Do you think the same way as me?
Hey guys. I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and I’m so sick and tired of this ongoing identity disturbance I’ve been dealing with for years. All I ever wanted was to just feel like I belong somewhere. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately—why we don't have a stable identity, and why we can't seem to fit into any mold.Recently, I realized something: the unstable nature of our emotional empathy definitely plays a role in this. It’s obviously not the only reason—identity disturbance is the result of many different factors—but I believe a part of it stems from this empathy issue.Neurotypicals generally have a stable sense of empathy, so their actions don’t constantly contradict who they are. They don't have trouble defining themselves as "good people." On the other hand, those with ASPD/NPD lack this ability, so their actions don't contradict them either; they don't really have an issue seeing themselves as the "bad guy."But when it comes to BPD, we do have empathy, it's just highly abnormal and erratic. Sometimes we completely lack empathy, and other times we become hyper-empathetic. Sometimes we act full of love, and other times we cause serious harm to others. Of course, every human being acts good or bad from time to time; that’s just human nature. But our problem is that our behavior swings between extreme opposites—being intensely loving versus being completely ruthless.Because of this, we can't view ourselves as either good or bad. Neither compassionate nor cruel. In my opinion, this is one of the biggest factors feeding our identity confusion. What are your thoughts on this?