r/Workproblems

This is a repost, as my other one got deleted.

I am a 19F who has been working at a minimum wage job for nearly three years. It’s terrible. The management is awful and guidelines aren’t followed. I have been treated with no respect here even though I’ve been told I’m on of the best workers by my supervisor.

I got this job as my mom knew one of the supervisors from high school. I couldn’t wait for the day I could quit without any notice. I guess it was going to be my way of payback for the way I’ve been treated. I have pretty bad social anxiety and I cannot stick up for myself. So everyone someone mistreated me, I bottled all my emotions up and let them walk all over me.

Today I was hired at a new job that pays better. I knew what I had to do. I called, and told my boss I was out. She immediately became furious, and used classic manipulation techniques. “After all I’ve done for you?” (literally nothing btw). I didn’t know what to say. She kept repeating this. My boyfriend was next to me when I called in because he knows I struggle socially. He grabbed my phone and said “The guilt tripping isn’t appreciated, thank you.” And she hung up.

About five minutes later, I found out that she’s been texting my mom begging for her to call her. I’m so worried my parents are going to kill me. But I’ve been here for so long. I’ve worked my fucking ass off for nothing. Nothing but disrespect. I personally believe contacting my mother is crossing a huge boundary. I’m an adult. Why are you contacting my mom?

But on the other hand, maybe I’m a fucking idiot and not putting in a two week notice was a stupid idea. A big mistake. But it’s a courtesy, and I feel that goes both ways. They were never respectful to me. I don’t know. :(

First Reddit post ever so bear with me. Been working with this guy in a warehouse for about 2 years. Without getting into the nitty gritty, he makes floor sealer and I pick and package for orders. He started off kind of rough but slowly started learning how to do the bare minimum.
The higher ups were skeptical about his ability to do the job but I kinda downplayed and picked up some of the slack because I knew he had a rough life. I figured he’d figure a lot of stuff out once he had stability.

Lately he’s been slacking. Not like 20 minute “bathroom breaks” when we’re slow. Like really just sitting around. 80% percent of the time I ask him to make something for an order he rolls his eyes and gives me a horrible attitude. Hissing and cussing. If he does make something he’s cussing and throwing stuff around all aggressive. Showing up high and smoking at work. Getting into drama with other co workers. It’s gotten to where I have to mediate between him and everyone else because he doesn’t like anyone, and vice versa.

A couple days ago, we had a pickup order that was coming that day and he needed to make a material. I told him so, and he rolled his eyes and said “I guess I can make a bucket” (instead of a 500lb drum) He makes it in 20 minutes and instead of checking and filling the material, he leaves for like an hour and half. After a while I try to fill it myself and it’s not even close to acceptable. A customer would absolutely send it back. So we have to push the order back and I have to explain the situation to everyone because no one can even find him. Then he just shows up. No apology no nothing. He just sits on the tow motor looking at his phone for the rest of the shift.

So I complained to our boss. I did this instead of going to him directly because I’m confident it would either be useless or start more problems. He’s not emotionally mature and he seems allergic to any accountability. Everything is everyone else’s fault. It’s every one else’s fault that he’s not happy. He walks around with that level of entitlement and it makes him genuinely exhausting to work with. Like pulling teeth getting him to do anything. Still though, I have this gut feeling that I might have turned someone out into the street who was already struggling, who was about to get it together. We’re not friends per se. But we talk at work and I’ve gotten to know him and see the good in him. So I’m really torn did I handle this poorly?

please don't say ignore them the place is so small and intimate i cant ignore them for 12 hrs and im too drained to fake it + my reputation matters to me i dont wanna be called a grumpy weirdo either

I just need to vent.

I run my own business and opened a second joint business and majority of the mental load went onto me which we talked about. It resulted in me saying that I cannot handle running 2 simultaneously so we gotta close the joint one if the partner can't pick up their half of the load. Finally it's close to closing but holy, our staff have been mostly princesses who refuse to work more than 4 hour shifts. No problem, as long as the shifts are covered it's fine.

