Coworker/(kind of?) my boss is a bully
Tldr: coworker/boss is a major shit talker and I called her out on something she said about me today but she also has said problematic stuff, do I mention it in my exit interview with our mutual higher ups?
I work in a private healthcare clinic and we all technically work under a practice manager. I do direct patient care with doctors and have a clinic lead. The clinic lead is a ruthless bully. She talks shit about coworkers (some she doesn’t directly even work with, some of us are her underlings), doctors, nurses, admin, and patients. “She’s so fucking stupid, how long have you worked here and you don’t know that, she’s so weird, she’s musty, I can’t stand her, what is her problem, she’s an alcoholic” about everyone. She’s mocked Asian accents, Indian accents, Hispanic accents. She’s asked and said inappropriate things that are sexual in nature. She’s just fucking ignorant and talks out of her ass every day.
I’m not oblivious to the fact that she has surelyyyyy said some of these things about me especially when I was new and learning as she’s been here for 10+ years and I know first hand how tedious training a new person can be, but the other stuff is extremely uncalled for in any circumstance. Today, I was told something she specifically said about me. She told another coworker that I “smell”. Now i’m no stranger to being stinky at times after working out, on a hot day, after traveling, and I’ll be the first to say it!!! However, I always show up to work professionally which means showering regularly (which I had 1 hour before arriving to work), wearing deodorant, washing my scrubs, obviously brushing my teeth, even chewing minty gum after coffee/lunch. I used to work in a hospital setting which is fragrance free and I don’t care to waste my perfumes on a work day so I don’t, but a lot of my coworkers do wear fragrances.
I was freaking out and having some of my coworkers smell me and I told them to be honest because maybe I DID genuinely smell, maybe I had spilled my lunch on my scrubs while packing this morning, maybe I stepped in something gross, just something unbeknownst that has made me “smell.” They all said I smelled like clean laundry and my deodorant. After confirmation, I’m blowing tf up to my other coworkers: “she’s such a bully, she’s supposed to be our lead but all she does is talk shit about literally everyone here.”
Flash forward about an hour, the clinic lead and I are alone and she’s attempting to make small talk. She asks “what’s the funniest thing that’s happened to you today?” I said “nothing.” She says “mine wasssss…..” and I interrupt and say “was it when you told everyone that I smell?” She says “noooo…..” and attempts to blow it off and continue on and I interrupt again and say “I don’t actually care” and walk away.
I’m leaving in a little over month because I’m going to school and even if I wasn’t, I probably wouldn’t say anything to higher ups because it’s sooooo elementary school. I mean, come on…. “She smells”? Really? The thing is, I am not white and her racist remarks do irritate me and she’s definitely struck a nerve or 3 with me and she’s noticed to the point where she’ll say “ohhhh I’m not gonna say it because you’re sensitive.” No, you’re racist. Our employee demographic is mostly white but there are multiple POC employees.
Anyways I have an exit interview when I leave and I know nothing will come of it even if I do say anything as she is really helpful clinic wise, despite being a racist drama queen, and I don’t want her to be fired. Is it worth mentioning?