-hour period. There is no comment limit, so feel free to comment as much as you’d like. We simply ask that users avoid spamming the sub with 3-4 main posts within a few hours.

Secondly, please do not post OnlyFans models or related content on this sub. This is not the place for that type of content. We have allowed occasional text-based discussion posts in the past, but recently there has been a noticeable increase in posts focused on this topic.

Anyone who spams the sub, especially with NSFW content, may be removed or banned at moderator discretion. Text based is still allowed.

Thank you for helping keep the community organized and enjoyable for everyone.