r/BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

Hi guys need some advice ASAP

I am 14 weeks and 3 days, had a translucency scan yesterday but have had severe cramping for two days (told this was normal) and last night it became 10/10 pain and on the way to the ER I felt something pop and then gushes and gushes of clear liquid and later on, blood that smelt a bit like mince meat juice

I then was sat up at the ER for five hours, no one checked me, they took my blood pressure and sent me home

I researched and suspect PPROM and I’m worried that as they didn’t do any testing that they won’t be able to confirm PPROM. I have another emergency scan today but from what I’ve read the baby could present as fine when really things are not

I have accepted my fate of what I think is going on. Just scared they won’t confirm anything as small town hospitals and doctors are just useless

My partner and I are expecting our first in Feb. It took us almost two years of trying and some surgery for me to get our positive pregnancy test and we’re super excited!

We’ve also recently purchased a new home and when the weather warms up we’ll have a housewarming/pregnancy celebration. There will be no expectations for gifts for the baby, but knowing many of our family and friends, they will bring gifts. I have been to heaps of baby showers with gift registries and it seems like a sensible way of making sure there are no double ups and you actually get items that you need. However, I’m a bit hesitant to do it because I don’t want it to seem like we are expecting people to buy us things or it be perceived as tacky/rude. Personally, I’ve found it helpful when other people have had registries.

Just wanted to get people’s thoughts on whether it’s a good idea or if it’s better/more socially acceptable to avoid.

TIA xx

I don’t know if it’s just me or if this is a common experience, but maternity leave has made me feel so much more isolated than I expected.

I feel privileged to spend so much time with my baby and I do cherish this time, but at the same time I feel like I’m in a strange limbo and it makes me sad.

I’m in a mother’s group and we are all friendly, but I haven’t managed to make a deeper friendship connection with anyone, which is what I was initially hoping for (at least one person).

I try to keep busy and we leave the house every day, but I’m starting to look forward to working part time just to break up the routine a bit. Just as I was starting to come around to the idea of retuning to work in a couple of months, my 2 close work friends (that made the place enjoyable) have now left. I can’t envision going back to work without my friends there. The job doesn’t excite me, it’s just a job. But I liked working there with them.

On top of that, my closest (non work) friend has moved out of state.

Has anyone been in a similar position? Do you have any advice or suggestions to help with my mindset for the next couple of months. I’m in a mental funk.

I am at my wits end. My daughter started tantrums at around 11 months old. When I think they can't get any worse, they do. I don't know what to do anymore. She obviously can't communicate and doesn't understand what I am saying. There is a tantrum about EVERYTHING.

If we are outside and need to go back inside, she cracks it. I know she is having fun outside and wants to stay out there, I get it. I can't leave her on the tiles or concrete when she has a tantrum because she flings her whole body back and will 100% crack her head open. If we pick her up, she puts her hands out in frustration and usually scratches our face as a result.

A 5 minute task like getting dressed turns into a 15 minute battle and then a 45 minute tantrum where she is inconsolable. If I get her dressed on the floor, she is free to move after that but she is too worked up by then. By the time she calms down, I am too mentally exhausted to leave the house and then she is physically exhausted from all the carrying on.

She is walking assisted and loses it if I don't hold her hand to walk her around when she gestures to me. My back is sore and I really can't keep walking her around all day.

I am always with her for comfort. I don't usually say much when she is having a tantrum. She will usually come over to me and I hold her but then she gets angry that she's being restrained. I feel like I am in a neverending cycle.

Daycare drop offs are the worst part of my day and week. She started going at 16 months and has now been going for a year. She goes 3 days a week and minus 2 good weeks somewhere in the middle, she has a big cry every single day.
The guilt is immense.

I’ve tried everything…slow morning, big cuddles before, dance parties, kiss/high five/cuddle see you later routine, fast drop offs, longer drop offs…it’s all terrible. Every time I drop her off, I want to quit my job. I keep holding out that it will get better but I suppose at this point, it will just come with age.
For the most part, she’s happy as can be during the day but drop offs are full koala clings, being peeled from my arms, desperately reaching for me as I walk away. How are we meant to regulate ourselves and do a normal job all day when our days start like that. Every. Single. Time.