But one complains about being stressed.

It's a goddamn cashier job at a slow pace shop.

Another asks to move her schedule and swap with others constantly to hang out with friends. Annoying but ok.

Until this staff asked to close the shop for just their shift, 3 days before it closes, because no one would take their shift. I say unfortunately this is their schedule so they should have planned accordingly. They still say can't work because they made plans and are unavailable. I say it's disrespectful and rude. They say they disagree but we can agree to disagree. What the actual f*CK.

Theres many more but this is just the most recent and honestly, quite absurd. I never asked to be a manager and can understand why they are known to be evil bitches after some time 😭

I (28yo) am the manager of a small business and just had someone quit on me. My coworker (26yo) quit by typing up a letter and having their mother bring it in to the store to give to me.

I’m stuck between feeling disappointed and concerned.

I’ve been told things about this person’s mother that lead me to believe she’s kinda toxic and controlling, and I’ve seen the mom do messed up stuff like leaving my coworker on the side of the road in the middle of nowhere.

The letter said my coworker found a new job they were excited to move on to, so maybe everything is all good and I’m worried for nothing.

I don’t know how to appropriately express concern in this situation, or if I even should.

***UPDATE***

The employee really did decide to quit through their mother.

Hello everyone! I’m 17F and I’d really like some opinions/advice about my job because I’m honestly feeling pretty frustrated.

I’ve been working at the same place since I was 13. It’s a wedding/event venue and restaurant, and I’ve always considered myself one of their harder-working employees.
The first thing that upset me is that I’ve been making $20/hour for years, and this year they lowered my wage to $19/hour because they “need to cut costs.” The biggest issue isn’t necessarily the $1 itself—it’s that nobody even told me beforehand. A dollar an hour adds up, especially when you’re working a lot of hours, so it was pretty disappointing to find out.

Another huge frustration is the difference in work ethic between employees. They constantly hire people who, even after months, still don’t seem to understand what they’re doing. Some employees are also extremely lazy. They’ll sit around or disappear into the back while the venue is absolutely packed, leaving the people who actually work to pick up the slack.

I’m personally a very fast worker. I can usually accomplish in 6 hours what takes someone else 8–10 hours, but I have ADHD, anxiety, and back problems, which means I can only realistically work around 6 hours before I become completely burned out. I’ve been very upfront about that.
The frustrating part is that I feel like I’m being punished for having that limitation. Other employees who are slower or barely work can get multiple 5-hour shifts in a row, while I’m told I don’t get as many shifts because I can “only work 6 hours.” It doesn’t make much sense to me when I’m getting the same amount—or sometimes more—done in those 6 hours.

They also tend to schedule me specifically on the really busy days because they know I’ll get things done. But that often means I end up doing the majority of the work while other people stand around, and then I’m the one who gets completely exhausted.

Another thing that bothers me is that it seems like the good workers get criticized over the smallest mistakes, while people who consistently do less work seem to get away with a lot more.

And finally, there’s the situation with my days off. I recently requested two days off because I was invited to a concert. I’ve never been to a concert before, and I really wanted to experience something new before school starts. My GM didn’t respond to my request. Then she sent out a huge email saying that she’s no longer accepting requests for weekends and that everyone needs to understand that weekends are busy.

What frustrates me is that it feels like that rule isn’t applied equally. Other employees are still getting weekends off, including people who don’t seem to put nearly as much effort into their shifts. Her son also works there and gets days off, which makes the whole situation feel even more unfair.

I understand that businesses have to schedule around their needs, and I’m not expecting special treatment just because I’m young or because I have limitations. I just want to feel like my effort is actually valued and that the rules are being applied fairly to everyone.

At this point, the job that I used to think would be fun has become genuinely miserable for me. I’m constantly feeling overworked, underappreciated, and frustrated.
So, what would you do in my situation? Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way, or would you also be frustrated?

