r/Workproblems

I (18M) have recently started working for a retail clothing store. My job is to make sure that the section I am assigned to for the day is kept tidy and help customers when needed. I've only worked here for almost 3 weeks and am still pretty new to all of their tidying standards as I've only been doing the tidying stuff for about a week and a half now (all I did before this was put clothes from the fitting rooms back on the shelves and some back of house things like online orders) I know I'm no expert for keeping things tidy as my room is almost always a little bit messy but all I've been told is to make sure it doesn't look like a hurricane just passed through the isles and so I do that and maybe it isn't like a top notch job where everything is folded to the exact dimensions and is evenly spaced out but it at least looks appealing to customers.

I've had this same thing happen on multiple occasions where I need to tidy like 20 different tables or shelves of clothes, and so I do, making sure it doesn't look like a hurricane just went through. Once I'm done, sometimes a customer will mess up a shelf, and I won't notice since I've gone to the fitting rooms to put things away for about 10 minutes, then one of my managers will notice and get mad at me saying I never tidied anything and they will point at the table or shelf that a customer messed up a little and then I will say that I did clean them and that a customer just messed it up a little. I will then always fix the messed-up pieces of clothing and get back to what I was doing before (they also dont show me what it should look like since when they did the one time all the manager told me to do was to make sure it just looks appealing to customers and doesnt look like a hurricanewent through and then showed me a pile that was a little messed up but she said that the pile was good). This next part happened on my most recent shift where one of my managers saw a messed-up table and kinda raised her voice at me, saying that I never tidied the table when I did. This made me embarrassed as we had a fair amount of customers around at this time. later, in my shift, around an hour after this happened, I ran into the same manager who was with one of my other co-workers. i dont remember what was said before this since im still a little shocked it happened, but my manager just flat out said to me that she thinks I'm dumb and an idiot sometimes. My co-worker reacted by covering their mouth and turning around in shock.

Ive started looking at other job opportunities now since then.

If anyone has anything to say, it will be greatly appreciated .

So I work in a hotel and our front desk is open 24/7. My shift is 3-11 there is someone who comes in after me and is here from 11pm-7am we get along fine we aren't besties but we talk a lot about books we are reading and have funny moments between us. The morning person and I have issues we don't like each other point blank we talk when needed but we don't joke with each other it is very professional between us. Sorry Im babbling I know but just so you guys get the whole story. There is a commision based car service we use on a google doc. Its on the car services name but we can't see whom at the front desk is making changes. But you can see time stamps

Today he sends a email to my self, the Gm, and the AGM stating that I changed the name on the google form to my name and I'm stealing money and he already reached out to HR.

Now I got screen shots proving what time these changes were made. I have sent out an email to the Am shift, My gm, my Agm and To him proving this fact that they were changed at 6:20 AM. Im not even here at that time.

My other coworker says I should reach out to the overnight person to be like WTF, but should I leave it for the managers to deal with?

Edit- I have also reached out to Hr about the Am agent constant harassment this isn't the first thime he accused me of this and making the work a hostile work place

So I started this job in May. Its at a local grocery, whole foods type place. I was originally hired to be a deli clerk. You know, the guy where if you see a potato salad behind glass and you want it, I'm the guy who serves it, weighs it, and puts a silly little sticker on it so the cashier can scan it.

About a week after I started, they wanted to know if I wanted to do prep. I was like "sure I've done lots of prep no problem." Well, someone quit recently, so they're now switching me to just prep, and then hiring a new deli clerk. Well the moment they decided that, my manager went on vacation. While she was on vacation, people kept getting sick, and I kept having to cover for the deli. Most of the time I would show up for a prep shift, then in the middle of the shift they would switch me back to deli. Meanwhile, I've barely been trained or had any practice on the stuff I need to do in prep.

Then, my manager comes back... She told me "well you've done prep for a month so now I expect you to be able to do things just as fast as everyone else." Literally right before she went on vacation, she told me not to worry about how long things take.

Most things I haven't been trained on, and many of the things I have been trained on, Ive only done once. Not to mention every time I get trained on something, someone else will say the way I did it (the way I was literally just trained) was wrong.

This week, my manager pulled me aside and said something on the lines of "you aren't doing things fast enough and it's putting stress on the rest of the team." To me that sounds like "you're being a burden on everyone else." Then she proceeds to basically nitpick every single task I do, all week. Every time she sees me she just stares and waits for me to do something she can criticize.

