r/PunjabiConfessionzs

Sorry ik its a lot of reading but please read it‼️

So I’m 20 F, punjabi, I came to canada when I was 14. I did my high school here and I don’t have a accent (well i mean i have a canadian accent now) So what I wanted to talk about was how kids that are born here talk a lot of shit about “fobs”. Tbh I myself agree with a lot of things that they be doing, like staring at girls and doing weird shit like standing in big ass group at random plazas trynna “pull” a girl. But because I was decently young when I came here, I see myself acting/dressing/speaking, doing almost everything just like any kids that are born here would do. Mostly because that’s the only people I was around in high school, i didn’t really have other friends who came from india like me. All of my cousins (mostly my moms side of family is all here) theyre all born here. So I haven’t really been around anyone in the same situation as me for the last 6 years now. And i know that six dont sound like a lot but cuz i was still figuring myself out, it was a pretty long time for me to be the person who i am today.

I was talking to a girl tdy, and she was telling me how she’s sick of these fobs harrassing her and tbh i get it cuz similar stuff has happened to me and its so disturbingly disgusting. But then she was talking about a guy who asked for her number and she said he had no accent but later she found out he was a fob. (She doesnt know im not born here) and i mean she was just saying that cuz she later found out that he was also weird asf, so she was kinda co relating those 2 things.

But that kinda hit me cuz a few months ago my cousins were saying the same kinda thing and how they’d never date someone who’s not born here unless they came here when they were literally like 5-6 or younger nd shit.

It makes me really insecure when i think about all this, and now i hate telling ppl that im not born here cuz i feel like they look at u differently. Now obv i know not everyone has the same opinions or whatever. But most of the ppl i’ve met have said these things nd it makes me wonder like when I try to date in uni, if guys wont wanna date me just because i wasnt born here yk.

But like i would like ur opinion on this if ur born here or came here really really young. Do yall think the same way? I mean i’d like a true answer rather than a glazed one just so my feelings dont get hurt lol.

How stigmatized is divorce now? If you’re unmarried would you marry a divorced person if they have all the qualities you’d be looking for in a partner?

What are some productive things you guys do after work ? I’m tired of bed rotting and not doing anything. Besides gym. Please suggest me some hobbies or projects. I don’t like doom scrolling.

I’m posting here because this is the only Punjabi community on Reddit that I know of.

Hey guys, non Punjabi but i thought I'd warn the Punjabi community.

A neighbour of mine (older Punjabi uncle) was a dump truck driver and was telling my parents this story. Neighbour uncle was a dump truck driver 20+ years. This year he ended up working for a company called Claire transport. Gurjot Clair was the owner. He said he was missing his payments and issues started arising with the company. At first the owner said the payment will come just that the contractors are not paying him and it's 60 day payment, cashflow issues etc too now owner saying he can't recall him working those days or skipping work . He stopped picking up calls and the Punjabi uncle had to go to the yard. I felt bad for the Punjabi uncle since he was genuinely a nice guy and use to let us come into his house as kids if my parents didn't come on time after work.

Hearing this i told him to contact employment board however since he's incorporated he's unsure if they will take him. I asked my Punjabi friends if they know this guy and they said post in this subreddit and pass the message.

On tiktok this dudes handle is gurjot Clair and flaunts his wealth. I'm not sure why he wouldn't pay his drivers.

Hey guys, what are some good wedding houses that u can rent for weddings (jaggo mainly)? I’ve heard of Sullivan Gardens and Toor Estate, are there any others that people would recommend?? Lmk!! Thanks in advance!