So this week is my colleague’s birthday (I’ll call her Emily) usually everyone would pitch in the same amount to buy each colleague a gift plus birthday cake but Emily wanted each person to give her a gift instead of pitching in to get one gift. Her rule was that the gift shouldn’t be over 27 dollars since that’s the amount we usually spend when we pitch in.

I bought her a gift that cost me 21$ & I was glad that I’m spending less money on colleagues gifts this month and brought the gift with me today. During work I was suddenly called by my line manager who asked if I bought Emily a gift and when I said yes she looked a bit surprised but then she told me to plan with another colleague (I’ll call her Sera) to order cake and ballon for Emily so we can celebrate and she said the whole team will pitch in.

I went to Sera with the news which she was not happy about because apparently she had to deal with the same thing before and at the end only two people paid her (one of them being the line manager) and when she told the line manager that the rest didn’t pay her, she just said “okay” and moved on so she didn’t want anything to do with it. I didn’t want to do that but I ended up paying for the cake and the balloon which cost me around 53$ I already told another colleague about the amount and how much they need to pay me after I decided the amount between us so they can pay me back but so far no one took me seriously 😭 Sera told me I should’ve said sorry but I can’t but being a new employee I just felt pressured to do it.

I’m not a confrontational person & honestly I hate that this was pushed into me so what can I do to get them to pay me back?

P.S the worst part of this is that Emily was being mean to me & I ended up crying in the bathroom. The whole thing was dumb but I hated it even more cuz I’m the one who’s paying for her birthday celebration!

TL;DR: An ex-manager used to display hostile and unprofessional behavior towards staff, but recently quieted down. Is filing an Ethics complaint 2–4 months later still appropriate to address past behavior and advocate for affected colleagues, or is it better to move on if the situation has calmed down?

Hey everyone, I need some outside perspective.

I recently stopped working under that manager at a large retail company. But the situation with my previous manager (let’s call them Dm) is still on my mind. I'm torn on whether I should submit a formal complaint to corporate Ethics about their behavior.

Here are the main issues with Dm (mostly happened 2–3 and 4 months ago), starting with the most serious ones:

• Targeting bilingual employees and inappropriate remarks: In front of me and the HR representative, Dm publicly berated an older immigrant associate over a minor paperwork error, saying, "You've been in the country for how many years and still haven't learned this?" On top of that, they explicitly expressed their frustration and instructed a supervisor not to place two specific associates who speak the same language at adjacent workstations, stating that they get distracted talking in their native language rather than focusing on customers.
• Out-of-control reaction during an HR meeting: Company policy didn't technically allow my transfer at the time, but HR listened to my reasons and agreed to process it if Dm approved. During that meeting in the HR office, Dm emotionally lashed out, kept cutting me off, and made aggressive gestures (tapping/pressing the edge of their palm against the desk). Even though I politely told them from the very first time that I understood their position, they kept escalating the hostility.
• Constant baseline irritation and unprofessional outbursts: They regularly spoke to associates with intense irritation. If you approached them with a quick question, they’d cut you off with an aggressive "What do you want?!" or brush you off. It was obvious they were barely holding back from yelling. It was so noticeable that even customers picked up on it—I once overheard a shopper tell them directly, "Don't be irritated with me," which forced them to make excuses.
• Lack of long-term resolution locally: Some co-workers previously tried addressing their behavior with higher-level store management, but it was hard to tell if it had any lasting effect (possibly due to personal/friendly ties between them).

Why I’m hesitating now: All of these major incidents happened 2–3 months ago (and 4). After that meeting in HR, there were no direct conflicts with Dm. To be fair, they simply interacted with us much less—they were frequently away on business trips or stayed in their office. Another colleague mentioned that Dm stopped bothering her recently as well.

Because there haven't been any recent outbursts, I feel guilty. What if someone already reported them, they were talked to, and they actually changed their behavior? Would filing a complaint 2–3 months late just be an unnecessary attempt to ruin someone’s reputation when the situation has calmed down? On the other hand, a big part of me feels like I need to report this to stand up for myself against their unfair treatment, and advocate for the colleagues who suffered from it as well.