That’s it. That’s the rant. I’m so grateful to only work part-time but all I want is to be home with my sweet 2 year old every day and not have to have these awful mornings.

So my brother is getting married 4 weeks after my due date and I don't know if we will end up going or not. I've told him we intend to go but we might just have to see how we go on the day. They've asked my firstborn to be a flower girl, so we intend to go to the ceremony but I'm unsure about the reception. I would like to be there as it's my brother but also need to be realistic about being freshly post partum. I'm also anxious about taking a newborn into crowded environments. My family aren't the type to "pass around" so that's good at least. If baby is content in pram or babywearing they will leave her be.

As you know babies can come early or late, so really baby could be anywhere from 3-5 weeks old. My 1st was a week late. 1st will be 18 months at that time.

Am I crazy thinking we can manage a wedding with an 18 month old and newborn?

What would you do? Ceremony only and skip reception? I've already told them we hope to make it to both but if we had to pull out last minute is that rude? It's just sometimes with babies you don't know until the day.

I just had my second obstetrician (private) appointment today and it was only 10 mins. I was asked for my general health, did an ultrasound (but wasn’t told about the fundal length), listened to the heart beat. Following the scan I was not offered any opportunity to ask for any concerns or any questions I had. I’m unsure if this was just an off day for my OB where there may have been a lot of other things going on. I had questions surrounding the birth and whilst this is still early in the journey, I’m confused as to why I wasn’t able to ask questions. Has anyone experienced anything similar? At the moment I haven’t been even told a confirmed due date, my previous OB did calculations based on my menstrual cycle length, provided a due date which didn’t change. Basically I’m just confused.

If you had a classical csection, what gestation was the next baby delivered?

I had a classical (vertical cut) csection 5 years ago. This pregnancy my OB is saying 37w latest but I’d like to get as close as possible to term as I believe 37w delivery comes with its own challenges.

Hi everyone,
FTM here prepping for arrival of baby so slowly securing all the necessities.

I know the Britax Graphene and Maxi Cosi Pria are highly rated car seats on here, but would like to find out if anyone has experience with the InfaSecure Attain Premium?

I know the main reason a lot of people LOVE the Maxi Cosi Pria is because of its drop tether system, which the Britax Graphene and Infasecure Attain Premium does not have. But besides the drop tether system, is there anything else in particular that would make you choose the Maxi Cosi Pria over other brands' models?
Also conscious that the Infasecure Attain Premium does not have ISOFIX, but I heard some people prefer non-ISOFIX...

Love to hear everyone's thoughts on it!

Thank you

Hi, i’m a first time mum to a 3.5 month old and feeling a bit of pressure to participate in Mum’s & Bub’s groups.

The problem is that I resent the idea, mostly because my bub is quite fussy and it has been stressful taking her out to see family, drs appts or going to get coffee with friends. I end up feeling overwhelmed by the end of it, & the idea of being surrounded by other babies is just… a lot.

She won’t nap while we’re out, and by the time the outing has finished she will scream in the car and be inconsolable at home. I feel like i can control things a lot more by being at home in my bubble but my partner is suggesting I should for my benefit but I just feel guilty about not wanting to.

Anyway, I was kind of looking for some advice. Is this something that i should work through and just suck it up for the greater good? What activities did you do/&how often? Did anyone else deal with this?

Bub has hit the size limit for the Jengo bouncer at only 5 months and I’m at a bit of a loss of what to do. I still need something so he can sit in it in the bathroom while I shower and in the kitchen while I cook but he isn’t sitting assisted or independently so can’t go in a seat.

Any recommendations?

I am in nappy-fit hell.

My baby has gone from a proportionately chunky baby to a baby who's taller and slimmer - she's been around 8kg for three months, but added height.