Its making me feel like if I don't go fast enough, she might fire me, which hardly seems fair. I've had a handful of prep shifts before they threw me in, expecting me to be able to do it fast.

I've done lots of food prep jobs, and many of them have sucked, but at the very least they didn't expect me to know how to do things with telepathy. I don't care how I do it, but everywhere wants it done different. Some places use tomato slicers, some places slice by hand. Everywhere is different, and every machine is different. I still have to be shown what to do, even if I have experience.

On top of this, I'm pregnant and I'm fucking dying. My stamina is at an all time low and I was unable to take my adhd medications until this week.

I just... Feel like she's being unreasonable. And it makes me feel like shit. I really don't want to go to work, but I have to.

I'm just so burnt out and I'm in so much pain. I don't know if she's just being a bitch or actually threatening me. They're so understaffed that firing me would probably be a really stupid idea.

I just... Needed somewhere to vent. I keep going over it in my head and getting so mad.

So i am working as a junior quality engineer, and my quality manager quit a week guy, really great, taught me a lot of things, great boss, strict but fair.

So its a contruction project and now our team is 2 senior engineers and me ,

This one dude doesnt really work a lot, just warms his seat up, never goes to site, doesnt do any work, The project manager told him to take more responsibiltity until the new manager joins in 2 weeks basically take over some of the managers work load, but it just me and the other engineer who split it and this dude decides to start micro managing me asking for logs of every work i do every 20 mins to show it to the PM and he doesnt understand the logs and me explaining it to him is like talking to a rock.

He doesnt know shit nor does he do anything.

I tried talking to the PM about this, but he shook me off saying learn to work in a team.

I could barely do my own tasks and i guess i didnt do anything today coz he kept disturbing me and not letting me work. He has taken over the managers office and has started to introduce himself as a manager to subcontracters, even though he isnt.

This has been happening for 2 days and i already want to beat his ass.

What can i do? Do i just file a complaint? Or just scold him? I dont want to lose my job coz i am a fresher, its my first job its been 6 months and office politics is too much for me and it is a really good firm.

I've been working as a dishwasher for about a month and a little over a week. In my and my boss's opinions, I have been doing pretty well. I have understood the layout and work fast. Last night when I walked in for my shift, I met this new guy standing at the dishwashing station. I don't even remember his name because of how much I was multitasking the whole time. Apparently he isn't a new hire. He is returning since it's summer. But he basically is a new hire.

He said he worked 8 nights before. It must have been a long time ago because he barely retained anything. I assumed I was just getting some extra help since we had to deep clean that night. Nope. He is clueless. Once I got the memo I went into teacher mode, but holy shit. He doesn't listen. I sound like an old man, but I kind of understand when people say that teenagers are lazy. (We are only five years apart in age).

I started monitoring how he does things. He moves incredibly slowly. He's overly cautious about the dishes and equipment. He's not asking any questions. And it's like he's scared of the dish hose. Don't get me wrong, I was like that too when I started. But I also understood that we could have a rush at any moment. It was luckily a slow day, but I would have been fuming if I had to keep telling him to do things when he was going at a turtle's pace.

Ok for context i am 24 male and i work for my brother detailimg cars and other car stuff i am the manager of all the employees my brother cannot keep employees but i live in the shop so im in a predictament he wants to charge me $500 a month to live in the shop it is not livable and he does not own it he rents it he complains about me not working everyday but i almost never get paid on time he says because im the manager i have to deal with that and he withholds checks if i dont work everyday while my coworkers get paid but i have to wait almost a month even though i do most of the work he only complains when i dont work everyday i am his best worker hes ever had we dont have any type of contract so im not sure what my rights are i domt have a 10-99 or w-2 im pretty sure im getting payed under the table but he says that he pays me through cash app so its up to me to do all that so im not sure he also changed my pay from $20 a hour to $16 because i wasnt there everyday without my knowledge then only said something whwn i brought it up and i will admit i missed a goodamount of time i had a kidney stone and had a drinking problem and i use to struggle to work everyday but ive done way better now im not sure if im in the wrong or not another thing is we use a lot of corrosive chemicals and acid and have no gloves my friend tells me i can get him in trouble for making me pay rent in a place he dont own and not zoned for living im just not sure what to do i really just wanna get out of here but im waiting until i pay off a truck if you have questions just ask

I'm a 20yr old woman. I'm at the university studying and right now I have found a temporary office job. It's the third time in my life that im working and the first one working in an office. I have a lot of pressure to learn everything there is in less than 2 weeks. Right now im in day 5 of working. There's is a lot of times that the person who teaches me the job isn't helping me and let's me do tasks that I've seen her do 2-3 times before all while the work environment is extremely stressful. All my coworkers are 10+ years older than me. Some workers that I'll be supervising are older than me. Almost like my father's age.

