r/EmetophobiaTalk

**No word censoring and only using the V and tu words**

My boyfriend and I (22F) adopted a dog in February of last year. He’s always been a very vomity dog since we got him. He always throws up in car rides, even if they are 10 minutes or less, which makes Christmas, vacations (like taking him to be boarded) and vet visits a pain in the butt.

He threw up on the car ride home when we first got him. Threw up on the way to Christmas at my mom’s (we stay the night there on Christmas Eve), threw up driving to the park for a walk, gets sick all the time at home with no obvious reasoning.

At least once every week or two, he usually vomits yellow bile or white spit. When we took him to the vet a couple of weeks ago for his vaccines, and we asked about his vomiting,, the vet really didn’t take us seriously and shrugged it off, saying “some dogs just do that.” On the 10 minute ride home, he threw up three times. And I was panicking, because I couldn’t get away from it. :(

Well since then, for the last 5ish days, he has thrown up every fucking day without fail. This morning he did it RIGHT when my boyfriend stepped out of the house for work, and I immediately called him almost bawling because it was the third or fourth time I’ve cleaned up a mess in less than a week.

When he was a pup and would vomit, I would feel horrible because when he got sick, I’d yell at him, because my emotional response to fear is 9 times out of 10 anger. This caused him to run away from me when he’s sick and always throw up in his cage. While I feel bad for it, it’s way better than the time he threw up on my blanket or near my feet while I was in a call for work.

Overtime I have gotten better about comforting him when he’s done being sick rather than yelling at him. But this last week, since he is doing it so much, I am starting to resent him and want him as far away from me as possible. Which is making me cry because he keeps giving me puppy dog eyes and wants to cuddle with us. He’s very gassy tonight and it smells awful, and has another vet appointment (with a different vet) scheduled for Friday morning, which my boyfriend will be taking him to alone, as I cannot handle the car ride with him.

I can’t sleep because every time he moves or makes a noise, I panic. I can’t eat because every time he vomits, I lose my appetite for HOURS on end, and as I stated, he is doing this daily at the moment. Every time he licks his lips more than twice (he does this a ton before he starts gagging), my body enters fight or flight mode and I begin to shake and panic, and run away from him.

It really doesn’t help that he’s got a very nasty vomiting sound, and it’s usually loud enough that I can hear it from across the apartment WITH my ears covered. I really don’t know what to do. I’m trying to hold out until Friday but I want so desperately to drive to my mom’s and stay there until this is figured out. I’d hate to get rid of him I love him so much but I simply cannot live like this. Does anyone have advice on how to lower his vomiting and discomfort, or how I can manage the panic I have when he simply exists?

My dad and I had to drop something off to my grandmother today. When she didn't answer her phone, my dad called my aunt. She said that they've all been sick recently.

Reluctantly I went, trying to be rational that if I wash my hands when I get home I should be okay. I also stayed back from my aunt and grandmother and tried not to breathe in too much while there.

Right before we left my grandmother said that she v*d this morning and thought she was feeling better but tried to eat some jello right before we got there and it started to come back up. I'm not sure what she meant by that, if she v*d or not.

So now I'm freaked out that she v*d and the particles were still in the air and we breathed them in. My dad got closer to her than I did but I was still in the room.

I sanitized twice once in the car. Double washed my hands as soon as I came home. Sanitized 3 more times after washing my hands. Double rinsed my mouth with hydrogen peroxide. Plus wiped my face and sanitized my phone.

Hopefully that is enough to prevent anything if I was exposed to any germs. But I'm still gonna be on edge for the foreseeable future. Ugh.

Why do so many emetophobic communities hate to ‘give reassurance’? This subreddit is my favourite by far because it gives us the option to ask for reassurance.

I understand that in the long term it’s not great but some people don’t have time to put all their energy into recovery!

As a uni student, I found it really difficult to go in because of my fears but hearing everyones stories and getting that reassurance allowed me to finally go in with less fear.

I would much rather have a short term solution to my problems at my stage in life and when I’m done with uni I can tackle it properly you know?

Not everyone NEEDS or WANTS reassurance but if they’re asking for it, I think it should be given!

I would still be stuck in my bed if I hadn’t got reassurance!

Do any of you get anxiety about bowel movements? specifically soft poop or diarrhea? How do you guys calm down or not let this freak you out?

I never used to have a problem because I have IBS and used to have diarrhea all the time. long story short, got an eating disorder and constipation became my norm. now any soft bms or frequent bms kinda freak me out that Im sick, even though I know it's normal.

HELP ME PLEASE

i was just with my boyfriend yesterday. We laid together and gave lots of kisses and he was fine all day yesterday so was i. well he had a little of diarrhea but otherwise could eat and was fine. Then, this morning he said he threw up all night with diarrhea!!!!! Omg am i doomed am i next?! We didn’t even go anywhere yesterday we went to hershey park . when we went to hershey park two days ago, he said his stomach hurt after bein on the rides or something but then he ate some coconut milk noodles that sat in the sun pretty much all day. i didn’t. if it’s a bug wouldn’t i be sick too!? i’m so scared…

my bf is completely convinced that he has a virus. i pointed all the facts at him. i posted earlier he ate the bad noodles and is still calling it a bug? and it’s giving me severe anxiety like i’m really next… i haven’t been s* all day so far. but what about tomorrow? what if he’s right snd this is a random b* and the noodles had nothing to do with him v*?