What do you think? Is it worth reporting incidents from 2–3-4 months ago if the manager hasn't shown aggressive behavior recently?

Would love to hear your perspectives on this.

Thank you!

Started at a company after a $90k relocation to learn that one of my direct reports is giving her all to get me fired.

When interviewing I was advised that a Supervisor was interim Manager for a year before I was hired. While this can be a red flag, with 30+ years, I figured that I could deal with it.

On day 1 she told me that it took her 19 years to learn what she’s learned at the company and she learned it all on her own. She implied that she was not going to assist me in any way. Months later, I’ve learned why she wasn’t selected for my job (chronic dropping the ball and zero responsiveness to anyone including customers and numerous other issues).

I later learned that she was successful with routing out the last two persons in my position and has made it clear to me that I wrongly took her job.

Now, on a daily basis she, hides information from me, almost never responds to emails and IMs and goes out of her way to make decisions that are not hers to make.

Meanwhile, she is doing very poorly with covering her real responsibilities. I have brought the issues to Management who is hesitant to do anything because of her knowledge of the company historically and the relationships that she has developed with corporate in Ireland.

Extremely frustrating and can’t see how I can fulfill the 2 years to get out of my $90k obligation.

I welcome any ideas!

Thanks.

As the title suggests, I'm a part owner with 2 other business partners and one of the partners seems to have big chip on their shoulder. Just a little history. Both of my current business partners used to be my employees at another company I owned years ago, but I left that business. I have a good relationship with my other business partner, but for some reason the 3rd partner just can't seem to communicate with me on anything.

For full transparency, I've also been struggling with her and the way she navigates as a "business owner." She's kind of a slob, can't seem to focus on her particular tasks without being reminded they need to be done, can't communicate what is bothering her and in general it doesn't feel like she is pulling her weight.

Naturally, because the way she functions as an owner, it's been causing me to have a lot of resentment and frustration, which I'm sure is showing. I've tried sharing this with the owners in general terms because I knew if I called her out on it specifically, she would react by shutting down and taking it as a personal attack.

Anyway, without really going into the weeds. I'm just curious how people manage these situations?

Problem/Goal: I work in a BPO and manage a supervisor who is also a close friend. She has consistently missed deliverables, fails to follow through on tasks, and frequently complains about additional responsibilities. My manager is now pressuring me to consider letting her go.
Context: Our team recently had system issues that caused backlogs, so everyone was asked to pitch in through OT or taking calls. She chose to take calls but was locked out of the required tools. I submitted a ticket and told her to follow up because I would be on PTO. When I returned, I learned she never followed up, so I had to do it myself.
Previous Attempt**:** I’ve conducted several coaching sessions regarding her performance, but the same issues continue. She has also said she feels targeted during coaching. I’m concerned she may retaliate by filing a labor complaint or claiming constructive dismissal. I want to handle this fairly while protecting myself and the company. What’s the best way to proceed?

So my company that I’ve been with for 9 years hired this girl about 2 years ago who became one of my best friends. We just clicked. We finished each others sentences. We’re both on the spectrum and had so much in common. We did each others hair, had sleep overs, went to raves, movies and shows together.

The only thing we didn’t see eye to eye with was management at my job. They hired a floor manager that did not like me. She liked my friend and a couple other ppl at the job and I would complain to my friend about her sometimes all these new rules she made, but they didn’t seem to apply to my friend or her “favorites.” When I would complain it sometimes get a lil heated saying I wasn’t being singled out, that other ppl get treated the same way and highly disagreed there was any favoritism.

My job used to be very laid back before hiring her as floor manger, it was ok if you were late, didn’t effect anyone or your pay.. It’s a 1099 office job. I am a high producing employee, making pretty decent money, where as my friend really struggled. I have no idea how she justified staying 8 hours a day, days a week and getting 300-400 check. For example, I make around 1500 a week.. I think she stayed partially for me tbh.. idk. But these new rules.. even if you were a minute late my floor manager would track it and screen shot it and you would lose your pay for the day.. unless you wanted to use one of ur vacation days. She did that to me 3 times. I lost 500 dollars because she screen shotted me coming in 3 mins late. 2nd time for 2mins late was for 300 dollars.

