Is the problem the child care or my baby?
FTM wondering what's the norm in terms of childcare drop off process and young toddlers emotional needs.
My baby is almost 15 months old, he's been going to child care 3 days a week since 10 months old. He cries at childcare drop offs everyday although usually settled once we're out of the door, we were never called to pick him up due to upsets, and he bonded with a couple of educators, but educators did also mention in his learning plan that he always want an educator to be around when he's playing. When any educator need to leave the room they need to give him a verbal heads up. When his favourite educators are on holiday he'd be more fussier etc.
The main reason I'm asking is the child care drop offs. I see some mums in the same room can just drop off their toddlers (it's a up to 18 months room) on the floor amongst other playing toddlers, while we always have to hold bub while dropping off his bag, bottles and do the sign-in sheets, then do a person to person handover and leave the room quickly so they can comfort him asap. Our child care is usually good, there's always someone coming to get him as soon as we're ready. But recently I noticed that the morning shift educators have changed in behaviour and they just kind of ignore me, while I just hold him and stand in the room for quite a while waiting for hand over and no one come to me or even acknowledge that I'm waiting, no communication happens, no one says 'I'll come to you once I finish <work on hand>' . To be fair they looked busy, usually one educator handling a small baby that needs to be held, one educator maybe in the room changing nappy then leaving one educator with like 8 kids on the floor, I've learned to not do drop off at morning tea time when they're even busier, and I don't mind waiting for 5-10 mins until someone becomes free. But I just got a slightly off vibe from the morning shift educators, like a bit unwelcomed, or not cared? I don't know if my baby has high emotional needs so I need to adjust my drop off expectations, or is he usually a lot fussier so some educators don't want to deal with him, or is it the child care quality went down a little bit? If as children grow older and in general don't experience drop off upsets, is the norm that educators ignore the parent and you just drop off your child on the floor and go? I genuinely don't know.