So I had a chicken cantina quesadilla which I dont normally get and two hours later here I am having very loose bowel movements... is this most likely just the spice or could it be food poisoning? My s/o had the same thing and hes fine but after my first experience with food poisoning last year I am just very very scared.

Hey all, so I just opened a can of Arizona blueberry white tea to drink, and when I opened the can, it hissed quite a bit, almost like a carbonated drink, however this is not carbonated.

I have drank other cans of this exact tea, and from the same batch, they hissed too, so I didn't think much of it.

I poured some into a cup, and it looked slightly darker than usual, but again, I didn't think too much about it.

I then proceeded to drink 2 large mouthfuls of this tea, then set it down, and went to grab something else.

About 5 minutes later when I came back, I noticed these gelatinous strands of something suspended in the tea. They kind of look like jellyfish.

This was not present in any of the other cans I drank so far, so clearly something happened to this can here.

Normally I wouldn't worry if I drank a little sip or something, but I drank probably half a cup worth of this tea in 2 sips because I was really thirsty.

What do you guys think the chances are I'll get sick from this?

TW: won’t be censoring!

If you told me last year I’d be where I am now, I’d look at you like you had 3 heads.

Today I needed to go grocery shopping, so my best friend and I went together and as we pulled into the parking lot we saw an ambulance. I looked out of curiosity, and to see if the person was okay, and happened to look RIGHT as a poor sweet old woman projectiled right into an emesis bag.

Now, the old me would have felt her stomach drop, would have immediately felt sick herself, gotten gaggy, and then turned around to go home. Today? I simply said “aw man” and looked away and went into the store anyway, and within minutes I stopped thinking about it.

I’m proud of how I handled seeing the real deal in front of my eyes! I hope that woman is okay and got the help she needed more than anything though.

I hope you all have amazing stomach days and start your recovery journeys soon, because it is so freeing. 🖤

Hey all, so yesterday I woke up feeling hungry, and wanted something sweet for breakfast, so I just ate some pieces of this Pepperidge Farms cinnamon raisin bread I usually always keep around.

I will admit, I ate quite a bit of it, like 4 or 5 slices, but the slices are pretty small.

Shortly after eating that, I went to lay down, and had really bad acid. So much so that it was coming up the back of my throat, and making me choke.

Once I woke up from my nap, I actually felt okay for the rest of yesterday, ate dinner, everything was fine. Until I laid down again at night to go to sleep.

I instantly felt sick to my stomach, everything was burning,and acid started coming up again.

I did fall asleep from 10:30pm, to 2am, and when I woke up, I felt okay again.

I couldn't sleep after that and was up until like 11am, but when I laid down to sleep, the acid came back once again, and this time it was even worse.

I fell asleep and woke up at 2pm, and since I got up, my stomach has been aching, my chest burns like hell, and even my back aches from this. Also every time I burp, something is coming up.

I've been taking Tums, but nothing seems like it's touching it.

I don't really know what to do here. I already ate a bunch of crackers last night to try and stop this, but it didn't work.

I feel hungry now, but the acid is so bad right now, I also feel sick to my stomach, so I'll try to eat later.

I'm getting worried this is going to get worse and I'll be sick or something later.

Does anyone here have any acid reducing tips?

Im shaking so bad my sister told me earlier that she threw away the loaf of bread that was in the kitchen this afternoon because it had some mold on it and i ate two pieces this morning for breakfast before that but i inspect bread every time i eat it and i didnt see any mold but apparently it can still be bad if its in the same packet

And now i have stomach pain and im literally panicking so bad that ive poisoned myself and im shaking i dont know what to do

Edit: i was fine!! The bread didn’t make me sick. I’m still awake again panicking though but about an entirely different thing. But I con confidently say the bread wasnt an issue past my panic about it. And as fr the stomach pain i was feeling im 99% sure that was related to my period

So me and my friends sit in this teacher’s room during support and normally it’s just us and like two random kids that sit somewhere else. But some new kid came in and was all sluggish and acting weird and he was like “I’m just tired” and then he walked to the corner and my friend said “you look like you’re gonna pass out” and then he said he felt like he was gonna be sick so immediately I was like “BYE. BYE.” And went to get my stuff until the teacher told him to leave and I was like “YES, GO. PLEASE GO PLEASE GO.”

And he WASNT LEAVING like bro get the fuck out go to the nurse’s office so I was like “If you don’t leave I’m just gonna leave”. And this kid was arguing with the damn teacher like BRO GET OUT PLEASE

And he eventually did go. And I was literally on the verge of tears in my seat. Then before the bell rang he came back in and I literally just ran out to my next class

don’t come to school sick or send your kids to school sick please.

I was dumb enough to read something online that made me emetophobia and anxiety worse.

I've been struggling with indigestion and nausea after eating. Which rationally, I think it's all my anxiety. But deep inside, I still worry about getting a scary disease.

