u/0pet

Major tip for all of you to increase your chances here

I know its hard to find your partners but this I need you all to hear this advice, both boys and girls.

For posters

Don't. Be. Generic.

Your strategy should not be to appear good enough for a broad set of people. Be deliberately explicit about specific things that make you stand out in the context of a relationship.

I see posts that are so generic that it gives no clue to the reader that they are a good fit or not. Ah you like music? You like travelling? You like cooking? You are literally the same as every other Bangalorean Millenial/Genz I know!

General things are fair: what you earn, caste, ideology etc are fine.

But you need to go way beyond that. A person looking at your post must really feel like they are uniquely a match for you. Why else will they take the time to speak with you or reach out if they have no idea what makes them specifically a good fit?

Put your flaws out there. Put the specific things you like, specific interests, specific needs and wants.

If you are a horrible cook, put it there. If you have some ailment - put it! A strange example but if you are looking for a partner who is also interested in playing the flute, put it!

Again: your strategy should not be to throw the biggest net possible. Your strategy should be in hopes to find that one unique person who is suitable to you.

For readers

If the poster is doing their job properly, put all your effort on that one person who you think is a uniquely good match to you. Don't reply or encourage generic posts.

The frank reality is that posting here is a long shot. Not many serious people are here for a relationship. That's exactly the reason why you should put all your flaws and your unique strengths here. Maybe the one person who is a fit for you reads it and starts something with you. That's what you should go for.

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u/0pet — 3 hours ago
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I think I have found some patterns - POIS starts after certain events in life

Did your POIS start after any of these incidents?

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u/0pet — 14 days ago
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I think I found a pattern and I want to verify it with you guys: Artificial Sweeteners

Did POIS trigger after you started consuming artifical sweeteners of some kind? Maybe Coke Zero, maybe whey protein (which usually has this), maybe ORS or maybe just some other soft drinks?

Got this idea after noticing this pattern in 2 places.

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u/0pet — 14 days ago