asian people normalizing and accepting toxic asian parenting
i know a lot of people in this subreddit are speaking up about how messed up a lot of APs are but i’ve noticed that irl, i see a lot of asian people who normalize toxic asian parenting as “part of the culture” and “that’s just how it is, you get used to it.”
this includes my own sister who i will say, was the golden child growing up, but i can’t speak to her about my frustrations with how our parents brought us up and treated us because she’ll just dismiss it as “but they’re out parents so we have to deal with it.” even though i can clearly see how she has a lot of issues from our upbringing, she still vouches for them anyway.
meanwhile, i’ve gone to therapy and worked on issues surrounding my childhood and have cut my parents off because i think it’s unacceptable to treat anyone the way they’ve treated me and my siblings, whether or not we have blood ties.
has anyone else had similar experiences? it’s just very sad that this type of treatment gets so normalized and dismissed in asian cultures by a lot of the children on the receiving end of the abuse. i just can’t wrap my head around it.