Is a therapist supposed to tell you when they are friends with your ex?
I just found out tonight that the therapist that I’ve been seeing for over a year, and have completely put my trust in, and have talked about all of my relationship problems and heartbreak and issues about my ex with , HAS BEEN FRIENDS WITH MY EX THIS WHOLE TIME!!!
I have no idea how close they are. My therapist popped up on my FB “people you might know” list and I clicked on her profile, and the first person i see on her friends list is my ex. The # 1 reason I’m in therapy , and seeing this therapist. And the main thing that we have talked about. I mentioned my ex’s first and last name, kids names, ex husbands name, many many times. And her ex husband is a prominent public figure where I live. So there is ZERO chance that my councellor didn’t make the connection. It’s absolutely impossible from what I know. We live in a small city. And based on the context of our sessions, it’s impossible that my councellor would have known and not mentioned it to me, besides if she was being deceptive. I have an anonymous Facebook page. So it would be easy to assume that my councellor wouldn’t think I’d see that they are friends. I don’t exist on the app. And I’ve been clear with my councellor that I don’t use social media. Because I don’t post on there, I use it to sell things on marketplace. My councellor has less than 100 friends on there. So it doesn’t appear she is excepting random friend requests. Or is friends with people she doesn’t know. And my ex DEFINITELY knows that I am seeing this councellor. Because we were still close enough when I started seeing her that I mentioned her name when I started seeing her. My ex definitely knew I was seeing her. I am 100% sure about that. So it seems impossible that it is an over sight that no one mentioned them knowing each other to me. I would have never started seeing anyone that was acquainted with my ex. Before or, definitely not after we broke up. But it was a long back and forth brake up. So it started before I started seeing the therapist, and continued all throughout this last year.
As a question to Councellors on here: isn’t this a breach of privacy? Or unethical. To me it is gut wrenching. I feel completely betrayed. Lied to. Spied on even. I feel sick.
Please explain to me what the rules and ethics around this kind of thing are. Thanks for reading.