I'm extremely emotional and I cry when im frustrated, when someone tries to teach me something but I don't understand...I want to cry so hard.

ANY TIPS ON THAT PLEASE! I NEED SOMETHING TO STOP ITT.

I work at a fast food restaurant, and something happened on shift that didn’t sit right with me. 

For my entire shift, I was stationed on drive-thru order taking (where customers place their orders and then pay). I would argue this is one of the most critical station especially during a busy rush.   

Keep in mind that I wasn’t assigned to front counter or the dining room at any point during my shift by the manager.

Towards the end of my shift, a team member (not a manager or shift supervisor, just someone who’s been working there longer than me) came up to me and told me to go clean the dining room. Look, normally I wouldn’t think much of it. Because it is a usual part of my routine WHEN I am assigned to front counter, HOWEVER I wasn’t.

What made it feel even stranger was that they told me while the manager in charge was preoccupied, so it wasn’t like they were passing on the manager’s instructions. Even if that had been the case, the manager would usually just tell me themselves.

This also isn’t the first time. This same team member has previously told me to go clean the dining room when I was stationed at front counter, so it’s starting to feel like they’re just telling me to because it’s me. Don’t know if they have a vendetta against or what, but it is really odd to me. 

To be clear, my issue isn’t with cleaning the dining room. If a manager had asked me, I would’ve just done it without thinking twice. What bothered me was another crew member directing me to do a task when they aren't a manager. It felt like they went out of their way to give me something to do just for the sake of giving me an order. It came across as a bit of a power play, and I really didn’t like that.

I have worked at quite a few other places and almost always the manager is the one who tells you to go clean dining room and sweep or whatever else concerning the dining room. Not a team member.

And if you wanted to know, I did go clean the dining room lmao, begrudgingly.

At my work, it's me (the senior accountant), the new secretary "Liz", two bosses and that's it. It's hard to get Liz to pull her weight. One of my bosses has also noticed this. Liz won't even get up and refill the copy paper. The rest of us put in a solid day. One day Liz said to me "They make you do everything around here. Do you think they pay you enough?" She meant me personally. What would you say to such a comment? I feel if she would do her job, that would make it easier on everyone. Should I put her to work or what?

I was sent on a three-day work trip with a coworker that involved two six-hour drives together and long workdays.

During the drives, he constantly talked, sang songs, switched into exaggerated high-pitched voices, and then he would look over at me after doing it as though he was waiting for a reaction. He also regularly brought up stories about his mother, often recreating conversations or quoting her in different voices.

At one point he kept getting my attention by bumping my arm. It happened 5 times during one drive before he noticed I was flinching. He asked, “You don’t like when I do this?” I said, “Yeah, I don’t like it.” He laughed for like 15 solid seconds but, to his credit, he didn’t do it again.

He’s also been talking about retiring ever since I’ve known him. He regularly jokes that I’ll be doing his job next year, introduces me as the person who’ll replace him, and somehow works retirement into conversations almost daily.
(For context: I asked my manager who would replace him if he actually retired because he talks about it so much. My manager laughed and said he’d apparently been saying he was going to retire for years, never actually does, and that if he ever did retire they’d simply hire someone else. So the whole “you’re replacing me” thing seems to be entirely his own narrative.)

After one particularly long workday, I decided to have dinner alone in my hotel room. The next day he said things like, “You probably wanted to get away from me,” and “I bet you’re happy you don’t have to be in the car with me anymore.”

He also knew I’d previously been run over in an accident and still made jokes about getting run over or crashing the car.

After the trip, he started messaging me updates like his Instagram follower count (“Only x amount of followers until retirement”), what projects he’d worked on that day, instructions he’d received from other coworkers about projects I wasn’t involved in, comments about hearing birds outside, animals in his backyard, the weather… (All this during work hours…I understand small talk but this might be a little too much?)

