Moving on
My ex and I are currently no contact, we have been for 7 months, but I recently found out through a mutual friend of ours that he has been lying about me once again. That really pissed me off, we broke up 7 months ago, and he was telling him (and probably other people) I was ghosting him on an account that IS BANNED!!! He was the first person I told when I found out my account got banned, so the fact he told our mutual friend that I was "ghosting" him when the account is just gone pissed me off so much. Anyway, I got off topic, how do I forgive him fully to move on for my own sake? Don't get me wrong, I've moved on somewhat, but I feel like I can't erase my resentment for what happened in the past. I just want to let it go for my own peace, but whenever I think about past situations, or find out what he has been saying about me, it just pisses me off so much.
Him and I had a toxic on and off relationship where we would argue, I'd block him, and he would message me from another platform to gaslight me into coming back. I know I am NOT innocent, I never claimed to be, but it just hurts to know that he lies on my name to other people when I am doing my best to move on from everything. He literally victimizes himself just so he can gain more sympathy from people, I don't think he has ever admitted to wrongs to outsiders. I don't know if he just tells them about situations where I was wrong, if he just twists the truth (he has done this before), or if he genuinely just thinks he's a victim despite him contributing to our toxic relationship. I seriously don't know how to forgive him, and I really need advice. I want to let go of this resentment, so I can fully move on for my own sake
Please give me advice, or suggestions! Everything will be appreciated 💗