Go easy on me. Ex wants me to give my kids up for adoption to her new husband.
Ex is in OK.
I’m in TX.
Finally found an amazing woman, been with her 3 years, we just had a child. She is my rock.
Been divorced from my ex since 2017. Had my 3 kids 3 days a week until about 2023.
Paid alimony first 3 years + child support.
Now only pay child support.
No domestic violence. No child abuse. Nothing.
I did have a mental breakdown around 2023/24. Too many breakups with women, took it too personally, life spiraled. I went into travel nursing just to get on my feet again, cause I couldn’t get off the couch I was so depressed.
Ex took them full custody.
Everything was going good.
Could talk to the kids anytime. I texted and called them daily. Checked in. Visited often. Ex and I got along, but would squabble.
My ex and her new husband, he divorced in 2020 and was married to her by 2021.
I married my wife in TX in 2023 in a similarly quick time. Began the process of trying to incorporate her and my kids so I could be the cool Dad they visited in the summer.
Went to the beach in TX. Went to Arkansas. Went to OK. Then poof! It’s over. Kids don’t want to visit anymore and my oldest blocks me.
Went to court 24 and 25 to get something going.
Tried therapy reconciliation and a GAL. Just felt like the kids were being spoon fed what to say. I kept trying to figure out what happened. What was the issue? Never got an answer from them. Therapy went nowhere. Dragged. Stalled.
My oldest is old enough she doesn’t have to talk to me.
In 2026 I finally just asked my middle child, my son, through the talking parent app, “I’m being treated like a Dad that raped you or did hardcore drugs.”
He replies, “well you kinda did.”
I was like, “omg really?”
He states, “yeah you smoked a cigarettes once around us.” I was in the backyard. But yeah. That’s their mindset.
I ask to see them while I’m in town again for court, to go to dinner, the GAL says she tries but can’t convince them to go to dinner with me, even supervised.
I’m at a loss for words. They can’t even go to dinner with me?
My oldest admitted in court to being a cutter per the GAL. Things are not looking good.
Now, I got this offer to simply let them be adopted.
I pay 1108 for kids I can’t see and will never see.
Giving them up for adoption at least removes that obligation.