u/1Daydreamerd

A few weeks ago, I was seen in an urgent care following being physically assaulted as well as in an car accident. When I was triaged the nurse took vitals, and asked what I was there for. I explained the entire story from start to finish. I was out at an event with a friend she got too intoxicated caused a scene. I drove us home (in her vehicle had to take her keys) while driving I explained to this friend that her behavior was out of line. She became aggravated asking me to pull the car over. From there I was physically assaulted. Following the assault I stood outside of the car where I was pushed inside and the “friend” took off driving with me NOW in the passenger. She began speeding and crashed us. In which I believe was done on purpose. The triage nurse wrote this down in her clinical notes. Now when I saw the actual doctor he came in the room and said I read everything that happened wow that’s crazy you don’t have to explain, but what is your main complaint or what’s bothering you. I informed him that during that crash I hit my head which I’m experiencing headaches. IN the clinical notes the doctor wrote I didn’t remember any details due to being intoxicated and I wasn’t in a motor vehicle crash MVC. I was never intoxicated. I never reiterated all of the details because he said I didn’t have to explain he read everything so in my mind he didn’t want the drawn out story he just wanted to treat me asap and move on. So I’m confused on why he wrote what I assume is his opinion in my clinical notes? Why does he have the right to write what he assumes? I’m disgusted.

I stumbled upon this thread by simply typing in “someone accusing you of doing stuff you aren’t doing.” This is where the rabbit hole began. For 5 years I have been facing a world wind or a shit storm rollercoaster of chaos that has affected me. The instability of it all. Never knowing what’s gonna happen next with this person. What trigger will set off tantrums and accusations and so much drama. I’ve learned terms for the things I’ve been dealing with like hoovering and splitting. I’m honestly struggling and most likely in need of therapy for myself to recover. But he’s undiagnosed however almost every post I’ve read fits the description. It’s like or am I crazy ? Because this type of person will have you questioning your own sanity. I’ve been accused of all types of things cheating, changing my outfits to another outfit, I took 2 minutes to answer the door for them in a 2nd floor apartment so I must’ve had another man go out the window. Ive been sitting next to them and they’ll accuse me of something im literally not doing and they believe themselves and get so angry and mad. So much off the wall shit that I’ve almost lost track of it or my memory has been affected by this shit. I’ve experienced having a good time then he splits and all hell breaks loose for nothing whatsoever. And lastly I’ve been discarded on and off and on and off again. If I don’t say something a certain way I’m blocked discarded. Once I said I think I wanna go to Walmart I didn’t use the correct wording according to him so I was trying to be sneaky and cheat so I’m discarded. I don’t believe that he can feel emotions at all like he doesn’t have empathy for others he’s fake he’s hiding and I make him uncomfortable because I will call him on bullshit and when I do he runs away and I’m discarded. There’s hoovering where I have been sucked in multiple times hence the 5 years. And this is all before I ever got here in this thread. I just realized that whatever this was deeper than me and I had no one to talk to about it with because I feel ashamed that I’m allowing someone to mentally abuse me like this.