By the end of three days, I felt more mentally exhausted from the nonstop interaction than from the actual work.

Have you ever experience an employer delaying salary as a power trip? It's illegal to withhold payment but some employers still do. If you report them on WRC, how long will take for them to pay you?

Currently in a pickle. MOST LIKELY due to comfortability and feeling of betrayal.

Ive been working where I am for 3 years. Great people. I came in for accounting asst. Due to my work history I quickly went up. Whatever my boss threw my way I quickly learned it and owned it.

Whole office and I have bonded. We buy eachother lunch when the boss is out on Wednesdays. We'll make food and share. Birthdays and little celebration go noticed.

The boss has even given me a bowling ball. This place has given me so many opportunities to expand my knowledge.

I currently work about 3 minutes away from where I live now.

The new position would be 15 minutes.

Sound great why would you leave?!

Just like anyone else. I am feeling overwhelmed and underpaid.

I put in a resume for another asst. Role, Paying $2 more.

An ex coworker was the one who put that ad up.

He put in a good word , I did the interview and they really liked me. Checked off all, if not most of their check list.

I never heard back from them till the old co worker called and said they are butt hurt from me not reaching out.

If all goes well and I show why Im a good fit I can go up an extra $3. Total of a $5 raise.

My boss is really fond of me. Literally praises me for everything I do right. Good man. Its possible he may match but this is where the bertayal comes in. Hes done alot for me. Given me this opportunities to advance. Hes told me. Whatever you need to do your job. Ask and I wont deny it. Its a mix of all that and the bond we all have built that is making it hard to work. I understand im getting a form of graduation goggles. Literally the job is mine if I want it. Im a perfect fit the way I run things.

I am gonna talk to my boss on Monday on how far I can go w the company, physically and financially.

I just dont know how to say it without feeling like im in the wrong.

Can yall knock some sense into me? Lay out options I could possibly make.

The company that I work in had a birthday celebration of an employee. The cake arrived by morning and by the time we cut the cake it was by 3 pm and unfortunately the cake had melted considerably.

The COO walked in for birthday celebrations and after seeing the cake, he questioned if the cake was kept next to that employee cause she’s hot. I find it particularly inappropriate, unethical and unprofessional. He’s the boss who is much older than her and not a friend of that employee. Should this be addressed/escalated. Could this be a POSH issue?

Thoughts pls

Looking for some advice on this one: I have a creepy coworker (M) who is very clingy to another coworker (F). I’d like to report M coworker to HR for harassment. My F coworker came up to me the other day and described that all day he’s been by her side and won’t get off her back. She’s brought this up to me a few times and I listen. I do see that when she’s sitting by herself or even with a group during break he slides right up and makes himself at home. She’s also complained about how he talks to her. He’s very condescending while she’s training him. He has a certain air of superiority to others. He has friends in other departments so that’s his in.

This guy has a significant other and imposed on my coworker that she and his wife/fiance/gf whatever connect and start texting. There’s no reason for a new hire to have their partner text a new coworker and start to get friendly. There hasn’t been a situation for either parties significant others to meet yet. It’s only been a few weeks since he’s started. My F coworker made a mistake by agreeing to it, but I think she’s coming around to realizing the can of worms that’s now open. I think his gf has problems too, texting my coworker about this and that and starting plans to hang out together. I sense my coworker is looking for a way out but doesn’t want to create a weird work situation. It’s a mess from my perspective for sure. This sends me major creep vibes.

As he’s a new trainee I advised him on something he ought not to do that I saw him doing, attempted to redirect the behavior, and he snapped at me. I’m only 4 months into the job myself so I get it. I’m not even a trainer. What the fuck do I know? I told him he can make whatever decision he wanted should he know best. After 20 seconds of him processing what I said he finally adjusted the behavior and later apologized. WOW. What a shocker. He then kept excusing the behavior over being frustrated on the job task. I think we’ve all been there being frustrated with something at work and that it’s fine to be frustrated, but reminded him to keep emotions in check.

So on top of what I overhear, observe in person, and what I actually have encountered with this guy, I don’t like him one bit. I get along with most people, but that was it. My next move is to get a hold of my TL and escalate. I’d like to have a chat with this M coworker and tell him to back off. I’ll plan something with my TL. Is there anything else I ought to do? Any recommendations?

