1 year after
It has been one year since I ended a 4 year relationship with my ex who had PMDD. I didn’t realize how bad her mental health issues were impacting my life and health until she left.
During our relationship I gained close to 80 pounds and developed heart palpitations that felt more like mini heart attacks. Since the breakup, I’m down about 45 pounds now and haven’t had a single heart palpitation since 7/2025.
I follow this thread and see a lot of guys worried about whether or not ending their relationship is a good choice - if your situation is anything like what I’m describing below, you need to leave before it ruins your life.
My ex was aware she had PMDD, but justified her behavior by saying she “feels things differently”. She would only go to a doctor or therapist after realizing how horribly she had been treating me, and then would quit after one or two appointments.
I spent those 4 years afraid of her, not in love. She took every opportunity to beat me down and make me feel worthless. Everything I did invoked some sort of strong emotional reaction, and it got to the point where I didn’t tell her anything anymore and stayed away from the house as much as possible.
One Saturday towards the end of our relationship she calls me crying and angry because my Labrador Retriever wanted to keep playing catch with her instead of going inside (my dog is the sweetest creature on the planet). It was at that point I realized this will never end, and I’m not raising kids with (or marrying) a woman this horrible.
I very was afraid to breakup with her because I didn’t know how bad she’d try and punish me. It wasn’t as bad as I expected it to be, and I only got sad about it once. I could go on for days explaining all of the awful things about being with someone like that, but I’m sure you all get the point.
There are some really awesome women out there who will actually make your life better, not worse.