threatened to kick us out
my (23F) little brother’s (21M) birthday was last week. we didn’t celebrate on the actual date (everyone had conflicting schedules), but my mom threw him a small dinner with some family friends.
the whole summer, he’s been either working or staying home and preparing for his upcoming semester. [he’s in nursing school, about to enter his most difficult semester.]
knowing his friends were busy, they had planned a small friends-only dinner for tonight. plan was to grab food and drinks. these plans were made weeks before his actual birthday.
our dad (who we have many problems with) bought a last-minute ticket to the philippines. we all found out yesterday, and his flight is tonight (a little after midnight). our mom’s super against him leaving for the philippines because (1) he does this constantly enough, (2) never tells us his plans until right before he needs to leave, (3) doesn’t invite us, etc. so i know she’s upset with him. not to mention, whenever our dad does this, she never wants to be in the car to drop him off. she always says she doesn’t care if he has to take an uber to get to the airport.
15 mins into the dinner celebration, i get a call from
our mom. she’s asking us where we are (she knows where we are, she has our phone locations) and if we can come home so we can drop off our dad. mind you, dinner just started at 7:30pm. it was only 7:45, and she wanted us home. when we reminded her that this event was long planned ahead, she threatened to kick us out of the house, became very passive aggressive on the phone, etc.
we ended up leaving dinner early, had to change dinner plans, leave our friends for almost an hour. it was horrible. on the way to the airport, our dad even called our mom out for inconveniencing everyone just because she wanted us kids to be there to drive him to the airport.
i think she acted very immature. this entire summer (especially) we’ve been doing everything she wants, appeasing her. but the one time we want to celebrate her own son’s birthday with his friends, she gets mad at us because she expects us to drop our plans and be where she needs us to be.
tl;dr: dad had a flight that conflicted with plans that were made a few weeks ago. when we tried to get out of driving dad to airport, mom threatened to kick us out of the house.