A few months ago I was really unwell and apparently only 2 people showed up that day. They were rewarded with passes to come in 15mins late. The only reason I found out about it is because my friend was kind of bragging about it, saying thank god she had a pass for 15mins late because she was so hung over.. she also lived across the street from our job.. where as the other people all lived about 20-30mins away, me included.. I figured we’d have a meeting to let everyone know we were all eligible for these types of things under certain circumstances. But no, weeks went by.

And then the floor manager did it again to me, I was 2mins late coming back from lunch. And I noticed she wasn’t doing this to anyone else as much anymore. Me and her really did not like each other. So I took it up with the general manager. I called her out on her blatant favoritism and her harassment of me. I brought up the 15min passes that were given out as well. I don’t think the general manager knew the floor manager did that. She said that can’t be true and it’s just rumors.. and I went and grabbed the ticket from the other girl and showed it to her. Floor managers jaw on the floor. She said they will have a meeting about it then.

During the meeting, the general manager said it was just rumors but some girls did get some passes and that we were now all eligible to get these passes under certain circumstances. So she definitely contradicted herself. My friend did not speak to me since that meeting.

I did get hurt shortly after and I’ve been working from home ever since. I then noticed she took me off of Snapchat. Then unshared her location with me. And then Friday, she had her, her sister and almost all our mutuals unfollow me too. She removed me as well and they did the same. Which was fine.. I really didnt like her sister.. kinda sucked the mutuals did that too tho like.. you just do what ur told over some petty work drama that has nothing to do with you? Okay then.

I’m honestly glad she moved on, there was nothing there for her at my office. She wasn’t making any money.. I really wanna text her and tell her I wish her the best and it sucks we couldn’t keep a friendship over such a petty work issue… should I just leave it be or wish her the best?

So I'm very bad at managing my workers or employees,like i am not able to order them, scold them,and I'm super sarcastic,kind and also respectful to them

The thing is bcz of me being like this they get out of hand,they stop respecting me more and stop giving value to my orders

I'm like this bcz i don't feel okay and sensible to act arrogant and bossy with them without any reason,yeah if they do something wrong then i should act bossy but not without any reason,and another thing is I'm kind so I'm not able to scold them that way

I know if I start acting bossy kind of arrogant,keep a distance with them,scold them on small things,amd act a little bit rude, they are going to act like the best workers, but that's just not in me

So How can I change myself,and should i even change,and what things are needed to be changed?

I joined my current workplace a few months ago and honestly, I feel like I’ve been under a microscope since day one.

I was called something pretty horrible on my first day, and since then I’ve constantly felt judged. My boss has commented on my grooming, I’ve been shouted at multiple times, and I’ve even been told that there are complaints that I’m “not working.”

There’s also a classmate of mine who is very close to my boss and the seniors. I feel like she has a lot of influence, and sometimes it feels like people have already decided that I’m incompetent.
She has even shouted at me over work-related things. She really feels terrifying and kinda feels like she’s actively in directly bullying me. During our college days also she tried to disrespect me a lot like I’m below here like an untouchable or something; would talk sweetly but her words are literal torture so I cut her off. She was one of the first friend group in my college days

What makes it harder is that I’m genuinely trying. I’m only a few months into the job, I commute almost 2 hours a day, have other responsibilities/jobs, and I’m also trying to support my family financially. I’m exhausted but I still show up and try to improve.

The scrutiny has gotten to the point where I sometimes sit at my desk with a pit in my stomach because I’m scared of doing something wrong. I even get anxious about walking up to people to ask basic work questions.

I know I’m still learning and I don’t expect anyone to hold my hand. I just want to become good at my work and build a reputation for being reliable.
I don’t want to quit. I need the experience, the money and the career growth. I also don’t want to start bootlicking people or getting involved in office politics.