That's when I came across CVS and gastroparesis. Now I worry about that.

But also, I came across a post that said you can be sick if you're anxious. And that the gut and brain axis can get so disrupted when you dwell on it, that it can make you be sick.

I got sick in January and it wasn't a virus and now I worry, of it was my anxiety. And if I need to worry about being sick every time these symptoms manifest.

It is just such a scary and vicious cycle. I don't know how to bring myself to not think about it.

And I'm struggling with the radical acceptance as I always feel like accepting, means that you invite it in.

So a couple of days ago I posted about how I broke up with my now ex because he threw up in my downstairs bathroom and then immediately came upstairs, sat on my bed and washed his hands in my sink after telling him not to (he had norovirus).

Though it might be extreme to just break up with him, he ignored my boundaries and broke my trust that day.

I’d like to explain a bit further.. before this relationship I was in another one where my partner drank 1.5 cans of beer, I told him to sleep downstairs and he did. I then went down with him because I felt bad (this was before I became severely emetophobic).

He threw up multiple times in the bathroom. The next morning I woke up and noticed he wasn’t there so I went upstairs, there he is, asleep in my bed. He absolutely stunk but nothing more to this story… until we drop him home and my mum goes ‘who was sick on the sofa last night?’ WHAT DO YOU MEAN?? Then she proceeds to tell me that there was a shirt covered in sick flung next to the microwave. Not only did he do that but he also went back into my room to change his shirt and then dribbled on my bed. He doesn’t remember it.. on 1.5 cans of beer.

6 months later I find my travel bag as i’m about to go on holiday, look at the bottom and see dried up sick.

THIS is why i’m terrified of dating with emetophobia, the absolute inconsiderate and incompetence. I don’t think i’m ever going to be able to date ever again. Why does this keep happening to me??
Is everyone inconsiderate or am I just unlucky?

Has anyone seen it? Trying to confirm that it’s safe to watch. I got caught at the theater seeing “The Drama” and this group saved the day by warning me about the last scene.

21F- STRUGGLING!! I just ended my 2 year relationship because my boyfriend threw up in my bathroom and I was terrified of him for a whole year after.

At first I wouldn’t let him in my house, then I progressed to letting him sleep round but only in the spare room. For 6 months I refused to let him into my bedroom before I eventually broke it off.

He did nothing wrong and I know that but I couldn’t even look at him without seeing that mental image. I was always on high alert and extremely anxious around him and it wasn’t fair on either of us.

I’m really struggling with balancing this phobia and my life, I really loved him but I know i’ll never see him the same. I feel like such a horrible person.

So I ask, is it possible to maintain a relationship as an emetophobic person?

I have a bad habit of overeating (unfortunately) and today was just too much.

I’ve been feeling bloated all day and my stomach has been bugging me literally all week (I’ve been constantly nauseous and wondering if I’m actually gonna end up being sick or not, and it’s physically and mentally draining). I keep trying to tell myself that it’s my anxiety (it’s almost finals week, and my teachers love piling on a ton of exams and projects and what not on the last couple days of school) but I always end up in panic anyway. I’m not really sure what to do besides changing my diet and lifestyle (trust me, I tried), and I’d honestly wish something would change.

Overall, I’m having a panic attack rn and I’m trying to distract myself by doing school work and what not (isn’t really helping but I need to do it anyway).

If yall have any advice or anything pls leave a comment (and have a great day/night).

Everytime I hear someone at work is sick, and it isn't immediately clear that they dont have a stomach bug, I get so worried. Its even worse when I find out they do have a stomach bug.

Yesterday, I overheard a coworker of mine mention that they were sick to someone else. Bc I worked with them earlier, I'm paranoid that I'm gonna catch a stomach virus, even though I have no idea what they were sick with.

It's so exhausting constantly being stressed about not only my symptoms but being hyper vigilant about those around me. I wish the fear of being sick to my stomach wouldn't take up so much headspace.

Hey all, not censoring words, so TW.

So I woke up today feeling pretty crummy. My stomach felt like it was full of something it doesn't like, and I've just felt gross all day.

This was happening the day before too, so I've tried to not let it bother me too much.

However, I made myself dinner despite not feeling well, ate it, and as I was eating, each bite felt like it was about to come back up, and just hit my stomach wrong.

I kept eating though, trying to tell myself to just power through it because I need to eat, but I feel awful right now.

I just had to use the bathroom, and it was normal, but I feel really queasy.

I feel like my stomach is doing backflips, and like everything I ate might come back up.

I'm starting to have the feeling of trapped gas where I can't burp coming on, and that makes me want to gag.

I'm hoping it's just gas, and nothing else. I did drink a drink that's more acidic than I'm used to yesterday as well.

I'm worried I caught something yesterday though. I was doing power washing around my yard, and got so much nasty stuff blown in my face, and mouth. Algee, dirt, and some kind of red bacteria that was growing on our pool ladder.

I'm worried maybe that made me sick or something.

I really am trying not to panic, but I haven't felt my body reject food that strongly like it did tonight in a long time.

What do you guys think?