23F Karnataka Brahmin
Working in a product based company
Earning around 1 lakh pm
Past 1 bf
Single child

Looking for preferably another Kannadiga Brahmin from Southern Karnataka should be pure veg, should not smoke, can occasionally drink.Should earn around my salary range, Should be kind and sweet, I will strictly not move in with in laws.

I’m a 25-year-old, traditional girl from a simple middle-class family, currently dedicating all my time to preparing for government exams and finding a stable career. By nature, I’m quite a quiet, shy, and reserved person; I have a very selective, tight-knit circle of only two or three friends, and I don't talk much initially, though I become incredibly talkative once I'm fully comfortable with someone. I live a very clean, religious lifestyle. I don't drink, smoke, or party and I find genuine joy in domestic hobbies like cooking, cleaning, reading, and traditional crafts like embroidery. While I love dressing up, makeup, and skincare. I dream of learning archery, chess, and horseback riding in the future. Right now, I'm also on a fitness journey to lose weight since I'm a bit chubby. On the downside, I’m a very sensitive and emotional soul, and I sometimes go completely silent, not out of sadness, but simply because my mind is constantly racing with a million thoughts. I am looking for a gentle, kind, and patient traditional man who values emotional intimacy. I dont prefer a man with high past body count (preferably 1 or 2 max). I am 5'6" myself, but I actually welcome men who are 5'4" or 5'5". Age range : 26-34. Looking toward the future, my heart is deeply set on building a nurturing home; I am looking for someone who takes pride in being a protective provider and wouldn't mind taking complete care of me after marriage. With a long-term mindset, I hope to step away from work eventually to focus entirely on raising our children, as I firmly believe little ones need their mother close by during their most formative years, and I could never be the type of woman who prioritizes a career over her family. However, I want to be completely straightforward: because of my values and our middle-class background, I am 100% against the dowry system, so please do not expect anything monetary from my family, and absolutely do not expect anything physical before marriage, as I am saving myself entirely for my future husband.

If this resonates with you feel free to drop a message. Thank you for reading have a nice day 🌻

F4M.. Does this sub actually help anyone find a partner?I tried posting here for myself as well but experienced was not really good.

I posted last week and received a lot of DMs, but honestly, none of them worked. In some cases, people did start conversations. They had clearly read everything I mentioned in my post and initially seemed to agree with my situation and expectations. Some even wrote huge messages, analyzing every single point, saying things like “I connect with this” or “I understand that.”

But after talking for a day or two, either their replies became very slow or they eventually said something like, “I thought I could manage your terms, but unfortunately I can’t.” Which is fair, but it ends up wasting both people’s time.

My main point is—if someone has clearly mentioned what they want in their post, and you read everything, feel that it aligns with what you want, or say that you connect with it, then what changes after just a day or two of talking? I’m seeing people close the door saying the exact same things they initially claimed they were okay with. That’s what I genuinely don’t understand.

So I genuinely want to know has anyone actually found something meaningful through this sub? Let’s discuss.

FYI: NSFW profile guys don’t DM me, genuinely not interested.

Hi, I’m 24F. Not entirely sure how this works, but thought I’ll try once without overthinking too much.

I’m currently working in a core sector and also preparing for government exams, so life is mostly a mix of being disciplined and occasionally needing a break from it.

I’m a little introverted at first, but I warm up once I’m comfortable. I really enjoy reading novels—mostly fiction—and I’m more into calm plans, cafés, and good conversations than anything too loud. I can overthink sometimes, but I appreciate people who are straightforward and clear. I have not travelled a lot yet to travel

I’m 5’2”, fairly fit, light brown skin, and I do like putting effort into how I present myself—dressing well is something I enjoy.

I’m looking for something genuine. Not into casual flings or anything like that—I’d rather take things slow and build something real with someone I’m actually compatible with, and who also sees this going towards something serious eventually.

I do want a family and kids in the future, so being on the same page there matters. I’m non-vegetarian, so it would be easier if you’re okay with that. And someone who’s relatively stable in life—it just makes things smoother when it comes to family conversations later.

Someone around 24–28, grounded, respectful, and who knows what he wants would be ideal.

(And yes, slight preference for someone around 5’7” or above 😅)

Not expecting much, just thought I’ll give this a try.

If you text, please say a bit about yourself—makes it easier to have a conversation :)

30, medical professional

Working in Bangalore

Friendly, chill, almost a workaholic

I look alright

Looking for serious relationships only (marriage)

Preferably my age or older but <35, doctor or engineer preferred

Looking for a well-educated, kind, emotionally mature guy between 27–32, preferably settled in Canada. Vegetarian/non-smoker would be ideal. I tend to be quite talkative and a bit of an overthinker, so I naturally get along best with calm, grounded personalities — very ying and yang energy .

About me: 28F, working in finance with a compensation of 60L+ annually. MBA from an old IIM and relocating to Canada. I’m family-oriented, vegetarian, don’t smoke, and drink occasionally in social settings. Outside work, I love mystery novels, anime, cooking, and travelling.