I have a manager whose made the workplace uncomfortable to be in. In all my past reviews communication has been listed as the only problem. I do my job very well, but my boss complains that I have an attitude and don't communicate well. We've been doing weekly meetings lately, we're i shared my thoughts and concerns.

A few issues I have with her are:

when I have a questions I usually need to clarify it in multiple ways for her to get it. I've gotten in trouble before because she said one thing and later on it wasn't correct and it was seen as my fault. Its like she answers without hearing what I'm saying.

I feel that she analyzes me. I don't say or do anything rude. So at our past meeting I had her clarify what she meant by my attitude. She was very vague but after making her clarify it more and more, it was chalked down to my " face changes and the energy changes." Which is the reason she tells higher ups I have communication issues?

I get the feeling she thinks she needs to establish dominance? I don't know if this is because of past employees she had, but she is always clarifying that she's the manager. Which I've never contested. And due to this I cant send messages to other departments without her getting paranoid or offended. So ive just started cc'ing her in everything.

Needless to say all these factors have made working under her uncomfortable because I guess if my face changes she sees it as an offense to her?

I like what I do, and I get along nicely with everyone else in the company.

I'm also the only one who works directly with her/under her, so her side of the story is the only one higher ups get.

I just don't feel like its my responsibility to regulate her emotions or her with mine. And I'm not sure what to do about it because when I bring up my concerns she got very defensive and either denied doing those things or got very condensending.

She has trouble taking accountability in my opinion.

Basically I just want her to be like a basic boss that just cares if I get shit done, but i feels she hovering over me reading any sign in my face, for whatever reason.

If there's a corporate way of saying "can you get off my ass and stop being a werido" I would certainly like to hear it.

I had a crush on a guy from office and we used to chat daily. He helped me a lot during difficult times. Gradually I started getting emotionally attached to him. I was texting him every day. I used to overthink if he didn’t reply. Then he stopped replying and answering my calls. I was so anxious and worried.

Then one day he removed me from seeing his display picture. I was devastated. I wanted his attention and wanted him to know that I was in pain.

I don’t know what happened to me. I called HR and told her that my father was serious. Later I said that he had passed away.

As soon as I said it, I regretted it. I realised I had made a huge mistake.

After that, everyone came to know. Colleagues came to my house. I had to continue the lie because I didn’t know how to tell the truth.

Every day I felt guilty.

I know what I did was wrong. My father is alive and I lied about his death.

I don’t know why I did this. I feel ashamed of myself.

I never wanted any leave or any financial benefit. I only wanted attention.

Now I feel trapped because everyone believes it.

I feel guilty every single day.

I know I have done something terrible.

I don’t deserve forgiveness but I want to correct my mistake.

I don’t want to continue this lie anymore.

Please tell me what to do.

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So i work at a warehouse and 3 months ago they hired me as a part time worker and they were calling me as a full time employee 40 hours a week i ask my supervisor to change my job to full time so i could have benefits but they just completely ignored me every time so i went to HR and explained them whole situation after my conversation with HR they convinced me to that they will help me get full time position but after 2 days my supervisor came to me and told me from now on i will work only 3 days 24 hours at a point i think i am getting bullied by them because i went and have a conversation with HR and right after that i mail HR about this situation so i don’t know what should i do may i quit and look for new job

A lady came in with her son. Older lady. When she was being seated she told the hostess (who is same ethnicity as the server) I don’t want that (proceeds to call her a racial slur) waiting on me.” Then also says, “I only want a (certain color) person to wait on me.” I ended up with this lady. But didn’t know all this was said until after I got her order. I refused to wait on her after that. So the store manager finished the table for me and told me to go above and beyond if she needs something. I told him I would NOT be waiting on her at all. I also told him how disappointing it was he allowed her to stay after finding out what she said about his staff. She also complained about the food had it sent back multiple times. Complained about the quantity of ice in her drink. Want special treatment. He gave it to her. Am I wrong for refusing to server her? Would you have asked her to leave if you were the manager? The audacity of that woman was unbelievab

Hi! I really really need an advice on how to work with people i hate! For context, we are still training but I really really hate this coworker of mine. It started with a simple “off vibe” until I started to notice things I hate about her. she thinks she's better than anyone of us in our team just cause she has experience but she has this false persona that she's "helpful" so my team actually likes her.

The hate grew that she starts to affect my mood and my social skills. I REALLY NEED HELP I DO NOT WANT TO BE LIKE THIS.