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I am at my wits end. My daughter started tantrums at around 11 months old. When I think they can't get any worse, they do. I don't know what to do anymore. She obviously can't communicate and doesn't understand what I am saying. There is a tantrum about EVERYTHING.

If we are outside and need to go back inside, she cracks it. I know she is having fun outside and wants to stay out there, I get it. I can't leave her on the tiles or concrete when she has a tantrum because she flings her whole body back and will 100% crack her head open. If we pick her up, she puts her hands out in frustration and usually scratches our face as a result.

A 5 minute task like getting dressed turns into a 15 minute battle and then a 45 minute tantrum where she is inconsolable. If I get her dressed on the floor, she is free to move after that but she is too worked up by then. By the time she calms down, I am too mentally exhausted to leave the house and then she is physically exhausted from all the carrying on.

She is walking assisted and loses it if I don't hold her hand to walk her around when she gestures to me. My back is sore and I really can't keep walking her around all day.

I am always with her for comfort. I don't usually say much when she is having a tantrum. She will usually come over to me and I hold her but then she gets angry that she's being restrained. I feel like I am in a neverending cycle.

Any tips on weaning the dummy at this age? My daughter wakes so many times overnight for the dummy and I am well and truly over it. She knows how to put the dummy in herself, she just won't do it. It's like she is too worked up to actually do it. She will go back to sleep the second the dummy hits her mouth.

Do you just go cold Turkey and ride out the crying? How long is too long to let them cry? I will be with her until she falls asleep but I also don't want to be the replacement comfort as she starts at a family daycare next month. I have tried introducing a comforter but she has zero interest in it.

Does anyone have feedback on private sleep schools? I am looking at the Brisbane one in particular but I imagine they are similar across states. I have looked at Ellen Barron but I am not sold on it based on reviews. Is the private one just going to be the same but at a private hospital instead? I am looking at the 5 night stay option.

My daughter is 13 months. She has never been a great sleeper and I keep waiting for it to get better but it never does. Other than the 4 month regression, we haven't noticed any other regressions because her night sleep sucks all the time.

She wakes every hour. Sometimes we will make it to 2 hours but it is never really more. We might have 2 or 3 nights where it starts to improve every couple of months and I get my hopes up but then it goes back to shit. I feel like I have tried everything and I am at my wits end. She seems to wake for the dummy and won't even go looking for it before it escalates into a full cry.

She is in the 2 to 1 nap transition at the moment but I feel like we are in a vicious cycle of interrupted nights that she needs day sleep to catch up. Her canine teeth erupted a couple of weeks ago so that was hysterical crying for hours a few nights in a row. I expect this and would never expect her to sleep through that type of discomfort. It's the no reason wake ups I would like to reduce. I don't even want 0 wakes. 2 or 3 wakes per night is so much more manageable. I dread the nights as much as I did when she was a newborn. I am at the point where I wonder what even is the point of going to sleep?

We co-sleep but I don't feel it makes any difference. She rolls around so much in her sleep so usually rolls to the other side or end of the bed. It just means I don't have to get up out of bed to help her back to sleep. She has a double floor bed which is what we have slept in since around 9 months old. She was in a cot before this but I got sick of getting up so often. She doesn't have bottles anymore and hasn't had a night bottle since around 3 months old so there is no association to that. I try nurofen if I think her teeth could be causing her a tiny bit of discomfort but that doesn't work. We have blockout curtains including two other sets of blinds behind that. We have white noise and have tried no white noise many times. We have ergopouch sleep sacks. I try extra layers underneath in case she is cold but it doesn't get that cold in Brisbane and it doesn't do anything. I tried switching to an ergopouch onesie so she could roll around more freely. I have tried introducing a comforter but she doesn't care for it. It doesn't matter how much or how little sleep she has during the day, the nights are always the same. It doesn't matter how much sensory input she has, the nights never improve. It only makes her tired during the day, and she mostly sleeps well during the day. She started linking sleep cycles around 7 months which is when her day sleep improved.

I don't want to sleep train as I just can't do it. Power to anyone that can. I am exhausted and don't know how I function during the day. I get snappy at my husband or my dog because I am just so tired. I don't want to be like that and know that I need help.

What does everyone do with an open plan kitchen? Do you block off access completely or baby proof it? I initially didn't want to block access off but now she is climbing and getting into everything, I am wondering if I should block it off. Being open plan, it's hard to find gates but I think we could make something work.

We have metal handles on all cupboards and drawers with really sharp corners. I also hate the idea of her using them as a ladder to get on the bench.