For people who have dealt with toxic workplaces/favouritism:
How do you protect yourself, build a good reputation and stay mentally detached from office politics?
I just want to keep my head down, get better at my work, get promoted and eventually build something of my own. I’m honestly just trying to survive this phaser without completely losing my confidence.

“Your manners are so bad”
“you need to improve your communication skills “
“What’s your previous job?”
“ You can’t say somebody else is wrong “[her Japanese is not good enough to understand the word <different >and <wrong>]
“ you can’t ask her that question”(my colleague said she got engaged,and I asked is your finance foreigner?)
She asked me outside the office and make just 2 of us space.
“ do you know what is your priority of your job?”
“Is this job too difficult to you?”
And criticizing me in public group slack.

I recently began working at Hollister Co again, part-time as I returned to college. I did not return to HCO to move-up the leadership ladder, I simply did it to help financially on the side.

I was hired again, happy to be back - no, not the best job but situational-wise it was a move I made. My boyfriend also applied, and was turned-down by the assistant manager. I understand this, it could be a conflict of interest. It wasn’t a big deal.

I worked one shift last week (first one). I provided my best customer service. I had families laughing, thanking me, and our mall felt to have a heartbeat again. It was am amazingly fun shift - I had horrible ADHD, and retail helps me like a duck in water, using my ADHD to direct towards providing great customer service (not to sound arrogant).

During the shift, a young girl was dancing in a fitting room (next to her parents). I smiled, seeing anyone happy enough to dance in a world where nobody wants to be themselves warms my heart. I told the young girl, “I’m sorry if I’ve embarrassed you, don’t ever stop doing what you love because someone’s watching.” During the shift, I asked my assistant manager about her college pursuit - as I am in college too. I asked her how long her she the store manager have worked together etc. After my shift I said, “thank you for giving me this opportunity, I’m extremely grateful to be back at Hollister, and it warms my heart”.

Today, my second shift, the air felt cold and tense. My manager was telling me to do things in a passive aggressive manner. I shrugged it off, often times this is normal in a new work environment. Towards the end of my shift, I helped a mother and daughter find what they wanted. They were ready to checkout, however i am not register trained yet, so I got my assistant manager. The mother continued conversation with me during the transaction. After the customer left, my AM looked at the SM and said, “He didn’t even let me get a word in”.

At the end of my shift - the store manager asked to speak with me. I knew it wasn’t going to be positive, she was passive aggressive with me throughout my whole shift.

My manager BOMBARDED me with so many things.

-I made the Assistant manager uncomfortable, she thought I said SHE made my heart warm, but I said returning to HCO made my heart warm. She felt I made her uncomfortable.
-the assistant manager reported it “inappropriate”, that I laughed at the dancing child and apologized for embarrassing her.
-The assistant manager felt I asked too many questions
-The assistant manager felt I inquired about her college pursuit because I wanted her job
-I was told I need to stop saying im grateful to be employed at HCO again
-I was told my boyfriend isn’t allowed to come into the store and wait in the food court
-I was told to tone-down my customer service
-I was told to not talk to a customer if I’m not at the register because I can cause a line to build up
-I was told that I am too old and my peers are young and what was appropriate in 2017 isnt any more
-I was told to stop asking coworkers questions regarding college or anything personal
-I was written up for telling a young girl to never stop dancing because she feels embarrassed - even though her parents did not report this, and they seemed happy and welcomed by my positive interaction - however management misinterpreted it and stretched it, even saying I made her uncomfortable.
-The store manager said she felt I wanted her job too (I DO NOT- I AM IN COLLEGE TO BECOME A TEACHER)

My heart aches over this. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if the AM just bombarded the SM about me so much that she did this. But it felt like I was being bullied into resigning - less paperwork. I feel that their mind is made up, but to me it is completely inhumane to hit an employee with so much, even to tell them to stop saying that they are grateful. I asked her how I could be written up if the customers seemed happy and made no report. I reminded her that I am gay and I did not say my AM made my heart warm, my return to Hollister did.