Serious enquiries only please. And don’t just send a “hi” — tell me a bit about yourself so we actually have something to talk about :)

Repost

Hello there. To whoever is reading this, I want to make one thing very clear — I am posting here because conventional arranged marriage setups and matrimonial sites were never built for the kind of relationship I want. Most people will probably assume this post is fake, exaggerated, or some fantasy roleplay. That’s fine. I’m not here for validation.

About me.

I’m a 32-year-old Brahmin man from Indore. I am a self made entrepreneur and I run my own manufacturing business with factories in Gujarat. I won’t disclose more because it would become very easy to identify me, but it is a mid-sized company with last year’s revenue crossing ₹300 Crores and profits around ₹36 Crores, My Current Networth is around 92 Crores (Also I plan to retire in 10 years and settle outside India). I mention this only because what I’m looking for is extremely unconventional, and I want people to understand that I’m serious, stable, and intentional.
Now to the important part.

I am not looking for a “nice” or traditionally feminine partner. I am deeply attracted to women who are naturally dominant in personality — women who are sharp, intimidating, commanding, emotionally strong, and difficult to impress. The kind of woman whose presence alone changes the atmosphere in a room.

Think of characters like Cersei Lannister or Amy Dunne — not because they are villains, but because they possess intensity, intelligence, confidence, and control.
Ever since childhood, I’ve been fascinated by women who are strict, bossy, assertive, and psychologically overpowering. I don’t develop attraction through softness or submissiveness. I have tried dating extensively, but most women either naturally lean toward a softer dynamic or try to “play” the dominant role temporarily. The problem with acting is that eventually the mask slips. I can tell very quickly whether someone genuinely carries that energy or is simply imitating it.

I am looking for a woman who naturally enjoys leading, deciding, commanding, and taking control in a relationship. A female led relationship (meaning the decision maker in the relationship will be the woman I marry and she will take all the decisions regarding everything) is not a fantasy for me it is genuinely the only dynamic in which I feel emotionally fulfilled and deeply attracted.

Beyond that, I’m looking for someone who is (though these are negotiable)

• Well educated
• Age Between 25-35
• 5’6” tall and in any case not less than 5’3”
• Fluent and articulate in English
• Open to eventually settling abroad
• Open-minded about unconventional relationship dynamics and kinks
• Adventurous, emotionally intense, and confident
• Hindu (caste is not an issue)
• I also don’t care about your Financial Status whether you are working or whether you are from poor or middle class.

I value intelligence, presence, emotional strength, ambition, and authenticity far more than performative sweetness.

If you are someone who naturally carries authority, enjoys being in control, and wants a relationship where your partner genuinely admires and desires that side of you then maybe we should talk.

Please message only if you are serious. I’m not here for timepass, casual flirting, or pretending to be someone I’m not.

P.S. - I am writing this out of desperation as I am fed up of meeting people through matrimonial or dating sites.

I know its hard to find your partners but this I need you all to hear this advice, both boys and girls.

For posters

Don't. Be. Generic.

Your strategy should not be to appear good enough for a broad set of people. Be deliberately explicit about specific things that make you stand out in the context of a relationship.

I see posts that are so generic that it gives no clue to the reader that they are a good fit or not. Ah you like music? You like travelling? You like cooking? You are literally the same as every other Bangalorean Millenial/Genz I know!

General things are fair: what you earn, caste, ideology etc are fine.

But you need to go way beyond that. A person looking at your post must really feel like they are uniquely a match for you. Why else will they take the time to speak with you or reach out if they have no idea what makes them specifically a good fit?

Put your flaws out there. Put the specific things you like, specific interests, specific needs and wants.

If you are a horrible cook, put it there. If you have some ailment - put it! A strange example but if you are looking for a partner who is also interested in playing the flute, put it!

Again: your strategy should not be to throw the biggest net possible. Your strategy should be in hopes to find that one unique person who is suitable to you.

For readers

If the poster is doing their job properly, put all your effort on that one person who you think is a uniquely good match to you. Don't reply or encourage generic posts.

The frank reality is that posting here is a long shot. Not many serious people are here for a relationship. That's exactly the reason why you should put all your flaws and your unique strengths here. Maybe the one person who is a fit for you reads it and starts something with you. That's what you should go for.

I'm talkative, love to update you and stay updated about your daily life. A little bit clingy and expectations in the form of cuteness and clinginess. I do love travelling, be around friends and family, deep conversations, intelligence, humour etc. I am easy going, adjusting and understanding so expect my partner to be the same. Kinda interested in devices such as computers, mobiles etc but don't play games or stay on the YouTube, instagram all the times. I exercise regularly and okayishly fit, not shredded but not a dadbod also, could manage a 5km run under 30 minutes once. It is upto you, but would love to go to the gym regularly with my partner. Also, i love reading books, watching movies and tv series.

