You call it love but it's codependence
The way you hold his feelings? Not love. Codependence.
The way you make excuses for him and try to solve his problems? Codependence.
The way you judge people you don't know based on what he says about them? Codependence.
The way you validate his fragile ego? Codependence.
That's a boundary problem too. You don't know where he ends and where you begin. No logic, no reason, just enmeshment.
You wear his feelings like they're your own without asking yourself why and now you're trying to interfere with my work because of it.
You're making things worse for everyone who has to deal with him and his mood swings.
Your hypocrisy is showing.
You're not welcome in my lane.