I could use any and all advice. I feel contacting HR is a waste - an employee making 11$ an hour is better to dispose of than a manager (no i do not want to be a manager nor was that my intent). But I felt bullied, and I felt it was a cancel-culture tactic that made me look horrible. I am not looking for advice on revenge, I just felt mistreated, and bullied, and my heart hurts. “Justice”, is probably the improper term - but I want to do something because I am wise enough to know that they will fire me or continue to scold me until I resign.

Do I contact HR? Are there laws about this? And is this a new tactic managers use to push employees out? Instead of the paperwork to fire someone, back them into a corner, amplify everything and break them into quitting? If-so, that is absolutely despicable and I’ve never seen it before. Most I’ve seen is a manager cutting hours to an employee they don’t much like - not psychologically breaking them down like what happened today. I felt accused of making a child uncomfortable, sexually harassing my manager, so many things were misinterpreted and it’s heart-wrenching. There may be homophobia involved, my age was mentioned a lot, she may just simply not like me, I don’t know - which is why I’m here today. Sorry for the paragraphs, I am looking for advice. The workforce seems so different now and cancel-culture is a big problem. Thank you in advance, everyone!

So my boss is in her early 60s. I'm in my early 50s. We normally joke and break into song during the day--the laugh so hard you cry type of thing.

So when anyone else comes around, coworkers, other supervisors--who ever--and I happen to start joking, or singing she makes a comment to embarrass me.

Just today, for example, I was at the copy machine just quietly singing to myself, minding my own business, and she walks up with another supervisor that NEITHER of us joke with and says to him, about me, "When she gets like this, I just let her go."

So, I tried (INSTEAD OF IGNORING HER like I should) to defend myself. I said, "You don't have to explain me."

She wouldn't let up, and said, "I CAN'T explain you, that's why I just let you go."

And her and this other supervisor have their laugh at my expense.

This shit happens waaay too much. Please be kind, and give me some advice, guys.

I have a co-worker A who's been with the company 6-7 years and 5 years longer than me and another co-worker B. Co-worker B and I joined the company at around the same time as new addition to the group.

Here's the problem and I will describe this with a list of provable facts, not opinions or judgements. My hope is for others to see these as facts and tell me how you would react to these facts

1. This person refuses to share anything with respect to what he does, refuse to show others how he's done things in the past, refuse to invite new people to shadow so they can learn from him
2. 3 months into this job, this person tells me I should apply to another job in the company
3. This person tells me he reads 1 paper a day and knows a lot about a software product when he doesn't even know how to install it on his computer
4. 9 months into this job, he would join a meeting at our request with me and co-worker B and first thing he says will be "I am not going to include you in my project". '
5. I would be asked by our marketing team to build certain things and this guy would tell me I shouldn't do it even though it had nothing to do with him
6. 18 months into this job, I went to this person to ask him if I could have his permission to act as a "marketing and business development guy" to help expand our business impact and he straight up told me he doesn't think we should be doing the things I've been doing for the company and therefore I shouldn't be allowed anywhere near him.

I hope you can see these as real facts because they are truly real facts.

what I want to see in this post is if people can tell me how you would respond to this. I've told this to my manager and he knows but he's not doing much about it.

I have fairly recently started a job at a pub in a front of house roll and i havent worked this kind of job before and havent really worked a part time job before. The boss has made a competition by randomly splitting team members into 2 groups and whichever group gets the most 5 star reviews over the next month gets a gift card for a meal that the losing team has to serve.

The way that its framed is a compeitition between coworkers where the winning team gets to punish the losing team.

A boss forcing coworkers to compete and then punish eachother to me feels deeply wrong even though the punishment isnt very strong.

I assume this kind of thing is common in these jobs, i assume most people dont have a problem with this. I assume i am weird for thinking like this and believeing this is my boss making me punish my coworkers or them punishing me and that this feels deeply wrong.

Is there anything i can or should do with little risk of negitive consequence?