u/13thvendetta

Why do so many emetophobic communities hate to ‘give reassurance’? This subreddit is my favourite by far because it gives us the option to ask for reassurance.

I understand that in the long term it’s not great but some people don’t have time to put all their energy into recovery!

As a uni student, I found it really difficult to go in because of my fears but hearing everyones stories and getting that reassurance allowed me to finally go in with less fear.

I would much rather have a short term solution to my problems at my stage in life and when I’m done with uni I can tackle it properly you know?

Not everyone NEEDS or WANTS reassurance but if they’re asking for it, I think it should be given!

I would still be stuck in my bed if I hadn’t got reassurance!

So a couple of days ago I posted about how I broke up with my now ex because he threw up in my downstairs bathroom and then immediately came upstairs, sat on my bed and washed his hands in my sink after telling him not to (he had norovirus).

Though it might be extreme to just break up with him, he ignored my boundaries and broke my trust that day.

I’d like to explain a bit further.. before this relationship I was in another one where my partner drank 1.5 cans of beer, I told him to sleep downstairs and he did. I then went down with him because I felt bad (this was before I became severely emetophobic).

He threw up multiple times in the bathroom. The next morning I woke up and noticed he wasn’t there so I went upstairs, there he is, asleep in my bed. He absolutely stunk but nothing more to this story… until we drop him home and my mum goes ‘who was sick on the sofa last night?’ WHAT DO YOU MEAN?? Then she proceeds to tell me that there was a shirt covered in sick flung next to the microwave. Not only did he do that but he also went back into my room to change his shirt and then dribbled on my bed. He doesn’t remember it.. on 1.5 cans of beer.

6 months later I find my travel bag as i’m about to go on holiday, look at the bottom and see dried up sick.

THIS is why i’m terrified of dating with emetophobia, the absolute inconsiderate and incompetence. I don’t think i’m ever going to be able to date ever again. Why does this keep happening to me??
Is everyone inconsiderate or am I just unlucky?

A few days ago I spoke about my experience being in a relationship and having to end it over my boyfriend being sick (among other reasons that I won’t be getting into on here).

I was just wondering if anyone else has a fear of others being sick rather than themselves?

I really struggle being around someone that has been sick even a month later, especially the people that i’m the closest too. I don’t know whether it’s because i’m scared of catching something or if i’m worried they’ll be sick again?

After developing 2 chronic illnesses I’m slowly getting more confident in not being scared of getting sick but hearing that my friends are sick really freaks me out. It’s difficult to keep friendships and relationships going when i’m that scared of the people I love.

Thank you to those recommending me different types of therapies, I’ve never thought about OCD but i’ll look into that too! :)

21F- STRUGGLING!! I just ended my 2 year relationship because my boyfriend threw up in my bathroom and I was terrified of him for a whole year after.

At first I wouldn’t let him in my house, then I progressed to letting him sleep round but only in the spare room. For 6 months I refused to let him into my bedroom before I eventually broke it off.

He did nothing wrong and I know that but I couldn’t even look at him without seeing that mental image. I was always on high alert and extremely anxious around him and it wasn’t fair on either of us.

I’m really struggling with balancing this phobia and my life, I really loved him but I know i’ll never see him the same. I feel like such a horrible person.

So I ask, is it possible to maintain a relationship as an emetophobic person?

21F- STRUGGLING!! I just ended my 2 year relationship because my boyfriend threw up in my bathroom and I was terrified of him for a whole year after.

At first I wouldn’t let him in my house, then I progressed to letting him sleep round but only in the spare room. For 6 months I refused to let him into my bedroom before I eventually broke it off.

He did nothing wrong and I know that but I couldn’t even look at him without seeing that mental image. I was always on high alert and extremely anxious around him and it wasn’t fair on either of us.

I’m really struggling with balancing this phobia and my life, I really loved him but I know i’ll never see him the same. I feel like such a horrible person.

So I ask, is it possible to maintain a relationship as an emetophobic person?