The microwave is low and once she works out that she can press the buttons, it will probably turn into a fun game for her.

We have a free-standing 900 oven where she can reach the handle so it's only a matter of time before she pulls it open.

My MIL had boiling water spilled on her accidentally when she was a baby so this is another thing that freaks me out.

I think my 12mo calorie requirements are slowly decreasing so I want to wean her off formula bottles asap.

I struggle with meals and snacks when we are out of the house though. What does everyone pack?

I pack a lunchbox for both of us everyday even when we are home as it makes my day easier. Some meals are a total mess at home that I could never give it to her out of the house - like bolognese or a tuna sandwich which ends up everywhere but her mouth.

I have a subo bottle which I switch between yogurt and fruit, chia pudding, overnights oats and sometimes weetbix. This is usually enough for a big snack and I only want to use it once per day.

She likes banana pancakes which aren't too messy. I am also going to try making some sushi and see how she likes it. I am so stuck on what else to feed her though.

I would love to hear what others do.

What is the feedback on these programs? My daughter is almost 12 months and I think she will be walking by 13 months. We are currently in our third and final term of Baby Sensory and I actually regret signing up this term. My daughter just wants to crawl and climb everywhere which is totally fine but I feel like it's not the right environment. I am looking at other options for when Baby Sensory finishes. What is Gymbaroo like? Does it allow them to safely and freely explore? I have also looked at PCYC little n active but couldn't see much of what they actually offer in the sessions.

Are there any others I may have missed? We are Brisbane based (southside).

I need ideas on best way to keep a 12 month old entertained in the car. She has hated travelling in the car since she was born but it just got worse around 8 months. Now at almost 12 months, it's a fight just to get her in. She screams, stands up and goes stiff like a surfboard trying to get her in. Once we are over that, she may possibly scream the whole way. Sometimes she will exhaust herself after 15 minutes. Other times I am not sure if she is going to throw up or pass out.

I am not a fan of snacks in the car as I can't respond quick enough if she is choking. I did try a subo bottle with yogurt but even that wasn't enough yesterday.

I have used rattles but I think she is just getting too old for these now, and she is not interested or just throws it on the floor.

I am at the point where I don't want to leave the house with her and it's becoming hard to actually focus on driving.

I am not anti screen time but I am picky about it. Is this one of the moments where I accept defeat with screen time? Or will I be making it harder for myself later? How do you attach a phone or tablet when you have one of the cameras hooked over the headrest?

Has anyone used an activity tray rear facing or are they too big?

I am open to any suggestions, except the happy song. There is nothing happy about it in our car.

We renovated our backyard last year and now have lots of space for toys and equipment but we aren't sure what to get. What backyard toys/equipment are favourites in your house? My baby is 1 soon so she has plenty of time to grow into things. We are thinking of doing a small area under our small patio for rainy days as well but not sure if this would get used. We are in Brisbane so can use the yard year round. We have a couple of portable gazebos for shade.

My baby turns 1 in under 3 weeks. How does everyone serve meat to their babies? Since we started solids at 6m, my baby has never been a huge fan of meat. She will eat bolognese but even that is hit and miss. Every other meat I serve will hit her tongue and she will just spit it back out. Usually I don't care as there's lots of other food on her plate to fill her up. She has now started throwing majority of the meal on the floor. I didn't think much of it as I thought she's just not hungry, but then she has woken up around 3 hours after dinner screaming because she's hungry so I've given her a full bottle and she demolishes it. She doesn't usually have a night bottle and hasn't since around 3 months of age. Is this the start of the fussy eating stage? I took the plate away and just put bits of food on her tray at a time which has worked better but she still doesn't want to eat whatever meat I serve up. She will eat almost anything else that gets put in front of her including salmon, barramundi and Prawns. Everything except meat. I don't want to keep guessing if she is hungry or not. Any tips??

Does anyone use non slip foam over their tiles or something similar? The tiles in our house are annoyingly smooth and my 11mo has had one too many slips and bumps while crawling around and I need to do something. Even my dog loses her grip if she is running through the house so I imagine it's only going to get worse once my baby starts walking.

She has a playpen and loungeroom where she is safe to move around but she is getting sick of being contained in them all day. We also have a playroom with a Zenli playmat but it doesn't cover the whole area and this seems to be where she has the worst slips. Always gotta be right next to the mat 🤦‍♀️

We spent the weekend at my mum's and she has textured tiles so she never loses her grip. It was amazing to just let her crawl everywhere, even in her long onesie and not worry about her slipping over.

I am considering covering half the house in foam tiles or something. Does anyone use something like this?