She's had seven blow-outs in the last six days. I've tried multiple brands and sizes over the past month or so: Huggies sizes 4 and 5, Rascals sizes 4 and 5, Mamia size 4, Babylove size 4. Some brands/sizes have blow-outs up the top; others have blow-outs out the legs. I'm planning to give Huggies size 4s another go since she's changed shape since last time I used them, and I remember Cubs was recommended last time I posted so that's on the list. (Let me know if you have any other recommendations of brands to try.)

I do frill the frills and pull the tabs tight, etc. If it was once, I'd put it down to user error, but I don't think it's me when it's every poop.

While I keep trying to find a nappy that fits right, I'm tired of her taking out outfits and, occasionally, her bouncer. I've heard some people use cloth nappy shells over disposables to try to minimise the fall out, and would love if anyone has advice or brands recommendations. I am completely new to the idea of cloth nappy shells and have no idea what I'm doing, but want to try something.

Please send help, I want my girl's cute duck onesie to last long enough at least once so that people can admire its cuteness.

Ok so this may be TMI but I called my mum and because it’s a c-section, she was icked out.

We had our second via a repeat caesarean in October. My partner was right beside me the whole time. He took photos of us all on my phone (my camera is better).

I did ask my midwife to take some photos for us as our daughter arrived so she had my phone during the delivery.

That absolutely amazing woman took a video. I didn’t even realise! I was just looking through my library when I found it.

I’m overjoyed to have that moment forever. Our son was an emergency caesarean and I was alone due to Covid. I didn’t think I’d ever have that moment captured for me, but it was

ETA: please share your stories of similar things happening if you would like! I think highlighting how midwives do so many things, just automatically for the women they’re caring for.

Has anyone started the Meningococcal B vaccine a bit later? Basically bub is 4 months old and we didn’t know about the vaccine until last month. I mentioned it to GP
and he’d mentioned something to do with waiting until six months old and she will get one less dose but everywhere I’ve searched it’s still two doses with 6 weeks, 4 months then the booster at 12 months old. What happens if we start at 4 months? Has anyone done it this way?
I’m thinking about seeing GP in two weeks and just asking for the vaccine and clarification on when baby will get these vaccines as I’d like her to have a dose before she starts her swimming lessons and more interactions with other babies her age. (I’m in WA so we have to pay it here if we choose to do it but my GP didn’t mention it and I only found out from child health nurse)

My beloved soul cat has very suddenly become extremely unwell and it's looking like we will have to let him go this week. I am scheduled to have my baby in exactly two weeks today, and I am inconsolable. I cannot even fathom finding the strength to learn how to parent a newborn, navigate the sleep deprivation and all the challenges ahead, let alone find joy in it. I know I just have to suck it up and do it, but I am just so so sad, completely to my bones devastated, and the idea of being in the house so much without my cat is even worse than grieving the future I wanted him to have as part of our new little family. I was already worried about post partum depression and now I feel like it's a certainty because I can't even find the strength to feed myself or enjoy anything right now. Does anyone have any advice who has been through this? Please tell me your baby brought you some joy to help you navigate the time, I just cannot imagine how I'm going to cope with this.

Hi,
I was told that my baby has positional talipes and regular massaging foot outwards can help her condition. But I am hoping to ask what can I do from now to correct the foot.

Thanks

Those who have already crossed this bridge…What advice, tips or tricks do you have for parents going from one child to two?! Need all the insights we can get 🙏🏽

We’re expecting our first baby, and we’re trying to decide on her name.

I’m Filipino, and in our culture it’s common for the child’s middle name to be the mother’s maiden surname. I’d really love to keep that tradition, partly because it’s part of my heritage and partly because I carried her for 9 months—it feels meaningful to have that connection.

The only dilemma is that we also love the idea of giving her two given names (not a hyphenated name).

So her name would be structured like this:
First Name + Second Given Name + Mother’s Maiden Surname (middle name) + Father’s Surname

For anyone in Australia with this naming structure:
Have you had any issues with birth registration?
Does Medicare, Centrelink, passports, banks or schools handle it okay?
Do forms ever mistake the second given name for a middle name?
Has it caused any headaches later in life, or has it been pretty straightforward?

For general information purposed only - not for tailored legal advice!

Babies first bday is coming up! We are starting to think of present ideas. Thanks 🙏