Most important I'm a very enthusiastic person with high energy and readily available for someone I like. Someone told me that I'm a very Jugaadu person, idk how it'll benefit me in life but it has done good only so far.

Drop a DM if you feel we would be a compatible match.

Still exploring better options in terms of career as I feel my current job is not upto the mark so not settled completely but the job is stable and permanent. Normal family with almost everyone in government jobs. Not weirdly huge expectations but yeah the girl should be Jat.

I earn around 1LPM, 5'10, Tier-1 engineering graduate.

No one tells you these are the kind of DMs that form the majority

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Apparently, I can't find anybody, so my siblings decided Reddit was the next logical (illogical) step.

I’m 23 (gonna turn 24 in a month, and yeah, so yeah, like any age above 19 works, doing my master’s in quantum physics, currently in Delhi and moving to Zurich soon. I meet a lot of people, but very rarely someone I genuinely click with, which is probably why I’m still single. I get approached a lot, but I need a non-smoker and a non-drinker (occasional works), and that's where I lose almost all of my matches (these ain't the dating apps type matches lol) and chances....

Outside academics, I’m into MMA (I train MMA), football (play AND watch football), bike rides, UFC, Marvel (Loki is objectively the best character), and I play guitar and sing a bit too. I also model and do photography.... I can also cook pretty much anything, which ig is a great skill for me cos I've done internships in Zurich and Stuttgart (NOT A FLEX, JUST MENTIONING MY CAREER TRAJECTORY).

I don’t drink or smoke, I like people who can hold an actual conversation, and I’m looking for something real eventually, not looking for casual stuff ig? I'm NOT a narcissist. I've just mentioned my career trajectory and a little here and there, my hobbies and all.... I am a fun person to be with, that's smt I'm VERY sure of and I'm also somebody who knows how to commit wayyyy tooo well. We don't have to talk with the motive of dating right off the bat. But like don't text me with I wanna be just friends thingy cos I got like more than 10 dms saying exactly that.... So unless you wanna date, THIS AIN'T FOR YOU(or maybe do, idek, this sounds sooo rude, my bad....)

IF YOU THINK YOU DON'T LIKE ME OR MY POST OR DON'T RESONATE WITH ME OR ANYTHING ABOUT ME, DON'T INTERACT (You can downvote, but comment na hi karo). AND PLEASE DON'T BE THAT ONE INSECURE GUY WHO TRIES TO PULL EVERY OTHER GUY DOWN WHO'S DOING WELL....

I have been seeing and reading everyone's post wherein they share their bio and other info and specify what they are looking for in life. Statistically, women get loads of DMs from men on reddit.

So I want to ask all the women here, has there been a positive outcome from this subreddit?

I understand that marriage is a huge decision, but honestly, how can you completely trust people on these platforms?

People can lie about anything like their name, job, background, intentions, or even whether they are genuinely serious.

So how do you approach this situation? If you come across someone’s profile, how do you know they are telling the truth? It also feels awkward to directly ask someone for proof or verification because that can seem strange or offensive.

Since anyone can present themselves differently online, how do you make sure the person is actually genuine and honest?

The brother is looking for a suitable groom for his elder sister (33F) who is intelligent, introverted, and finds it hard to express love. She is also a bit far from being considered pleasing to the eye.

She works part time and is trying to figure out what to do with her life, but occupies herself in the drug giving surgical medicine profession.

A suitable groom would have depth in his character, an artistic passion and desire to support her career choices. Her career is probably her identity; she wants to be a teaching professor.

Interested profiles please DM.

I have tried dating apps for almost a year now but didn't find anyone worthy enough.. I am 26F, working as an English Educator in Ahmedabad... I love this city and I doubt I would want to change it..

Enough about me lmk about you a little.

I see people using different words for describing their complexion and I'm finding it very confusing. Can someone help with what they all actually look like?

White, Black - i understand this

Wheat?

Whestish?

Dusky?

Brown, light brown?

Any others I'm missing?

26 Tall and Handsome Male

• 25-year-old MD resident (2nd year) based in Vadodara, Gujarat. I’m originally from Patna but grew up in Hyderabad. I also spend at least one weekend a month in Navi Mumbai visiting my sister and extended family.
• Interests: Football, cars, and general nerd stuff (mostly Harry Potter).
• What I'm looking for: Keeping it simple—I’m looking for a genuine, long-term relationship. Ideally with someone grounded who has their own thing going on and I don't have any caste issues as long as you are in the general category quota.

At this point I’m less interested in impressing people and more interested in finding someone who feels peaceful to talk to.

I like people who are emotionally aware, easygoing, honest, ambitious in their own way, and capable of holding real conversations without acting “too cool” to care.

I enjoy late-night conversations, psychology, self-improvement, dark humor, music, random deep thoughts, and people who can talk about both life goals and nonsense equally well.

I think attraction matters, but comfort matters more.

Would honestly prefer one genuine connection over 100 shallow interactions.

Not here to waste anyone’s time, and I’d appreciate the same energy back.